Is there a time where people experience a sexual awakening?

[Anonymous]

I am 23 years old, a female, and have only had sex once. I have always been a little bit of a freak when it came to sex I guess, but I never just went off and had sex with anyone. This is why I've only been with one person and this did not happen until I was 19 or 20. Recently, I have experienced something that I guess can be classified as a sexual awakening. It seems like I am open to trying new things or having sex with people. Although I am open to it. I am still shy and nervous because I don't want to be hurt. I just don't really know what is going on with me. I know there's a prime of the life thing people have said to gone through. I just want to know if anyone else has experienced this and maybe any advice on how to get through it. I would go to a counselor, but I don't want to be labeled as crazy and sent to a mental institute. Am I crazy or is this something that everyone goes through?

[ohshee]

Okay first things first you're not crazy you're not mental you have been awoken this what it is we all have a passion and he desire within us. And you have to experience it to understand it to fill it
If you pay attention to the questions on here since covid-19 everybody's sexual desire has increased probably by 10 Folds

I would rather talk to you on a private message about this but I will try to explain we are all have energy within us we are born with energy within a square made from water an atom's atoms broke down is energy our whole planet from one foot off the ground is an energy when you make love to somebody one minute before you come you can look into each other's eyes you can feel it you understand what each other is thinking because you just became one in that moment both energy just touched and then you come.
I think you just found a part of your energy and the desire that it has because there is a deepness it is so beautiful it feels so beautiful and you want to fill it over and over

When making love to somebody and you understand the energy that we have within us and if you can text somebody else's energy it will melt you it is the best feeling in this world it is the most beautiful feeling in this world and whoever you experienced it it with you just want to hold on tight and keep going deeper and deeper and just you're actually making love like I said I would rather talk to you in private about this but you're not crazy you're not weird you're not strange you're a human and you have opened up a that you need to explore once you open that door this is going to sound crazy now you can call me crazy LOL but let's play pretend if we were on the phone right now and we are having phone sex I guarantee you a better orgasm when you have ever had in your life and that's because it's not physical its energy.
The energy from my voice the energy from your voice will touch each other I don't know where you live I live on the west coast but I guarantee you will be able to feel me where ever you are located and I guarantee you this you would have the better orgasm than you ever have had just because is done with energy like I said you can call me crazy but this is 100% the truth like I said if you have any questions or if you want to know more because I didn't really go into detail could you send me a private message and I will try to explain it to you in detail lot better

[Asker]

Yes, I think I would like to know more, but I don't think I am able to dm you on here. I do understand what you are saying because I have heard it before. It's philosophy and science. When people touch. It's not them actually touching it's the atoms and energies touching and colliding with each other. You gave me a new way to think about this. Thank you.

[ohshee]

Try to add me as a friend that's very cool what you just said and I want to know more than what you know at the same time

[ohshee]

Check this out after you read my second post on this post right here to you tell me what you feel on the inside and this is what I love about being able to do this

[Asker]

Hi, @Oshee, I will try to add you as a friend. When you ask what I feel on the inside what do you mean? Are you talking about with my sexual awakening or just in general?

[ohshee]

Yes there's a couple things a couple different things let me see if you added me and I will tell you

[ohshee]

Okay yeah I think we can chat on my page now

[Avcfhcic]

I wouldn't say crazy at all. I think it's also due to your low number of times having sex.
Best advice is if you have a friend that you're close with and trust to maybe use them to test your new feelings. At least you trust them rather than the next guy who might not stop or be Good with you

[Asker]

I've had sex multiple times, but with only one guy. I have had test one of my feelings out with him. It involved a threesome, but I want more and I don't think he is down for it.

[Avcfhcic]

Well give me some examples of things you want to try and I can give my opinion on them. If you don't want to share here feel free to message

[Asker]

I guess I am more interested in having group sex or just having sex with another person. I guess I just want to experience the feeling with someone else. Also I was thinking about a reverse harem. It might sound crazy, but I just don't want to have sex with anyone. I want to get to know them first.

[Avcfhcic]

Is something missing in your current partner that is feeding your desire to have sex with someone else? These feelings won't go away unless you solve the issue. And I agree with knowing someone before sex, makes it better and mean more

[Asker]

He has asked me that too. And the only thing I can really say is that we've been through a lot and we argue a lot. Sometimes I do wonder what I mean to him because he says he loves me, but he does really mean, emotionally abusive stuff. An example would be he posted lies about me on social media. I still haven't recovered from the fully and it's hard to go out in public sometimes without someone harassing me over it. My family said I should leave him and I have tried. I do love him, I just don't want to continually go through this. Sometimes it seems he acts like a kid and he's 20 years older than me. I guess I also want to try it with someone my own age, just to see how it is.

[Avcfhcic]

Break up with him. And if you fear that, involve police because you shouldn't live in fear. It sounds toxic and you clearly want something more/ else.

[Asker]

Yes, I really want t try it with someone mature and my own age. As for the police I have tried them and they are no help. They only told me it was that I should sit down and talk to him and that whatever he does is his right. The last time I tried, it didn't work he blackmailed me saying he was going to spread more lies about me and I lost a friend in the process.

