Maybe for a 24 year old, but a 16 year old is waaaaay too young. This is statutory rape we are talking about. Having enough wherewithal and ability to make basic adult decisions like paying rent, drinking alcohol and the like is the most bare minimum prerequisite one could ask for before attempting to "gain wisdom" in that way.
@224466881010 Here, we must remember NOT to project the societal prejudicial 'norms' as of a 3rd party judgement upon what IS at least initially, a PRIVATE 'negotiation' between just TWO ageless Sentiences, presently controlling engendered 'meat suits' of differing physical maturity through which they experience and express their choices. I reference the real world case of Lina Medina of Peru in 1958, impregnated at 4 years 7 months of age who despite intense interrogation steadfastly REFUSED to identify her Lover. Her son, delivered by Caesarian section, was raised as her little brother. In those days and in that part of the world, forensic genetic DNA typing was FAR less available. Their societal observers are UNINVITED interlopers... imposing THEIR beliefs by threats of use of subsequent punitive sanctions from discovery. Hence, the overcast of the 'forbidden', ... the exciting 'naughtiness' of potential discovery~
No. Absolutely not ok. I'm just as interested in speculating and philosophizing the nature of the universe as you and I'm sorry, but you can't just abstract-away the fact that it's wrong to sexually interact with children and teenagers or chalk it up to just a completely arbitrary set of "societal prejudices" that aren't helpful here. There are very good reasons not to do so. Look at how much rationalization you had to go through to try to sweep the concept of "informed consent" under the rug.The huge objection and fear I have with your idea is that if you just say "we are all just abstract spiritual beings and age is just a construct" you make it ok to literally violate vulnerable people. Children and teens are fundamentally not fully aware of what is happening in reality and are often unable to defend themselves physically and against psychological/emotional manipulation and these events fuck up their minds sometimes for their whole life. And while we are at the "spiritual abstraction" game, wouldn't it then be justifiable to "free you from your earthly shackles" or "free you from your earthly possessions"? I have spoken to countless victims of sexual assaults in my lifetime and some of them have had severe negative impacts from those events even 60 years later. It took them that long to overcome their trauma. It's real and it causes enormous pain and suffering. There is also plenty of clinical and academic research to support this as well. It's not trivial. Not to mention that it's also physically dangerous. When teens and god-forbid children give birth, the health risks are substantially higher. Why can't people just fuck adults their age? Believing that children can give anything approximating consent in sexual interactions with fully developed adults is psychotic.
@TheorionMage Sorry to clue you in, but a girl who is 16 is not seen as capable of making decisions of consent by the law. In most cases she would need parental consent to get married.
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Why all the dislikes? I'm. speaking truth, like seriously, if a 16yrnold girl wants to date this man,, let her.. what harm will it do,Seriously, answer me that... A happy 16yr old girl dates this man... Who is that harming if she happy? Why is it a bad thing? Seriously answer me that... You can'tThis is why I hate humanity, everyone is a fucking dumbass below 90 iq retard except me... I see things clearly whilst everyone else is a brainwashed sheep retard... Fucking idiots... I wish every human died except me
-____-. Use your brains
Even their taste in music and friends would be different. It's ludicrous. It would be like a divorced guy marrying his step daughter.
Love the pink hair, lol.
And how do you exactly know if that's a dude with a fake pink account? You really think there are no pink trolls that really exist?
@Aiko_E_Lara A 16 year old girl and a 46 year old man is more of a guy question. IU don't think many 16 year old girls would be interested in a guy old enough to be her father.
Well if that's what you think, there are also cases where 16 year old girls asking because they don't know any better so they ask. I can also say most 46 year old guys know it's wrong so they don't have to ask. Really there's no way of knowing.
This is true. Until then it is statutory rape if sex occurs.
@Daniela1982 Exactly. I would even say PDA would be marginal before then.
Agreed. Totally fine tbh.
Well then maybe you wouldn't mind being hooked up with a 53 year old woman? That is the same 30 year age difference. That doesn't even take into account you would be committing statutory rape of a 16 year old girl.
Whatever gets me laid I don't really care.
If the girl is 16 it is more than being a sugar daddy.
You know it's illegal right? Anyone in his/her right mind will find it inappropriate
And that man would come off as a pedophile. It's not appropriate for a grown man to be in a relationship with a child. Looks like people on here don't have common sense
@Cherry234 The word "pedophile" has become as retarded and meaningless as the word "asshole." Get that through your thick skull.
@FýrdracaDócincel You're the one here who's thick, not me. You have zero common sense
Only a sick or crazy person thinks this is ok
@Cherry234 So I have no common sense because I'm not a stupid fuck who believes everything he's told? Right.
No you have no common sense bc you can’t see how this is wrong. A normal person understands how wrong this is
@Cherry234 There's nothing objective about the idea of right vs wrong.
They call them "chomo's" now. They get special cells in lockup. When they put them in G-pop, they have a tendency to get their A-popped, then then head gets popped. Sometimes they get they get 🍆removed at no charge.
@Shortman70 I'm terrified 🙄
If I was the father of this 16yr old, the difference between right and wrong, moral and immoral would be blurred to obscurity. Terrified is not one of the emotions he would be feeling. But I live in a place where things happen that are never seen or heard or discovered by humans. Just saying
@Shortman70 So.. aliens?
That would be like a 30 year old man having sex with a 1 year old.
Look it up
That's what I thought.
Exactly. Some people here don't seem to get it
I got a down vote by a molester.. 😑
Yeah those people will downvote other people for no reason or for not agreeing with what you say. I got downvoted before too
@Cherry234 Some humans scare the F out of me, on how they think.
@Paul09 me too
You're not dirty for that. You're not a minor so if you want to go out with that man you can. There's nothing wrong with that
Yeah there's nothing wrong with being attracted to an older man. But even at 22, acting on it is like a *warning, exercise caution* kind of zone. Depends on the nature of the relationship. Legality is not equal to morality, nor is it always even a good idea for you in particular even if it is both legal and moral.
@224466881010 yeah I'm not gonna pursue him because recently I found out he's married.. it's heartbreaking.
@Anon ok then. You definitely can't act on it. But if he wasn't married and you were both attracted to each other then you could go for him. Some people in couples have huge age gaps. It may not be common for people to be 16 or even 20 years apart but those couples do exist. But yeah don't have an affair with a married man
@Cherry234 yeah it's pointless and will ruin lives of many people involved. But to be honest, I cry and can't help imagining scenes where we are dating, holding hands, going out and kissing :( :( I also see him every other day due to work setting. What should I do?
As in what should I do to remove my feelings completely?
Could you find another job or transfer somewhere else? Or is there someone else you like that you could go out with? That's rough
So one thing is in the future try to keep your work and romantic life completely separated so that things like this don't compromise your ability to be of sound mind at the place you earn your livelihood at.As for dealing with it now, that's kinda tough but my process for that if it was too painful to just switch-off and continue my job would be to sit down with myself alone at home or somewhere private and explore my feelings and process/ exorcise them, and not get up until I'm mostly or completely over it. You probably feel sadness and other emotions. Try to sit still and almost meditate. Talk out loud to yourself if you have to like "ok what am I actually feeling right now? I'm feeling sad because I lost this opportunity with this guy. But did I actually lose anything? He was married in the first place, so it's more like I got my hopes up *sob a bit*... Etc." And try to intentionally process your emotions bit-by-bit in a conscious manner. Self care included. Cry it out. Let it happen. You might be able to get over your feelings much faster this way so that at least your livelihood isn't compromised.
Thank you so much guys, I'll try to avoid him as much as possible.