How can a man protect himself against a woman lying about birth control?

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This a huge problem as so, so, many women "accidentally" get pregnant in effort to trap a man. The consequences of having a child with a bad woman are significant and life long. Should we be fucking "bad" women, no but it often takes awhile before women show their true colors.

The immediate response is for people to say "abstinence", true, but let's face it, we want to fuck. The other is to "use a condom". If you any sexual experience without a condom you realize how awful using a condom is for the man and how it almost makes a man not to want to bother with sex at all. Even with a condom there are cases where the female "sperm jacks" him by scooping his sperm out of the condom and inserts it into her vagina... shazaam, hello daddy.

While not 100 percent here is a method men can use to greatly limit the "accidental" pregnancy with a girl and it offers some protection. My suggestion for a young sexually active man is to first get a sperm home test.: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=sperm+test and see where you are "before". Get a baseline on your sperm count and activity. Second: try the below "heat" method (I am sure a common heating pad would work just as well while you are watching TV or gaming), than test your sperm again to see if you have killed off the little buggers.

No one has any sympathy for a man who was tricked into pregnancy so you have to protect yourself, even if you are using condoms.

https://www.dontcookyourballs.com/heat-based-contraception-natural-birth-control-for-men/

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Another good question... That challenges us and makes us think.
First I want to say the only time anyone should engage in unprotected sex is when they are in an exclusive relationship and only after they both attended each other's physical medical exam and they both were present when the doctor read the results of their exams. This protects you from people claiming they saw a doctor and from falsifying any results.
Now moving on to preventing pregnancy. You are right @krakenattackin it is the responsibility of both to prevent pregnancy especially if one or both clearly state they do not want children. So for those in exclusive relationship and do not want to use a condom I recommend spermicide. Now make sure you use the spermicide before any penatration. And if you're into oral do this only before penatration not after spermicide has been set because let me tell you from experience 🤢🤮 it's nasty if it accidentally gets in your mouth 🤣.
Now spermicide is a good choice even if you aren't riding it bare especially if you are a man worried a woman might steal a condom full of sperm or if you are a woman worried a man might sneak the condom off. A man can use the spermicide inside the condom itself and a woman can put the spermicide directly inside herself.
Now be aware if you are in a situation where you are with a coy lover (male or female) who is determined to cause pregnancy they might claim to be allergic to it (or they might actually be allergic to it). So in this case use a condom. Women facing men who claim they are allergic to the spermicide can put it directly inside them and then use a male or female condom to keep the spermicide from making contact with the man's skin. A man wanting to use spermicide with a lady who claims she can't can do the same thing place it inside a male condom or inside a female condom.
Now if your don't have spermicide with you obviously use a condom. Now what if you come across a hookup who claims they're allergic to condoms? well whether you're male or female you should always carry a female condom which are latex free. (Side note A bonus to female condoms if you're really into safe sex female condoms are safe to use for anal sex).
Now let's step away from the safe sex or the spermicide for one moment and talk about something that many may thinks as extreme. It's actually somewhat radical. And I think it would be more for couples who are seeing each other casually than those who are exclusive or just hook ups (though I guess it could be done under any circumstances) Let's talk about writing a contract. (Notarizing could be an option) If pregnancy bothers a person that badly (and this is Particular for those men who absolutely don't want children) they can come up with a contract stating that the individual has made it very clear they do not want to have children and is taking every measure to prevent it but if by any chance a pregnancy does occur than the pregnancy is to be considered as a donation of sperm. The man would be forfeiting All rights to the child and will not be held accountable for raising or maintaining the child. Basically it would be like signing a donor contract but with some changed wordings. This is extreme. The man wouldn't have to pay child support but he also wouldn't have a say in the child's life. The woman would have full custody. Now some may be thinking You're insane but I can guarantee you there will be those thinking now why didn't I think of that.
Regardless preventing unwanted pregnancies is serious. And both genders have been guilty of purposely tampering with birth control in order to create pregnancy. So it is definitely a subject worth discussing.

