I'm actually Indian American haha
Ok haha then I guess it's that most girls feel more comfortable doing these things in general
They're more comfortable doing these things online* throught text etc in general
Actually Indian girls where I live won't be caught dead with an Indian guy. The self hatred is kinda strong so I just go after white girls lol
Really, they won't date Indians? Dang, that sucks. I thought staying within their culture was very much prefered among Indians, to keep traditions and make their families happy. But if they're like that where you live then it's good that you give yourself a chance with other girls
Indian culture is kinda a dead thing in America now. We're pretty much all following American culture.
I believe that.
Sex sells. A woman online showing off what she does in bed is more likely to get more attention than a girl that stays modest
If you go on Instagram it is RARE a modest girl has tons of followers unless she is famous for something
That's true but I just kinda find that if you're not acting like that on Instagram you're not gonna get famous.
Eh there's a lot of modest women on there that are famous, but they also have skill /actual reasoning to be famous. Those women that sell their body for likes and followers want something without working for it
Probably few like that. But I mean if that's how they want to present themselves that's up to them and it's fine.
I never said it wasn’t fine lol I was just answering your question.
Yeah makes sense. I just wanted to add that in there cause I don't have a problem with it.
It does come with its problems though, but I can’t be bothered by that, I got rid of my Instagram a long time ago.
Does it though? How so? I'm curious.
There’s no room for professionalism. Those pictures can be out there forever and it does taint your image. I feel like a lot of young women are ignorant to it because “hey I’m getting attention and sometimes even money it doesn’t matter” until you hit 35-40 and you become less desirable to males and need an actual stable job. Also brings in room for you to come into contact with stalkers, perverts etc. .
Alright that's fair. But it's do think people are overacting when it comes to finding pictures like that.The only way you're gonna find em is if you're going out looking for them.
Overreacting? If you are in a professional setting such as a teacher, you better hold yourself professional and not putting children in danger. I had a teacher at my high school -kids from the school literally found pictures of her younger years working at a bar where she wore skimpy clothes. Her image was tainted afterwards and she did get fired. You know the level of harassment she would’ve gotten had they not fired her?
I mean I know a teacher of mine that used to be a stripper it's really not a big deal. If someone has an issue with what someone did in their past that's their problem.
You can hide stripping -you can’t hide pictures. I used to work at a strip club and that is a part of my life I wouldn’t Even bother talking about at a professional setting
But why would you need to hide it? Also I don't think it would be easy to find that stuff. My teacher never hid it she told us in class so I mean if you're ashamed about it that makes sense but I don't think most women would be.
Because there’s people that rely on me to be a good role model and stripping and openly making it known I worked at a strip club is not being a good role model. There is nothing good about strip clubs. Drugs, sex, pimps, money , manipulation, alcohol etc.
I mean if you're ashamed about it's okay but I wouldn't go around shaming other people for it. Since they probably don't feel the same way as you.
Who said I was ashamed? It has nothing to do with being ashamed , it has to do with presentation of yourself.
I learned presentation at a really young age. I used to walk into a job , not dressed for the position properly and I was never taken seriously by customers. My manager used to tell me, how you present yourself, is how seriously people will take you. I took that advice. Why? Because it’s 100% true.
You're acting like you are you're definitely not proud of it. You can still present yourself in a professional manner if did sex work. Anyone who holds that against you is a part of the problem.
If you were young I don't see how anyone can hold that against you. People finding pictures of you are clearly being creepy and trying to look for such pictures.
No I am being a realist of what stripping is like. It has nothing to do with “not being proud of it” it has to do with a lifestyle of stripping , does not mesh with some professions.
That’s not the point, you have young boys that are just being boys and searching on the internet. If a student ever found me in inappropriate attire in pictures I’m 100% responsible. I am the adult.
I get what you're saying but there's a point where it doesn't really matter. I know a girl that was a pornstar people recognize her sometimes. She still has a job working at Microsoft and is still very professional. You can definitely move on its not the be all end all.
How difficult is it to find pictures anyway. I think with time they become harder and harder to find. I honestly wouldn't worry about that.
Microsoft is not a professional setting. No one is looking up to her and putting trust in her aside from a billion dollar company.
Pictures are getting easier and easier to find. All you need to do is type in a persons name. One of my friends is a can girl and all you need to do is type in her name
It is absolutely a professional setting. What do you mean by it's not?
