Is it ok for a grown man to be a virgin?

[MzAsh]

[InventorofWarp]

I'm a virgin and I'm 24.
Last time I checked I was still a man.
Though I'm told I soon approach early Wizard status.
I don't really feel any less of a man. If anything I have these two "friends", one's a moron who doesn't really know anything and feels the need to constantly tell me about his sexual contacts and I'm aware he gave one of his exes an STD and had sex with a woman with a boyfriend. He and my other friend consistently talk about how big their dicks are and how many women they fuck. There a few hilarious points to this:
One of them constantly tells me how handsome and gorgeous I am and wants me going to bars with him all the time to get him laid, he's absolutely terrible at talking to women and the ones he has sex with I've met are not quality women in the slightest and are usually plastered or getting off work from a club.
The other one I CONSTANTLY have everyone (including his exes) asking me if he's gay due to his weirdly smooth Justin Bieberish appearance coupled with his tiny stature and also does not end up with what I'd consider a quality woman. Case in point, many of his are unemployed and spent what they do have on extravagant items.

Meanwhile I'm a 6'8 heavily tattooed musician/small-time model and workout regularly and find that my many hobbies and talents keep me happy, busy and, most importantly, confident and secure. More so than these "men" because I've never felt the need to seek validation about my penis size and I'm happy to still be able to give my woman the best gift I can give her: Me. All of me, my innocence and integrity and all.

[pleasestopthis]

Are you staying virgin by choice, like waiting for a worthy partner to do it? I'm curious

[InventorofWarp]

@pleasestopthis Absolutely. I knew I wanted to be a husband when I was 9 and told myself I'd wait for my girl. I remember reading the quote by Plato for the first time "soulmates are one soul in two bodies separated at birth" and thinking how beautiful that is that I want to find mine. True that I was FAR from popular in school and girls weren't exactly lining up to be with me and I had really bad social skills from that in my late teens-early 20s but I also found myself easily befriending people in their 30s-40s since I was a teenager and I've had plenty of women offer me casual sex, including pornstars in Montreal and other models in Toronto. I can't even wrap my head around the concept of casual sex and how someone could do it and I have zero interest in being with someone who doesn't want to get to know me, like me or want to be with me. I want to be able to give my woman the most possible which includes my own sense of moral (and sexual) integrity and innocence and have her never have to question my loyalty. And I've never cheated on or with anyone. It does kind of suck insofar as most women I meet see my physique, size and tattoos and instantly seem to assume I'm just some easy lay or something and that doesn't feel great but, at least one woman will get to know she's the one who got me and knows everything about me and gets my purity ring. I have a few other surprises for her one day.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, the reason there are so many grown men that are still virgins is because you girls aren't doing your part to by letting us "do your part"!! If you'd fuck us back in high school, when we most want it, like you're supposed to, there wouldn't BE any grown men that are still virgins!! We can't lose our virginity without you!! EVERYBODY'S a virgin at SOME point and it's up YOU GIRLS to see to it that we don't STAY virgins!! You all bitch and complain about how you WON'T fuck a grown man that's still a virgin!! Well, how do you think we GOT that way? It's YOUR fault for not fucking us when we were younger!! And, how would you like it if WE said WE don't want to fuck a virgin? There are more grown virgins out there than ever before and it's up to YOU to put a stop to it!! Your country needs you more than ever before so, get out there and fuck a virgin for your country, for the WORLD!! Remember, the only good virgin is a fucked virgin!! So, while supplies last, any time you fuck a virgin, report it to #IFUCKEDAVIRGIN and you'll get a free "I fucked a virgin and I liked it!!" button!! If you fuck 2 virgins, you'll get an "I fucked a virgin and I liked it!!" bumper sticker!! If you fuck 5 virgins, you'll get an "I fucked a virgin and I liked it!!" t-shirt!! If you fuck 10 virgins you'll get an "I fucked a virgin and I liked it!!" flag that you can proudly fly on the front of your house to let EVERYONE know that at least YOU did your patriotic duty to save the country!! Nay, THE WORLD!!! AND, if you fuck at least 20 virgins, you'll get a free "Only virgins allowed to enter here!!" tattoo across the top of your pussy!! So, HURRY!! Get out there and fuck a virgin while they're still available!! The more of them that get fucked, the fewer there'll be to go around!! Don't let those other girls beat you to it and make you the shame of your entire family!! GO GET `EM, GIRLS!!! CHHAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGE!!