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

While I'm not sure, just by lack of research on this topic on my end and most likely on scientists ends, how prevalent this actually is, I doubt it is as bad as you make it sound to be here.

That being said, I agree that it happening even once is too many times. That's not healthy for anyone, but most specifically the child who is now a pawn in this lie.

I will also say, this is such a weird situation you find yourself in, isn't it?

You are advocating to say that even though there is a chance all of this MAY happen, the idea of a condom or abstinence won't work for you because pleasure comes first. On the other hand, I've ALSO seen from your side that if women don't want to end up pregnant they should keep their legs closed. I need to do a double take for that double standard.

I've also seen that women should make their guys wear condoms which again you are rallying against here. So if the man is not going to take any real precautions other than how to protect his wallet you then leave the decisions up to the woman. Now a woman currently has a choice to abortion, but you want to take that away too. If she chooses to have it we are back to the argument that she trapped him for a relationship/money

Soooo... the million dollar question (and not one of child support)

If men aren't going to want to use birth control, but they still want to have sex and a woman is supposedly out to trap him, how does anyone safely have sex without resulting in a child?

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

I think what you’re saying is very accurate and it’s a question I wish man young men would ask. Sadly, often no man has bothered to explain the realities of having a child with a bad woman. The “immaculate conception” excuse is nothing new. I’ve read and heard many cases of women claiming they were the 1 person out of a zillion that could get pregnant on the pill…. yeah right. If taken daily, correctly it’s nearly fail proof. Nearly fail proof enough that maybe only 4 women might be able to tell that line of BS as opposed to the thousands who claim they were the statistical anomaly. I’ve had many girlfriends to include my current wife over the years who were on the pill. Believe me. I dumped many, many loads inside them, not once did any of them get preggers. I never had unprotected sex with someone I wasn’t in a long term relationship with. Had many one night stands with condoms.

To answer the question there are probably only 3 ways I know of to avoid this.

1. Abstinence. You mentioned this. The Bible would advise this until marriage. The problem is as you stated “we want to fuck.” For this reason I cannot see this as a realistic life time option.

2. Vasectomy. After the operation is done and enough loads have been shot through the urethra to clear any lingering sperm cells this is fail proof. The trick is you gotta not want kids and be adamant about it or at least be done with having kids. This won’t protect you from STD’s but will protect you from an unwanted pregnancy 100%.

3. This is the last option which will sadly be the only option. A condom that came from your possession and your possession alone. This way you know it doesn’t have pin holes in it. Said condom must be immediately flushed afterwards. This method is highly reliable. Especially when used with spermicidal lube. The only draw back is…let’s face it, condoms suck…but they suck way less than 18 years of child support and an unremovable psycho from you life. They also require discipline…as in using them in that method every time without exception.

What I did in my youth was to use a condom that came from my possession and flush it immediately after. I NEVER had unprotected sex with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with and in almost every case didn’t have unprotected sex until several months had passed. I also only had serious relationships with girls who did not want kids as I wanted to be married but did not want kids and that was a major criteria for me. I understand that’s not a realistic for most guys as they want kids but I didn’t and wouldn’t be with anyone long term who did. I’m now 44 and never even had a scare let alone an unwanted child.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

I hit it raw but put a condom on to nut in the pussy. Or i pull out and shoot it in her mouth or somewhere else. And used condoms i take to the bathroom and rinse them out in the sink before throwing away. I've been lied to a few times about this stuff in the past. No issues since i been doing it this way.

Mandycandy42 · Answer

In this case you DON'T have "reproductive power". Not really anything he can do except do the obvious. He is already consenting to the possibility of becoming a father no matter what he does especially for the scenarios you mentioned concerning "sperm jacking" as soon as you ejaculate you have no control unless you are there with her 100 percent after the fact or take the condom and dispose of it yourself, if you'Re being reckless and careless there's a chance you WILL become a daddy at some point and you have to evaluate how your life will change and what kind of relationship you will have with the woman and your child

