Boyfriend fucked an escort?

[Anonymous]

Before we dated he used an escort once and I’m so disgusted. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

In the past when you weren't in the picture. Where you with anyone before him? Should he feel disgusted about that? (doesn't matter who it was). I think if you really want the relationship (do you? ask yourself that without this info), if so, then you have to look at it differently. Look at it as there was someone before you, just another woman period. Doesn't matter the circumstances or who she was. Also how you feel (ie "only desperate men") isn't necessarily the reality in his situation. The guys that will go to one go for various reasons, some of which "desperation" is far from. What this boils down to I think is your relationship with him and do you really want it? Or is this the "excuse" you need to end it? (ie you feel "out of his league")

That's how I would look at it if it were me and reversed... say I found out later she was a prostitute. Would I be happy about that? No. But what would matter ultimately is that she's clean first off, then as long as our relationship was good and I knew she was loyal to me, I would put it in the past.

[Asker]

I don’t know if you’d accept that

[Opinion Owner]

If I cared about them and the relationship I would (I think? lol). And that's a bit different than your situation (more serious in my opinion) but I was trying to reverse it. But like I say, if you care about this relationship and want to "save it", I think you have to change how you see it. Now some people feel this changes who the other person is (in their eyes), and maybe that's also what's going on with you? But I'd focus on your relationship and how it is. That was in the past. It's really not any different than say he didn't like a ex boyfriend of yours and wanted to leave you for it. Ridiculous right? Yes she wasn't a girlfriend to him, but that's how you have to look at it to get past this (if you want to), she was another woman period (forget prostitute) and in the past. It also might help you if you talked with him about it. Find out why he went to her at the time and his thinking. You might see a different side to it?

[Asker]

His response is that he was horny. Like wtf

[loves2learn]

I agree with this. People make mistakes. They do things they wish they hadn’t done. You cannot change the past.

[Roah_Boat]

Is this one of those situations where honesty was not the best idea. I agree that is pretty disgusting. At least he was honest about it.

[loves2learn]

That was before you dated. It has literally nothing to do with your relationship now. NO, you cannot hold that against him. He probably felt vulnerable sharing that with you. You have no idea where he was in life or headspace at that time. Take it for what it is, something in the past, and move on.

[loves2learn]

Ooooh! MHO! I hope this means you chose not to hold it against him.

[Anonymous]

Oh grow up. Your father likely hired escorts left, right & center because if you're so uptight about something that happened in the past once... Your mother was prudish enough to lead a gaggle of nuns.

[Asker]

Okay, slut.

[MrOracle]

You chose a Bad Boy, and you are shocked to discover that he has the history of a Bad Boy? Hmm...

[Asker]

He’s not your typical bad boy. He had some tendencies, but it’s who he is. He fell for me hard and it being a good man now so that’s good!!

[Asker]

Is** typo

[Asker]

🥵🥵

[Daniela1982]

If you are so disgusted then don't date him anymore. What he did before you got together is water under the bridge and doesn't count. What he does now is more important.

[SofiSin667]

What’s the problem? It happened before you two dated. Accept it or keep it moving.

[Asker]

I feel that only “desperate” men do that and it makes me believe I’m out of his league

[Woke51]

So should we find reasons to discard people or should we find ways to understand them?

[Asker]

@Woke51 Neither. We should find people who match our own ethics

[Katie1964]

"Before we dated".

Everyone has a past and everyone makes mistakes. As long as he doesn't go back, its water under the bridge.

[ChrisMaster69]

If you are disgusted then break up.

to me it’s not an issue as long as he’s been having regular sexual health check ups, as have you both.

what’s worse, protected sex with an escort or unprotected sex with a girlfriend who is having unprotected sex with other guys and her boyfriend does not know?

[Asker]

Both not good

[ChrisMaster69]

But you would only know about the first, the other you would never know about, unless you caught something. A persons past should not matter

[erandal]

If it was before you started dating I do not see it as a big deal, you had sex with other men before him didn't you? If however it was while you were dating then it is a deal breaker and you should end your relationship.

[dustybiker]

Whatever attracted you to him, his past is a part of what formed that. As long as you’re both tested and safe, as we do with any new partner. I wouldn’t have a problem with it myself.

[MrKinktastic]

She’s tested and used condoms, other girls he may have slept with wouldn’t have been as careful. Consider it a blessing not a curse.

[Asker]

I don't know

[Agape93]

Did he fuck the escort while you two were dating?

[exitseven]

Everyone has a past. Leave this in the past. Maybe get him tested for STDs if it makes you feel better.

[bowenw]

Everyone has a history that cannot be changed. If you feel your boyfriend is morally corrupt or weird for hiring an escort in his past and you can't get over it, you should move on.

[elizamichale1]

Why r u disgusted? Whats wrong in that plus it was before he dated u

[Hangry06]

If it's a big deal, break up
I would

[Slayerrrrrrr]

Well I mean; how would you know if any of the other guys you've been with, have also been with an escort?

[Asker]

They were not like that!!

[Slayerrrrrrr]

yeah and I hear Anne Coulter is fun at parties... you really don't know for sure, or do you? Let's think in the present moment love... the guy you are in a relationship with atm had intercourse with a hooker, would you have decided that you'd date him before the relationship? The facts are here & now. You never saw it coming. Same could of been with the fellas that make up your body count... comprende?

[Asker]

I do know that they never used escorts. It was pretty clear based on who they were as people. Boyfriend was the bad boy type and it make sense.

[Slayerrrrrrr]

Point is you'll never know because you weren't there to observe them. It's out of your control, not your fault. So, if your dude is really worth it, you'll know. Just remember, actions speak louder than words

[Asker]

Yes they absolutely do and that’s what I was not sure about!!

[Asker]

Makes*

[chris1412000]

It's in the past, you have to look past it and move on.

[Samantha_17]

No big deal.

[Asker]

Yes it is

[Wise4myage]

If you feel that disgusted about it, then you should just dump him and move on, because its obvious you can't get past it.

[ChiPaPa]

It's the past.

[jasco]

It's before you dated theirfore it does not matter what you think of him. He/she is allowed to do what they wanna do

[noohair]

Get over it. What makes you so special? Guys pay one way or another.

[Asker]

I am the epitome of special, sweetheart.

[noohair]

Then why do you hide you identity? You will always be miserable because you are perfect and no one else is.

[Asker]

The are others who are as worthy as me, but you’re not part of that.

[noohair]

I was married to a narcissist, why would I repeat that mistake? Worthy of you?

[Asker]

I don’t know about narcissism so whatever

[noohair]

Try google.