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Absolutely. It is okay for anyone to be a virgin, and they don't need to explain themselves to anyone, as it is nobody's business but their own. I personally hate the culture surrounding virginity that makes it seem as if people's identities and self worth should be wrapped up in their virginity status, and as if being a virgin or not automatically makes someone better or more desirable than anyone else. Absolutely anyone can have sex if they're desperate enough and know where to look, it is not a special achievement. Simply having experienced something or not has absolutely no bearing on the quality of a person, and I think it's rather childish to think it does.

I also really dislike the double standard that virgin men are losers and promiscuous men are celebrated, while virgin women are celebrated and promiscuous women are seen as gross. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin regardless of age, sex, etc., and there's also nothing wrong with NOT being a virgin.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin regardless of age. Say, you think at your age you shouldn't be a virgin, then you seek a partner just because you want to no longer be a virgin and stick your dick in crazy or an ill person, wouldn't you regret not taking your time like you have always done? There is no need to rush, when you find the right person it would be worth it.

[smokeyshaman]

Of course it is! Man or woman infact. There are plenty of a-sexual people in the world and they are perfectly valid

[GoldenAxer]

It's okay to be a 48-year old virgin priest with a vow of chastity for all I care but not okay to act all sexually weird and start molesting altar boys. So I think it depends on how well they can keep things in their pants as increasingly old virgins and behave in a productive way in society. I see one who's starting to act like a social deviant who is a virgin and I do start to think virginity might be a part of their problem. But I see one acting very normal and productively and I don't mind if they're 60-years old.

[GoldenAxer]

Kind of like male prisoners. They are deprived of sex. And if they don't respond by raping other prisoners, no problem. But if they are inclined to do so, big problem.

[GoldenAxer]

Here in Japan, we have problems with sexual molesters like those on the train (we call chikan) and peeping toms like guys who get under sewer drain to look up women's skirts. And they're practically all grown men who are virgins. So I kind of distrust grown men who are virgins, but not if they show me that they can function in a very healthy and civilized way around people. But I distrust the weirdo virgin types.

[GoldenAxer]

... I don't think they would be such weirdos if they had healthy sex life.

[t-8900]

Orthodox priests at least have the right to marriage and sex. Probably why you don't hear as much about pedophilia from them

[GoldenAxer]

@t-8900 I suspected that at least in my ruder opinion. Well, this is one of my ruder opinions in general but I think sometimes guys, not girls as much, who go for long periods of time without experiencing sex can become social deviants. That is not to say all are, and far from it. I see a man who abstains from sex and seems to have healthy relationships with men and women and I find no fault in his virginity. But I see one who is a virgin saying the most perverted things to me in private and acting all weird around people and I think they're like a junkie suffering severe withdrawal symptoms... although maybe it's so much sex as intimacy. I don't know.

[GoldenAxer]

* [...] it's [not] so much sex as intimacy [...]

[GoldenAxer]

@t-8900 I had this one acquaintance though. He's married now and all normal now. But back in my mid-20s, he was so weird! He was older than me in his early 30s and his idea of making moves on a girl is barely talking to her while trying to rest his head on her shoulder or even lap saying, "I'm so lonely. Can you comfort me?" only for the girls to push him away and say, "Get off of me!" And his social media profile (Mixi -- Japanese version) read like, "I love Star Wars and I'm the loneliest guy on the planet." And beyond, that, we would hang out sometimes together with mutual friends and he'd shout to me, "Please teach me nampa [how to catch girls]!" And I'm like, "WTF? This guy is socially clueless." And maybe I'm confusing the chicken for the egg. Maybe it wasn't that he was so weird because he was a virgin, but a virgin because he was so socially weird. But actually, he finally got a girlfriend... FINALLY! And it's like all of us who knew him were able to breathe a sigh of relief. And actually he became reasonably normal after that, no longer sexually harassing women left and right and being like, "I'm so lonely, I'm so lonely."

[t-8900]

@goldenaxer a sexless life isn't normal, messes with the mind. men can think clearly and rationally of they actually get sex. Otherwise you get Elliot Rogers

[GoldenAxer]

@t-8900 I suspect that's at least true of some, if not most, men. And it's why I don't trust like a 30-year old virgin that much unless he displays a particularly healthy way of interacting socially.