PikNik77 · Answer

What an interesting question… I’m gonna answer this as honestly as possible so just hang with me. First off… be picky!! If we are honest with ourselves, we generally know in a very short period of time what kind of person someone is. Now obviously if your pursuits are mostly geared towards sex only, this step won’t seem as important, but in regards to not being trapped by pregnancy, it is the MOST important! Second, take a bit more time than normal to get to know someone. What could it hurt, honestly, and you may be pleasantly surprised. Third, dude, you’re 42, if you are done having/don’t want any kids, get a vasectomy. BOOM! Problem solved! If you’re undecided, get a vasectomy anyway and store your little buggers. 😜 All that said, we women can be evil, devious creatures, I’ll not deny that, and women who try to trap men with a pregnancy are foul beings. My take is, spend a bit more time getting to know someone first, pay attention to what your GUT tells you, not what your Master John Goodfellow says, and if you really want to close that door and never worry about it again, go get your sack re-wired!

KrisPW · Answer

Wear a condom, use a spermicide, get a vasectomy. All are in a man's control although that last one is probably over the top. I've heard about the men's "pill" for several years "coming soon", but it never seems to make it to market.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

There are definite advantages to dating post-menopausal women!

Flower7 · Answer

Condoms are his best bet. Even though they are uncomfortable, I would think it would be worth the lower sensations to avoid being a dad before he's ready.

hahahmm · Answer

Just never believe them when they say they're on the pill. Always assume you have to control where your seed goes. Also beware women who fish used condoms out of the trash. The judge will still make you pay child support even if she admits to stealing your sperm.

spookiebxch · Answer

Not sure why you’re freaked out…no one wants your sperm…or dick lol Go ahead, retort with something misogynistic and sexist.

spartan55 · Answer

In my case I had a vasectomy, so my case shouldn't probably apply here.

Aurora1010 · Answer

By wearing a condom

normalice · Answer

Vasectomy or just pull out.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Dude, face it. . . wearing a condom is just awful for you. And if you can't trust that your woman won't scoop your sperm out of your condom, maybe you have the wrong woman. I mean, dude. . . give it up.

Just turn gay.

You make these posts like other men can relate to your life. We can't. I don't mess around with women I can't trust. And if you so desperate that you are dating skanks, blame yourself. Date women of a higher class. Besides, you could get a vasectomy or use an actual male contraceptive. But you don't. You just come here and whine like you are some kind of victim.

"I can do nothing but have sex without a condom, with questionable women".

TruthBringer · Answer

I believe you already got the majority of the answers. Well the productive ones from the men side at least is what I've noticed. So indeed, just compromise with a condom but be extremely cautious about where you ditch em, I would just put them in an extra bag and keep them with me or put them in my jacket. Not somewhere where she can just fish them out of the trashcan or something as soon as she is out of my sight.

Other than that, a vasectomy is a better deal and if you happen to be dating someone, let her insert an IUD (like mine did) or get a birthcontrol shot. I believe that the majority of the problem is solved by making sure the person you're with is not THAT type of woman. But then again this wouldn't apply to one night stands so I would say be extremely protective over the used condom or simply a vasectomy should do.

With a pull out, it's best to finish on a tissue or whatever and wrap that tissue in another tissue and then put it in your pants or jacket. I could afford a spermstained jacket, but not getting birth trapped by a problematic woman.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Well if you can't see her take it, I suggest you protect your interests and bag it up.

cloudspy · Answer

If it freaks you out so much and you can't trust any woman you are with don't have penatrative vaginal sex.

slatyb · Answer

He can wear a condom. That seems pretty obvious.

TessCasie · Answer

Emergency contraceptive pills I trust more than birth control pills.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Either get a vasectomy or wear a condom.

Hangry06 · Answer

Only have sex with women who you think are worth mothering up Or only have sex if you know you can afford a baby

rcljr · Answer

Get a vasectomy in secret, tell NOBODY, when she hits you with the “ I’m pregnant” routine, you hit her with the “ you’re a cheating whore” routine. Shuts em up real fucking fast.

Browneye57 · Answer

Properly vetting her always worked for me. I just never had a girl that lied about that - if they weren't ready for a child they were on top of BC.

Getting a vasectomy was the best thing that ever happened to my sex life. :)

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