What do submissive guys like implemented in bed?

[Anonymous]

I am dating someone who is submissive which is new for me. We are communicating our likes and dislikes. I am curious what guy submissive as like in general to give me a better idea. I’ve only been with dominants before… it’s all new to me. We both switch roles but I have to work on being dominant enough to bring out their submissive side. They like being forced into things a lot I’ve been told (I’m the same way). Need advice and tips please

[ChrisMaster69]

@jennbitx

Really the thing you need to do is discuss with the sub (irrespective of gender) what kinks they have, what they like, limits boundaries.

The main pillars of BDSM are Trust, Respect, Honesty and Communication.

Some get off on the fact they are masochists, others because they like being controlled, others will take specific parts and want to be degraded, to be tied up, spanked etc but not necessarily all of them.

If he was in to say pain, then telling him what to do, giving him jobs to do and even degrading, would do nothing for him.

The Dom / Domme is there to provide a safe space for the sub, that is really important and is why the four words above are so important.

[slatyb]

You will have to talk to him, and find what interests him that you are willing to do. "Submissive" covers a lot. What does he fantasize about? If his desire is for you to direct him in pleasing you, then do that. If you enjoy his mouth, then tell him to give you head. Take control by sitting on his face.

There are other forms of service that are not directly sexual. You could train him to give you a mani-pedi, a massage, maintain your shoes, clean your bathroom, do your laundry (especially underwear and lingerie). It all depends on you mutual interests.

[Recurrence]

I like pegging, I don’t like really rough physically type submission, I prefer like gentle pleasure that’s guided with some control

[Hanrej]

Ask his likes but when you find them out categorize them. Something he truly likes like recieving an orgasm should be withheld tease and more often than not denied. Somthing he likes but find humiliating or he has mixed feeling for should be used as a reward, such a thing could be getting to perform oral sex on you or worshiping your ass. The things he dislikes can be used as punishment.

These three categories will help you shape his mind and submit in ways YOU desire. That's what I feel a domme does, shape a submissive to like serving the dommes needs.

[Luckycharms12]

Sit on his face make him your bitch tease and control him i guess

[Luckycharms12]

I can go on loads can do just let your mind run wild and have fun

[Strongballs21]

Balls squeezing may help him

[CubaPirate]

Peg his sorry ass

[Asker]

I’m not familiar with the turn pegging.

[Asker]

Nvm I googled it

[CubaPirate]

You both might enjoy it

[Furrylover123]

Sometimes I'm really submissive for a few days/hours and it's pretty much like you said when it comes to the freaky part in the bed he likes to be forced into situations like pinning them down or a little choke maybe you have to make him edge... You can be mean with some stuff like that and after your done with the freaky stuff just be the big spoon give him the feeling to be loved like he is only yours and only you are in charge

[Manly4]

I can't get my dick up. I like femdom cuckhold

[Asker]

What is a Femdom cuckhold?

[Manly4]

It's like where the guy who is incapable is made to watch his girl have sex with other men. While he is tied and his dick is tortured

[Asker]

Ooooh I see. Thank you for explaining

[pratikE]

Well i think if he likes to be dominated, dominate him

[Anonymous]

I am a submissive guy too. The number one thing is to take charge. Tell him what to do. Have it your way. Make it about you. The more you have your way with him the more pleased he will be too. He wants that.

A few fetish things that might be enjoyed are: Ropes, tie him up, whipping, blindfolding, leash and collar, ball gag, butt plugs, pegging, dildos, golden showers, or maybe put him in a maid outfit. Maybe some of these things are borderline humiliation but these are just suggestions.

If my suggestions were too basic maybe try using a pillory, putting him in a strait jacket, or use a dog catcher snare.

[Anonymous]

I like to switch with my girlfriend too. When she's the dominant, she gives me orders and I obey her. Like sometimes she'll sit in a chair and have me massage her feet and then kneel in front of her and give her oral. One thing that was particularly hot was when she told me to undress completely while she watched fully clothed. Then she had me strap both ankles down and put on a blindfold. Then she strapped my wrists down and sat on my face for a while before then riding me.

[Asker]

Thank you this is helpful! Taking notes

[Anonymous]

Cow girl 100%

[Asker]

Yeah? Noted! Thanks dude

[Opinion Owner]

Also sucking him off while he is sleeping until he wakes up and cums 🥵

[Asker]

He might have an erectile dysfunction… But he is also to used it his own touch so we are currently working on that through oral sex right now

[Opinion Owner]

If you catch him with morning wood just suck him hard and slow. Mm soo good

[Asker]

Noted. Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

I also like when a girl pins me down and sucks me off. You could do that while 69 too and put your ankles underneath his head while you trap his face again your pussy. And if he isn't big use a nice strong viberator on him untill he becomes your fuck toy

[Asker]

Wow! I’ll take that into consideration! Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome

[Anonymous]

Restraints and an aggressive ride!

[Anonymous]

You get on top and make him the bottom. Hand cuff his hands behind his back. Make him give you oral, but do not give him oral. Use a strap on and peg him or mouth fuck him. Make him blow your strap on. Make him wear a butt plug.