[talover]

Is it okay for a grown man to... (insert topic matter)?

Is it okay for a grown man to wear pajamas to bed? Yes.

Is it okay for a grown man to like frosted flakes? Yes.

Is it okay for a grown man to pick his nose? Yes, and he can eat if he wishes.

Is it okay for a grown man to remain single? Yes.

Is it okay for a grown man to marry? Yes.

Is it okay for a grown man to not want kids? Yes.

Is it okay for a grown man to remain a player? Yes.

And, is it okay for a grown man to be a virgin? I think you know the answer to this. Yes!

A grown man has the freedom to choose what he wants without anyone's approval. Men, like women, are autonomous and free willed.

[pillingsadness]

Actually breaks my heart when someone is too scared to say they're a virgin in fear of being judged, it's bullshit.

[DizzyDesii]

i think its attractive if he's 30 and under. Anything over that is just surprising unless he's waiting til marriage.

[wtf636]

Everyone will say it doesn’t matter. But it does. Especially if you are not religious.

[katiesmuff]

Sure it is OK, might be a bit odd but still OK

[loves2learn]

Of course it’s ok. Why would it not be ok? Certainly doesn’t make him worthy of being made fun of. Maybe it’s a religious or moral choice. Maybe he still is looking for the right one.

[exitseven]

Why are there two of these?

[layfaraway]

Ya and there are guys that like to masturbate but hate sex or can not like both.

[loves2learn]

Like I said…. magic

https://youtu.be/451m6-oil94

[loves2learn]

Of course it’s ok. Why would it not be ok? Certainly doesn’t make him worthy of being made fun of. Maybe it’s a religious or moral choice. Maybe he still is looking for the right one.

[exitseven]

Why are there two of these? Inquiring minds want to know.

[loves2learn]

Lmao *magic*

[loves2learn]

https://youtu.be/451m6-oil94

[Lliam]

I guess it's okay. Who am I to judge. But I think it's pretty freaking weird. I would wonder what his hang up is - mental problems, religion, asexuality, ?

[ZDoes]

It's not healthy. Emotionally or mentally. And begs that one ask the question why? Is it by choice? Or circumstances? The visceral drive to reproduce is ubiquitous, to not have it is in itself a deviation from the norm.
Ultimately though if by choice , I would want to know why. Spiritual? Religious? Or even a rationalization to answer for lack of select ability which allows the individual to accept that very fact. It's an interesting question nonetheless.
The only circumstance under which that I would say it's wrong is if it is a choice made by a gay man who having been inappropriately influenced by religion denies himself because it's sinful. A masochistic choice made based upon a falsehood encouraged by an authority.

[TheorionMage]

And so ENDS Nature's purpose for HIS existence...
his genetic heritage, ... EONS of advantageous incidental evolutionary mutation
dies out THERE; unless he's a sperm donor.

What purpose to the encoding of knowledge & life experience's 'wisdom'
if it not to be passed on through biology or codified erudition to the NEXT generation?

Functionally, the SAME a being one of THOUSANDS of ejaculated spermatozoa
that DON'T get to fertilize the Ovum~
"Thank you for playing, WHY did you cum? "

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah not a problem, not everyone rushes it, some need to meet that certain person.

also you also have those who may be gay living in a culture or country who are homophobic.

[hahahmm]

Yes, since being a man is not determined by whether you are or are not a virgin.

[snowboarder720]

A grown man can do whatever he feels comfortable with and not give a shit what others think.
As long as he’s comfortable with himself that’s what really matters.

[devilman666]

Yes, but not in society's eyes.

[Funnygirl1500]

Yes it is. I'm a virgin too and I hope to lose it to another virgin.

[staint091]

Same here so we (my future girlfriend) can loose it together

[Funnygirl1500]

@staint091 that's my dream. What have you done with a girl so far?

[staint091]

Nothing I haven’t even got a girlfriend yet. What about you?

[Funnygirl1500]

@staint091 most everything except actual dick inside my pussy sex. I've sucked off guys and had a lot of cum in my mouth and on my body.

[ohshee]

I don't think if there's anything wrong with anybody had any age being a virgin it's their choice it's their willpower is there straight and you're much better person than me because there's no way I could do it

[ohshee]

It's their strength not straight

[Assi2k]

That’s the kind of man I’m looking for

[pppppkk]

it’s okay for anyone to be a virgin