There is no person looking up to her or putting trust into her aside from a billion dollar company.
I mean do you really worry about people finding your pictures?
I disagree honestly since she's still working at a company regardless of being a pornstar. What are talking about? Like they can't work with children at a daycare or something?
Of course, because I am in a career where people put trust into me. Why on earth should I jeopardize losing a clients trust?
She is not in a company where customers are putting trust on her.
What's your career?
I honestly don't see how someone finding pictures of you that would still be difficult to do. Would effect your relationship with your clients anyone who thinks it would has a problem for judging someone for what they did in the past
I don’t understand why you can’t understand that how you present yourself is how the world sees and puts trust on you. It’s that simple. Would you trust a doctor that has documents online of him mishandling his clients and giving them negative results?
The doctor analogy doesn't make sense because you're not mishandling your clients or doing anything wrong by working.
Yes it does go hand and hand. It’s finding stuff online that negatively impacts you as a person. Would you trust a murderer being a teacher? Same crap
I really think you are ashamed of your past profession comparing it to murder. I'm sorry but that doesn't make any sense. So is my teacher that was a stripper doing anything wrong with being a teacher? There's nothing wrong with sex work while murder is 100% morally and ethically wrong.
I think you just aren’t getting that the way you present yourself is how people look at you. I worked in sales, and the way I dressed negatively impacted me on my sales. I was 18 at the time. I think you are just kind of immature and aren’t really understanding that the way you present yourself is how people look and put trust into you. Yes people not trusting you can affect the career choice you are in.
That's what I'm saying the way your present yourself I don't care how you presented yourself in the past but in the "present". The way you dressed, acted or did when you were younger SHOULDN'T matter. I mean I worked a sales job before I didn't dress all that well I still got sales. I understand how to present yourself but it's how you act now not in the past.
You don’t care because you are a 23 year old man with most likely no kids etc. your mind will change when you are more matured and older.
No it’s not necessarily how you act now when your past is still there for people to see
Not really too sure that changes anything it says you're 24. We are a year apart. You said you're not ashamed of your past but here you are putting yourself down for the thing you said you're not ashamed of.
If they judge you for your past that's their problem not yours.
Being the same age does not mean you have the same maturity /been through the same things. You are a 23 man with no kids, of course you don’t care about how people perceive you or how you perceive others. I am not putting myself down at all, I am saying stripping could be hidden but I would never ruin the opportunity of a career mentioning I used to strip, that’s really really stupid. There’s not one time I put myself down here. I learned and my wisdom has gained by presenting myself in a more professional manner where it is necessary. I have had a better outcome doing so. I also learned this advice from a 60 year old manager.
If I don’t get my career of choice because of my irresponsibility to not being my past into my present, then that is definitely my fault and I am the one losing. They won’t care. They will hire a person that is a better outlook and would be more trustworthy at a position
But hey, if you aren’t planning on being in a position where client trust and perception matters, go full nude on the internet. Just saying it doesn’t benefit people that want a job serving the public
So what you have kids then and you're afraid your kids will be find out about your past? I'm not saying you gotta tell everyone. What I'm saying is that there's nothing wrong with it. If you got this advice from a 60 year old manager to hide what you did that's not very good advice cause that's how you progress into a newer person.
Yes it does and experiencing more of life changes your perceptions as whole. And it’s not about hiding, it’s about presenting yourself in a professional manner for the benefit of excelling in your position.
I don't understand how it correlates to trust at all. You're saying your untrustworthy because you used to be a stripper... How does that even make any sense. Also have your clients ever called you out for that? I don't think they will.
No that’s not what I am saying at all.
You aren’t even understanding what I am saying
If there’s pictures online that represent my past and people view and see them, they have all rights to not trust me. Trusting someone is a choice and nobody on this earth owes me their trust
I'm understanding what I'm reading. What I don't understand is that it doesn't make any sense. The chance of them finding you isn't high it's pretty low.
If there's pictures of you online that they find they went out of their way to find them. That's what I'm trying to say. It all falls on them not you.
You have a better chance of building trustworthy relationships when you represent yourself in a professional , and good head on your shoulders manner. Which includes not exposing negatives that can damage your image. This is why people should stay away from even political debates in professional settings
No it does not fall on them, because you are the one in need of a job. They don’t care, they will hire the next person that is a better outlook than you are
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