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Should I feel guilty about wanting to have sex and if I do have it. Should I feel guilty?

I am a Muslim female (18) and my boyfriend is a Muslim male (also 18) we've known eachother for about two years but have been exclusive for 7 months. We've done pretty much everything but vaginal sex and this is pretty much because 1. We're scared of committing an ultimate son and 2. We don't want to get pregnant.

But the thing is. We are just super needy for eachother and we don't know if we can hold back. But we are also scared of the guit we may face after the act. We are very in love and plan on getting married in the future. (But after we complete university so very much down the line)
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  • You different times went I'm helping a friend and the other one was the girlfriend and she wanted to remain a virgin. And I mean I could get her to orgasm so fast without penetration you just by the tip of my tongue 4 setting her on top of me grabbing hold of her hips I'm pulling them forwards and backwards in slow motion I could get her to come so hard and there's so many different other ways that she would come just as hard. And I felt guilty for taking her there because she was the same way she wanted to have sex so bad and so did I but it's the same time. I wanted her to follow through with what her goal was I mean don't get me wrong give her a couple times while teasing her that I replace the head of my cock on her wet spot and I would put pressure as if I was going to go in and I mean sometimes she would move just right and it would start to go there were many times where I just wanted to keep going but I didn't and there were many times where she would be pissed off because I didn't. I need to be honest I did penetrate her a few times. But I would always back off

  • never feel guilty about doing something that is natural and healthy... just be safe

    • Thank you! This has really calmed me down :)

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  • If you think you’ll feel ridiculously guilty, then don’t do it. There’s other ways to be intimate with one another without penetration, like foreplay. At the end of the day though, protect your integrity and if you have sex then do it because you feel ready. Because even though you plan on marrying him in the future, unfortunately there’s no way to know with certainty that this will happen for sure, and I hope you don’t get offended by me saying that, it’s just facts. So you don’t want to lose your virginity thinking you’ll be together forever, only to feel disappointed in 6 years because you both have grown up, changed and ultimately don’t feel the same as you did at this very young age.

    • You have good point. Even the ones who say that they would die for you and kill for you leave you like nothing... even not hearing you for once, the ones who were talking about dying together at old age

    • I understand where you're coming from. But he's not like that at all. He is unlike any other guy I've met before and he respects all my boundaries. If I didn't want to have sex or any sexual relations he wouldn't give a fuck. All he wants is to be with me. Sexual or non sexual

    • @wntrwnd 100% agree. Like I felt all that for my boyfriend in high school and after high school, for eachothers initials tatted on our ring finger and completely thought I’d marry him. It was so young minded tho, like at this age now and looking back.

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  • If you already did everything else, there's no difference if you do vaginal sex or not. You have sinned already

    • Okay. I'll go ahead and do it :)

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  • 1. I can't help you with your feelings about sin. That is something that is between you and you Almighty.

    2. With respect to pregnancy, do you not have access to condoms?

  • Contraception sorted? Then go for it and enjoy. Religion has nothing to do with it.

    Let us know how it goes….. enjoy…..

  • We are designed to have sex and to desire another. What is wrong with that?
    Just do it with who you are married to.
    Get married.
    Isn't that your scriptures teach? Well... get married.

    • My parents don't want me to get married so young because I'll "waste my life away"

    • What country are you in? In many countries... when you are 18 you are grown. You are an adult. Move out of your parents home... go get a job... go to school or something. They can't legally make you or forbid you from doing anything. Move out... start your grown up life, marry if you want. Or wait another year or two under your parents protection and wait a little longer to have sex. What country are you in?

    • I'm in Australia. Getting married means responsibilities such as a house and bills. We are both in university and can't afford that

  • As a guy who lives in a muslim country i advise u not to do it. The guy will most likely loose intrest in the end and even if u guys separate it will become a problem for u in future relationships . We all have sexual desires but in a muslim country ur risking too much. Well im form tunisia and country id a little bit more liberated than most arab countries but still i wouldn't advise you.

    • Why not do it?

    • If it didn't workout with your boyfriend. U will become so anxious about how no man would accept a girl that is not a virgin. you know how arab countries are

    • Definitely agree with this comment. If you are from a very religious background, Asker, then you know it’s a huge risk. You’re betting everything on your plan to marry him but like ilyess0 said, if it somehow doesn’t work then you’re screwed out of finding a husband and your family would probably reject you...

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  • Absolutely not!! It's YOUR puss, do what YOU want with it!!

    • My mum said she'll know when I've had sex cos my hips would have widened?

    • Oooooookay! I've NEVER heard of THAT ONE, before!

  • You are already sinning when you say you've done a lot of other things already.

  • No and no. But keep your body count low

  • There's no reason for you to wait until after college to get married. Talk to an Imam and receive counseling. Maybe God has meant for you to be together. Don't mess it up by sinning.

    • My parents don't want me to get married so young though. They say I won't get to live life and I'll mess my life up

    • You need to sit down and have an honest talk with your parents. Tell them that you're in love and you are ready now. If they are wise, they will get the message.

  • Humans all need to have sex lol 😂

  • I guess you are both afraid of your parents.
    That is normal.

    • No I'd say we are more afraid of god

  • U shouldn't have vaginal sex. cause u dont know if u will marry together..
    isn't it enough if ypu suck him tho?

    • Why does everyone keep asking this? It's not just him that wants sex it's me too. I want to do that with him

    • Yes but you may regret because u aren't sure about that and u are afraid How about oral and anal till marriage if u are afraid?

    • Have you done anything except vaginal?

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  • You could check your ovulation cycle, use a condom, and have him pull out. That will make it extremely unlikely. Better if you are on birth control or willing to take the morning after pill.

  • It's natural to want sex and normal

  • The desire for sex is the most natural thing in the world. You don't need to feel guilty for that. And since you've already done everything else, get started. Proper prevention and, above all, have fun. Enjoy it 😁

  • So where are u from?

    • Australia

    • Oh i see. Why are you anonymous?

  • Do it up

    • ? Wdym

    • Go have sex. You’ll like it

    • I won't regret it?

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  • I think sex is a totally normal thing. I had Sex First time when I was 15 but I don't believe in good so I never felt guilty. I realy can't say how it is as a muslim so I Just hope you find a way to get lucky

  • Well young lady i know abd feel what you are saying. There no one who walk this world outside of Jesus whi did not sin
    Sin is still in our lives. Try not both of you hut if you fell yes it sin but who dont sin

  • Yes because you aren't married you aren't a true Muslim if you don't feel guilty

  • Religions are basically fairy tales. Don’t let mythology guide your life and dictate your happiness. If you want to have sex, then use protection and have fun. It’s a natural thing that all humans desire. How can that be bad?

    • I don't know cos if it doesn't last with him then my 'diamond' is gone. And I'll be used goods and never wanted again

    • Why do you believe your worth will be less if you’re not a virgin? You’re the same wonderful girl either way. Any man that potentially thinks that about you is wrong and not worth your time.

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