Why has my boyfriend stopped going down on me?

[Anonymous]

He said its because he doesn’t think to do it at the time. But we’ve been together for 6 years and he always did it without fail. Apart from when I was pregnant he said it looked disgusting so he wouldn’t do it. Then when I was skinny again and he did it non stop. Then we had another phase where he stopped and he told me “ I get off more to his hands so it’s pointless”. But that phase passed too.

But in an argument he told me he found my vagina so disgusting and ugly and looks diseased. He only stays hard by not thinking about it. But then took all of that back and said it was to bring my ego down. He’s gone down on me since.

But why is he going through this again? Because he really didn’t think to? But for 6 years always did and if he didn’t he would “have a reason not to”

[PatrickFusion]

I'm sorry that you're in this situation. Some guys really enjoy giving oral and they even do it more for themselves than the woman in some cases. Then there's other guys who aren't as into it and they don't find it appealing (Same with some women and oral) they just do it half heartedly and try to get it over with. Your boyfriend sounds like he may not find it appealing.

[Asker]

But he used to and was “addicted” to doing it to me at a point

[PatrickFusion]

That's interesting, yet during an argument he completely insulted your vagina to hurt you. He seems inconsistent and you really shouldn't put this on yourself then. It's his own issue.

[Asker]

That’s why I’m confused. Was he hating it but suffering it? Or does he just not care now and still thinks it’s fine

[PatrickFusion]

Maybe he doesn't know what he wants. He gets in the mood to lick pussy for a while and then he loses interest. The fact that he even said those hurtful things to you is an indication that he's a bit impulsive and unpredictable.

[Asker]

Do you think he meant those things? Does that play a role in him not wanting to do it?

[Asker]

It will be months of doing it all the time. Now is a stage of months of not doing it but occasionally doing it. He did it non stop for years. Then a few months of not doing it now back to not doing again consistently for a few months

[PatrickFusion]

I haven't seen your vagina to be able to understand this situation. I think it's a contradiction that he would give you oral regularly and then claim that he doesn't like it. Obviously he is a bit of an asshole and I don't know if he likes your vagina or not, but it's what you have. If he won't love it, then maybe there's somebody else who will treat you better.

[Asker]

I’ve requested to follow you

[Anonymous]

Does he put you down often? That's verbal abuse. But I would have a heart to heart with him about it. Only he can answer. Maybe he just doesn't really enjoy it in general and has "pretended" in the past? Or maybe child birth has changed that somehow for him? But only he can answer this for you. Also be sure to let him know how much you want and miss it!

[Anonymous]

Men are gay. They like sucking dick generally. That’s why you never see guys paying any attention to a girl’s vulva with their hands or their mouths in porn.

[Asker]

Honestly I believe you at this point. Amount of guys I’ve heard having gay sex when drunk etc...

[Asker]

My boyfriend this question is about also broke up with me to do it

[Opinion Owner]

Yea, he’s definitely gay.

[_manipulator_]

Obviously some persons gets bored of getting same taste n smell of same thing eveytime. In your case I think it's the same, only difference is here it's your vagina. Use some food items like icecream, choclate syrup, etc. on sides of your vagina to get different taste n smell with your vagina so he doesn't finds it ugly n also he will enjoy n u'll get your pleasure.

[VikingWarLord]

Do you smell FISHY

[andy530]

Sounds like he has other issues rather than not finding your vulva visually stimulating. Just my opinion

[Asker]

Is it even possible for a guy to not find a vagina visually stimulating

[andy530]

Yes it’s possible but if you’re in a relationship and you decide you no longer value your partners sexual satisfaction enough to “deal with” whatever you may or may not think about their vaginas physical appearance and this has changed it signals to me something else seems to be going on. The excuse of not finding the vulva attractive seems to me to be just that an excuse that’s hiding the real issue

[Asker]

But you don’t think he was telling the truth when he called it ugly etc today

[Asker]

Or is that what he’s been doing he’s never liked how it looked so he just put up with how it looked whilst hating how it looked for my pleasure

[Asker]

He’s made comments before like he wasn’t keen on it when we first met

[2021biguy]

It sounds like he's playing games with you, it's not your pussy, but make sure it's clean and doesn't smell. Also they sell flavored lubes to put on everyone's private parts to make it more fun. There's no way to tell if he likes the way it looks but most guys love the way any pussy looks.

[OnTheLevel]

Why are you with a guy that says your vag looks disgusting?

[LaMiSch]

I can't understand it personally. Perhaps he does not find vaginas generally attractive, such men should exist, have ever tried to have an anal lick?

[Anonymous]

He treats you like shit and doesn't deserve you. You vagina is perfect and he's playing mind games.

[Anonymous]

That’s not right. Any good man would do it regardless if they thought it was disgusting or not. I’m sure u go down on him whether he’s shaved or not.