How did you find your gay/lesbian partner?

[Anonymous]

Were you introduced by any friend or was it your own effort?

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

For me, it was easy. I saw a stranger walking around with the gay/trans/alternative support group and I just really thought he was adorable so I asked him out.

Unfortunately, turns out I'm not gay.


My sister actually is gay, and has a lot more trouble. She tends to agressively point out that she is gay as often as possible, which probably makes it easier to meet other gay people but... Definetly has its downsides.

She lives in Hungary now where I hear they are not fond of homosexuality so, I figure she probably doesn't do that as much anymore. We aren't close, but I understand it's very tough. She met one girl, I think through school.

That said, there are lots of ways (at least in the US) to meet other gay people. She used to make me go with her to the local gay club. It was fun, only downside for me was I'm a beautiful man with femanin qualities and long flowing hair. I understand why a lot of people at thr gay club didn't believe I was straight. 🤷🏼‍♂️

There are tons of gay clubs. Most of them are very safe and easy going. And full of gay people trying to meet other gay people.



There is also online dating. I haven't had any luck with it but, I think a lot of gay people start there these days because a lot of sites let you filter based on gender preferences and start with people you know are interested.


Through friends can work, but... Seems tough to me. A lot of straight people don't seem to get that gay people also have to be romantically compatible. It's like "oh you're gay? I know another gay person. problem solved." But in reality that isn't too likely to work.

That said, some people do get it, or you might get lucky. It's worth asking your friends (who you trust)

But, if you get involved with gay social groups you will probably make friends who are gay, potentially single, or who likely have other gay friends you might get along with.


I think it's generally easier for guys, but I don't have a lot of personal experience, so please keep in mind that those are just suggestions that might work for some people!

And good luck!!

[Asker]

Thanks for detailed comments.