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Guys why you so silent during sex but get hurt ego if we're quiet too?

This guy I was with a while ago said that I was too loud but when I held my tongue he got frustrated and annoyed. Yet he himself rarely makes a sound during the whole thing. Like please do your thing but make sounds grunt, groan, moan, talk dirty to me (que music lol) but what about our egos I like pleasing my man and so do many other girls. I get it when we masturbate we're quiet, I am too I don't make a noise and if I do I whisper it.

But please don't have quiet sex I beg you.
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Superb Opinion

  • If its good we show it, if we moan its really good. It mean we like what you are doing and don't want you to change it. You could also ask him what he wants you to do to him. Explore his fantasies. You might wake the animal in him.

    I don't want a woman to fake a moan, I can feel her body tensing up and releasing, real moaning let's me know how, What she likes, and how fast I should go. If she fakes it it throws me off.
    You can tell what a woman wants if you just listen to her body, a sigh, a moan, a tickle, the sweat.
    My wife is and has always been a silent one, she feels bad if people hear her, But I bring it out nonetheless...

    • I'm a fairly quiet one, but I'm not silent I tend to sorta whisper gasp, talk dirty, encourage but I've been with a guy who was completely silent before during oral and like no movements at all and most guys I've been with are all quiet or pretty silent. And I've been with a couple vocal guys so it's like 🤷‍♀️😏

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well first off most of you woman really don't have to do as much if you wanted you could sit their and let him do all the work which is why we like to know that were doing good so we like for you to tell us. Of course some of us don't realize that you are like this to. You like to know that were feeling good as well

    • I've never understood this how can you just sit there, sure I mean there are some positions that I can't do much in but I love kissing/nibbling the shoulders and grabbing squeezing his ass, hair, shoulders and back. If not I try to do kenals and purposely squeeze him

Most Helpful Girl

  • Omg, right? Double standard lol fucking fragile egos

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  • I used to be quiet because I grew up masturbating in a small house. 😂

    I learned to get all my manly sounds out with time, but I needed a kind soul like you to make me notice that I was quiet.

  • I never had sex... in my life... I don't want my partner to be too loud but yeah... she kinda moan and make some noise so that it we both could be equally involved in Sex. 😅

  • I don't know how you can backtrack this. And what about in the future? Is her room right next to yours? If you have separation it will be harder to hear and maybe You could have music playing near her room so she hears that instead.

    • Backtrack it I don't know what you're on about 😬

    • Sorry. Wrong question.

    • No worries

  • most men don’t know how to express their pleasure. also sometimes we’re so focused on not cumin if your pussy is really good we could slip if we enjoy to much to early 😂 but they’ll eventually learn how to focus and still validate how great your pussy fills

  • I totally agree with you.. I am very vocal during sex and I want my partner to be equally as loud.

  • Because along with silence; many women don't even give physical feedback; there's literally NO reaction. Men do most of the work during sex.

  • Im definitely not silent unless I have to be... especially when I cum.

  • Be what makes you feel most comfortable. Him wanting you to be all loud and shit is just dumb. He should want you to be able to relax and enjoy yourself instead of laying there focusing on being loud to please his crushed little ego. I'm sorry but it sounds like to me he has self esteem issues and you might be better off getting the hell away from him.

  • Why do you base all men off your encounters with this one guy.

    • Because it's not just the one guy it's several guys and I've talked to my friends and many of their guys are like that too. Many porn videos are all portrayed with the guy being silent too

  • God you are cute.

    But we just don't have the same urge to make noise. Can't imagine why any self-respecting male would tell you to be quieter.

    • To be fair I don't really, well not the typical moaning noise and forget that banshee screech you hear on and fair bit of porn... maybe that's where guys get it from. But anyhow I tend to pant and breathe harder and sorta say cuss words along with dirty talk

  • I am pretty vocal during sex I talk dirty and use some moaning and grunting to know how good it feels and how hard I trying to make you cum. I love if she talks dirty and moaning and tells me how to pound her
    I don't get why people are quiet it's a time to let loose and let out your alter ego. I never curse but when I have sex I swear like a sailor because how good it feels.

  • I’m not exactly quiet and also don’t care if the girls are but it’s better loud. Lol

  • OI enjoy loud moaning in my ear

  • I think I tend to really concentrate a lot during sex and try to read the woman’s bodily responses to what I’m doing and that is the reason I am quiet.

  • I make sounds when I'm not the one doing the work. Having to excert yourself lessens the pleasure and it's important to control your breathing so you can't just grunt, moan and make all kinds of sounds without it affecting the work.

    So your guy is quiate? That just means he's busy making you feel good and so naturally he'd be frustrated if you were silent.

  • Each guy is different. I imagine the guy you are talking about finds it hot when you make nose during sex but isn't very concerned about your needs.

  • You have me mistaken. The neighbors have to remind me to keep it down.

  • Maybe he doesn’t have much experience?

  • Conditioning and I'm not quite I make a lot of noise

  • I don't necessarily moan or groan through having sex, yes I'm enjoying it, but I've never been a big vocal person during sex, I do give a good grunt at the end though when cumming lol 🤣

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