My boyfriend insecure with his body and his cock size, BUT HE HAS ABS AND 6 INCH COCK?

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so i was started dating this guy 2 weeks ago, we met each other in college here in the US, he has blue eyes and wearing a glasses, he is cute but he is a NERD, PRUDE and a VIRGIN, our relationship just kissing and cuddling, BUT i want more intimate and more spicy, i decide want to took his virginity, im not a VIRGIN i had 2 relationship before him, which none of em last long, so i went to his apart to met him, he spend his LIFE playing DUTY COLD WAR (whatever is that game is) on his console with his fellow nerd friend group, i really want to turn him on, i sit on his lap facing him and start kiss him, immediately he drop his controller and kiss me too, im trying to undress my top (i wasn't wearing a bra), when my top is off, he close his eyes, trying not to see my TITS (i was like WTF) he so inconnent, then i whisper his ears i said"hun its okay, im ur girlfriend and u are mine),
i can feel his c0ck when hard and his heart beating so fast, he open his eyes and i lead his hand grab my tits and slap it (OMG ITS SO CLOSE) then his friend talk on his voice chat and ask why did he AFK, my boyfriend took back his controller and gently push me away to stop making out (his friend RUIN this moment LOL)2-4 days later he went to my house to MET me, he text me before he come, i wear my LINGERIE, second ATTEMPT to fck him, he went searching where i was, and he find me in room (BED), i try to give him code (DIRTY LOOK) he just standing and staring at me akwardly say "HI"(WTF), he went to bed with me and start cuddling and then fall asleep on my lap (i know shouldn't do this) extremely CURIOUS i undress his top, OMG he has ABS?, then gropping his c0ck and pull his trousers, he was erected, when i saw it, OMG his c0ck so long and thick, i start do HJ, he wake up and mad at me, MY QUESTION is why he doesn't want to have sex with me? is he insecure? am i overwhelming him? any tips to date a NERD guy? i was raised in lithuania sry for bad grammar

PoliteSpeaker · Accepted Answer

TMDR. Poor self image. In order to change this, you must go about it in they same way you create a habit or change a habit. For beliefs are nothing but habits. Self image is but a habit in the way we view ourselves. Repetition of opposing forces will change it. He must see himself the way he wishes to see himself and make that a habit so much so that he comes to believe it. And this will happen if the repetition is often and frequent enough. By my own experience and the logic and experience of people far smarter than I, I tell you all of this.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

Have you actually tried talking to him about this rather than forcing it? Imagine if you were the virgin and he was doing this to you, how would you feel about it. Not all guys are desperate to loose their virginity. I'm not having a go just trying to get you to see it from his point of view. He might be insecure about this stuff if he has no experience, you just need to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel and see how he feels about it. Maybe he is the type of person that wants to wait for marriage.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Being a virgin, he may just be nervous. I wouldn’t push him too much and let him do it at his own pace.

I am sure that there is nothing wrong with you at all. I get it. You have experience and are like “let’s get this going”. He has none and might be very nervous his first time. It is natural.

MCheetah · Answer

Six inches isn't very good for a penis. Most women I've met wouldn't want such a small dick. And abs are kind of irrelevant; most women just say "as long as he isn't fat."

So he has a small-ish dick and no one cares about abs. He probably doesn't want to have sex with you because you're rushing him and going too fast with it. Also, maybe he doesn't find you physically attractive.

Hangry06 · Answer

He's NERVOUS woman. Reassure him

PhxBB13 · Answer

Well he has an average size cock maybe just reassure him. Sometimes it’s the guy and he’s just in his head. I get reassured all the time because my dick is only 4 inches. Most the time girls can’t feel me much inside at all. So it makes for an insecure moment every time for me!

Browneye57 · Answer

Way way too much text.  He's just a boy. Eventually he'll grow up fully into a man. :)

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Find new dick. Problem solved.

worldscolide · Answer

It's probably because he heard from most women that unless he had more than 6 figures in the bank, isn't at least 6 foot 5, and at least 10 inches long no woman would be interested in him.

Thing is those women that talk like that are trash. The fact that he is with you should be a huge confidence boost for him. Have you tried talking to him about it?

Andres77 · Answer

First, if a guy undressed a girl and played with her genitalia... that's sexual assault. If he's the kind of guy that's hesitant then he also might report that.

You're trying to trick or coerce him into this. Don't. He'll be resentful. Talk to him about it. Be upfront and talk about it. Be clear on what he wants. If he doesn't want sex now then you just have to accept it. Either wait for him to change his mind or say goodbye and move on.

Good luck.

I_am_a_smart_human · Answer

He’s nervous. Don’t jump to sex immediately. Let him start giving you more oral. Make him comfortable. Then he will start fucking you.

Wise4myage · Answer

He probably watches too much porn, lol.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

You’re dealing with a boy with zero confidence and terrible self esteem. If you’re fine with 6 inches, that’s all that matters.

IncognitoBandito · Answer

You have to break him from his obsessive gaming

noohair · Answer

Maybe he is confused about his sexuality. I would have been all over you, But I was young when there was no internet and no " social media". I would have exhausted you.

FreeOhSeven · Answer

Have you considered he might value his virginity and could be waiting for marriage? He might be old fashioned. Or maybe he just wants a woman to take charge, not wanting to fuck you isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Maybe he just wants to wait till you have a deeper relationship and know each other a bit better. Maybe he wants more than a physical connection…maybe you should ask him!