My boyfriend cheated on me with a femboy and keeps looking at femboy porn?

I know the title sound extreme but hear me out. Back in July i found out my boyfriend was texting and sharing images with a femboy. We almost did end it all after that but when i found out it happened because my boyfriend was being self destructive because of severe depression and suicidal thoughts (which he's had before) i wanted you give him another chance. Since then every time i Borrow his stuff to do something, i see some form of femboy porn pop up. In the start i confronted him about it because it made me feel very insecure, but confronting him only mads him try to hide it more but it still pops up on Reddit, Gmail and more. I truly love him and it would break my heart to ever lose him but i don't know what to do cuz it seems to me like no matter what i do I'll never be good enough.
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  • Why would it break your heart to lose someone who doesn't care enough to talk about it. It appears he knows what he wants and your just the object around him for him to feel normal and appear that way to others for his own insecurities. Its one thing if he's still engaging you the way one should with a partner, but that dont siund the case. If he was that interested to including you and trying some with a femboy thats different but thats something you need to decide... you can't let his depression and thoughts control you. Yes we help people in our lives with that shit, using it to control anothers actions. Nope you have you to worry about and if he does thats he shows no concern for you at. Stop and think what it is you expect when being in a relationship, what are you suppsoed to put in, what do you expect back, what selfless acts to perform that shows they care about you? If your not getting what your expecting in a relationship, then why are you in it? Dude sound toxic. You shouldn't "need" to be in a relationship to feel good, not commit suicide, to be happy, for anything, if you can't be happy by yourself, you need help to show you how... by having the need of a relationship your hurting yourself by letting their presence control your feeligns

    • Thank you i get i left a lot about our relationship out. Generally he treats me amazingly. He listens to me and communicated with me about everything and he's so supportive. It's not that he threatens to kill himself if i break up with him he's never done that but i get it sounds like it that's my bad. We're generally very happy and have been able to move past the cheating and it's why i get confused when we're not physically together He'll secretly lool at femboys cuz were both openly bisexual.

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  • Uh, your boyfriend is gay. His bouts of depression are probably related to the fact he hasn't dealt with this fact in any meaningful way yet.
    The person who is going to get hurt is you. He's not going to stop, he likes effeminate men, he's gay. You can confront him about it if you want to or just leave him but either way, the difficult to hear news is this relationship is over either way. You can postpone the agony and live in denial or rip the bandaid off and just break it off.
    He needs to deal with his issues and you need to get on with life and find somebody who is not gay and is into you.
    You are very young still and entering your prime years. Don't waste them on a gay guy who ultimately will rather be with a man.
    I know it hurts when you are young and it hurts really bad because you feel so deeply, but I don't see this ending well. Don't worry, you grow more cynical with age, so it doesn't hurt as bad in the future. But for now, let him go. Let him figure out his homosexuality and you go on with your life and find somebody who wouldn't rather be with somebody else.

    • No he's not gay he's bisexual which I've always known im bisexual too. He's very much attracted to females yoo

    • No dear, that's not how it works. Bisexual men are gay first and willing to experiment with women, but they like men more. Women are more willing to experiment with same sex, sex and can still prefer men to women. The more important thing is that your boyfriend may be okay with you, but he prefers men. He will always prefer men and nothing you do will change that.

    • That's really not how sexuality works. If you're gay you're gay I'd you're bi you're bi. Not the "gay first then bi". Sexuality just doesn't work like that

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  • your boyfriend cheated on you and you’re still with him? leave him literally as soon as physically possible, i’m not joking even a little bit.

  • He cheated on you once, he’s probably still doing it. You should leave him.

    • That's the thing I really don't think he is. He generally beats himself up about the fact that he cheated on me and i can see the clear signs that's he's changing but it's like he just can't let that one thing go but I've noticed a clear pattern that the days where he looks at it he gets more depressed than other days and it confuses me

    • You really seem to be in denial.

    • Maybe i am... Thing is he's always looked down on cheating and seen men who cheat as absolute scum. It's a first time thing and he's never ever done it before in his life and i know me and him were going through a lot during the time he cheated. I do believe that he wouldn't cheat on me again. What confuses me is the femboy porn

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  • He cheated on you.
    why are you still with him,
    It really does not matter his sexuality, his attraction etc.
    he cheated on you, that’s it.
    move on.

  • Is it possible his depression stems from denial that maybe his sexual orientation isn't what he is portraying outwardly? He is obviously seeking out porn and encounters secretly so he doesn't actually have to admit to him not being straight.

  • Sounds like he’s exploring some stuff honestly just try being supportive and be there for him I’m sure that it’s not an easy thing for him to delve into have a frfr conversation with him about what he wants

    • It's just hard to be supportive when it makes me feel bad. I'm an insecure person and a lot of those guys have a body i long for (just as a female) which is very sad to actually write out

    • That’s fair I don’t condone cheating obviously but as long as he loves you still then you shouldn’t feel bad

  • Femboy is a fetish that some men are into. If you understand how fetishes work, it's usually some type of aberration that turns you on greater than other things. In that sense, it could be like an addiction for him. You should confront him about it and see if he has a problem. If he's not willing to admit or work on it then you should probably move on.

  • Your boyfriend is in self-destruct mode. He is out to burn bridges. I don't think there is way to stop him. I Think it will take a train head shrinker to fix him

  • Wow... you really know how to pick 'em.

  • Get rid of him ASAP

  • Time to make him an ex boyfriend.

  • he's gay.

  • He has a kink it doesn't mean he doesn't like you

    • I honestly think Kinks are very different from what this is. I've always known my boyfriend was bi, and so am I. But with the cheating that happened I've felt that maybe he isn't as attracted to me as i thought since he seeks out pictures of feminine men way more than he does me

  • This is a certified bruh moment

  • What if he's just looking at femboy porn and wanking his Weiner to it and not actually screwing around with one. Wouldn't that be better?

  • He sounds a lot like me so I think depression is the real issue your good one for still believing in him the girl I was with was extremely abusive and treated me like sht I was convinced I needed her because I had no one else i thought if I made her happy she would stop mistreating me eventually she left me told me no one will want me and to kill myself and that was what pretty much gaslighted my second suicide attempt unfortunately I did not die but I never received treatment for my depression I spend most days sleep isolated drinking smoking and putting cigarettes out on my body until I eventually succeed at killing myself again you sound like you care about him and if you do you’ll help him beat his depression

    • I'm really sorry to hear you went through this stuff. my relationship with my boyfriend was very bumpy in the start and I'll say pretty toxic. I've been dealing with untreated bipolar and ADHD (cuz we didn't know I had it before this year) and it's caused a lot of breakdown that was unnecessary on my part. Every day i generally see how he's tearing himself down about what happened and i see how hard he works to change for the better but it's like he just can't let go of some of it. Thank you for telling me your story. It truly breaks my heart that there are women like that out there

  • The may I ask why is he still your boyfriend

    • Cuz i can generally see how much he hates himself and beats himself up about the cheating and it's clear to me every day that he works really hard to better himself and make sure that I'm happy but for some reason that little part he just can't let go.

    • Seems you'll never be enough for him no matter how hard you both try. So I'd suggest it's time to move on before you really get hurt. by the way good luck and best wishes for the future

  • It's basically like a normal cheating, it sucks. I would say to just dump him but if he has mental issues you might wanna support him? Like saving a life is more important than the fact he cheated on you, he still deserves to live