Is what I feel towards men considered sexual attraction?

Question

I find men good looking, I have so many celeb crushes. I know I want companionship and to date someone but at the same time, knowing that I have to have sex is kind of a turn off. I want to say if the guy was everything I wanted, I may consider being more sexual but it would concern me. I don’t masturbate, I haven’t had sex in years and am okay with that. I haven’t given a guy a blow job and dread it, it’s so gross. Yet again, maybe the right person would change that. When I see someone hot, maybe I fantasize about kissing them or dating them but sex specifically usually isn’t what comes to mind. I feel I’m overthinking this whole attraction thing.

sumayathemagi · Accepted Answer

From a biological point of view, in generally girls don't have sex drive as like men. Girls get horny but women's horniness is totally different than men horniness. When men feel instinctive urge, desire, craving for sex, sexual intimacy, oral sex, another women body it’s call men horniness. But women don't feel it. Women's horniness means **desire to orgasm**. The urge to have sex with men, desire, craving for sex, sexual intimacy, craving for men body is totally absent in their horniness. You can compare it to urge to pee. It's just a physical itch. But there is no mental, psychological urge, desire, craving for sex, sexual intimacy, men body. That's why you often see women are totally indifferent to sex, sexual intimacy because women can get horny but women don’t feel desire to have sex, craving for sex.

That's the difference between men horniness and women's horniness. Women often say they get horny often. But their horniness means nothing, it’s just acknowledging something itching. That’s it.
If you drink less water in the hot day you will get the same itch in your lower belly, that's why women can't recognise it.

Even you often see guys always check out women, stare at women, watch porn, see nude photos of women but women are totally disinterested in this chapter/section. It’s because women only lust after their husband, boyfriend or familiar person. You know this is a long term process.

Until women get their boyfriend, husband or a familiar person their brain don't even know there is such a thing like lust. I am saying, seeing random men whom they never met before does nothing for women, it’s like seeing shoes, bus, dolls etc. Totally indifferent glance. So, don't waste time to know the fiction that women lust after men body.
It’s just a fiction.

GoldenAxer · Accepted Answer

I'd still put a sexual root somewhere deep inside unless you can replace that with sex (gender?) that you don't want to have sex with or with ones who definitely don't want to have sex with you, like a homosexual man.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Have you every been in counselling?

MrCommodore · Answer

It sounds like you feel physical attraction, but can't get aroused at all. Have you ever felt aroused in your life?

DonkeyDan · Answer

Soind more like an emotional attraction rather than sexual attraction.

Almost10inch4funlol · Answer

are you or have you ever been on hormonal birth control that can cause this.

TurningGraves · Answer

Not per se..

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Without decent sex a relationship will likely fail.

2021biguy · Answer

Yes you're just over thinking it. You will like to have oral sex with the right person that does that to you too. It's not gross, it's erotic with someone that cares about you.