[Avcfhcic]

That's a horrible scenario and any man or woman that makes their s/o feel like that shouldn't be in a relationship. All I can advise is do what you can, maybe become more distant and less into the relationship to maybe turn his head away from you

[Asker]

Ok. I will try that. So far I have been talking to other guys and stuff. Recently, he said he's leaving me, but he probably will come back. Thanks for the advice.

[Avcfhcic]

No problem. Wish you the best with it and hope this guy wises up. Hope you find someone to explore with!

[ArrowheadSW]

It is a good thing that you are being "guarded" and not want to be hurt. It is best to wait to meet someone who you trust after getting to know him.

[fit_and_feminine]

I had two life changing moments; (1) one when so came out to my parents as transgender MTF and (2) a few days ago when I had sex for the first time with a man

[fit_and_feminine]

I came out*

[FunkyMonkee]

Mostly back in the `60's.. Free sex and nudity was EVERYWHERE!!
I VERY, VERY SERIOUSLY DOUBT they'll label you as a loony and send you to the Ha-Ha Hotel for something like this!! Maybe you just need to be around sex more often to click that toggle switch on. Watch a bunch of porn and see if that helps.

[Asker]

I watch porn. I grew up in a very religious family though. If I was to talk to them about something like this they would label it as the devil trying to get me to sin and have a prayer service and everything. I always kept to myself when it came to sex and fantasies. It was not until I got into college and joined a few social groups that I met some people who were discussing sex openly and had the same interests as me. This really surprised me because in my family sex was not something you talked openly about in public with just anyone. Although I was opened to this new environment I never really had a desire to take part in it or explore new things until now.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't get it! Didn't god say to be fruitful and multiply? The ONLY way to do that is through sex!! So, how can sex be a sin when god supposedly gave us the genitalia to do it? If sex is sin, we SHOULDN'T have genitalia!! It's YOUR body and YOUR life, you do what4ever you wanna do with it!

[Asker]

Yes, I know I understand what you saying. I kinda believe that too. They believe it's okay to have sex just as long as you're married. But it's like what a friend of mine said what if you get married and then don't find the sex satisfying. If a couple is unhappy in the bedroom, they're going to be unhappy in marriage.

[FunkyMonkee]

Although there IS something to be said for abstaining until married, especially if you're still a virgin but, when you buy a car, don't you take it for a test drive, first, before you commit your money and a big chunk of your life to it?

[Asker]

Yes, I agree.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm NOT a big fan of fucking anything that's available just BECAUSE it's available, like one of my guitarists used to do but, at the same time, I'm pretty much okay with free sex. The difference, though, is that, on one hand (that of my guitarist) he's just using all those girls just to get sex. On the "free sex" side, it's more like: I like you a lot, you like me a lot and, although we're not in love, you're perfectly fine with fucking me if I want to. It's not a case of one of us trying to talk the other into a quick fuck just for the sake of a quick fuck and then we'll never see each other again.

[Asker]

I'm also not a big fan of just fucking anything that's available. I know a lot of people that do that and I can't see how they can do it. If I had sex with someone I would like to get to know them first and be good friends with them before and after sex. I know a lot of people say that once you fuck someone you can't be friends with them, but that's just not how I am I guess. Also, are you in a band because if so that's pretty cool?

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm pretty much the same way but, I think I may have actually, unknowingly, taken it a step further: I had my 2nd girlfriend back in Aug. `83, we fucked 3 times over 4 days, then she had a nervous breakdown and was in the Ha-Ha Hotel for 6 months. When she got out, she decided to go back to her previous boyfriend who refused to let me have anything to do with her, again. He died about 7 years ago and she & started seeing each other again as very good friends. About 2 years ago, she said she wanted to be my girlfriend (again). I figured I could give it a try so, we did. She tried to fuck me a few more times but, for some reason, as much as I wanted to, I just couldn't!! I think I've gotten to the point where I can't just fuck someone, I HAVE to be in love with them! I said "(again)" because she didn't even remember that we had sex back in `83! I didn't know it, back then, but she was already having her breakdown by the time we started fucking. So, for me, this recent time was "again" but, for her, it was the first time and she just could NOT believe that we actually fucked back in `83! I WAS in a band for 25 years. We broke up in Feb. `05 and then my singer died about 5 years later. As it was his band and he wrote all the songs, that ended the band! A couple years later, my last guitarist also died. I think he was only about 38. Sadly, we were working on our 3rd album just before the break-up so, we never even got the 4 tracks we started in that session finished before the break-up and, now, they never will be unless I just use the original scratch vocals and replace the bass parts, maybe even play them myself, if I have to! Because the girl we had on bass was the WORST bass player we've EVER had!! Because of her, I'll have to adjust the tempo of the first 3 songs because she sped up CONSTANTLY!! By the time we hit the second verse, I was playing so damn fast I was AMAZED that I was even TOUCHING the drums, let alone hitting them full-on!!

[Asker]

Wow, that sounds amazing with what you said about the band. Also, I'm sorry for the lost of your friends. What you said about being with the girl who had a breakdown was pretty interesting.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you! As for Carol, she had at least 2 breakdowns before I even met her. She was my guitarist's girlfriend (before that, she was dating the drummer I took over for) and when I finally met her in late `81, she'd just come out of the hospital from her second breakdown. However, as it happens, we both worked at Cedar Point 3 years before we ever met and she CLAIMS that she DID see me there but, as she quit a few days after I was hired, as far as I know, I never saw her. We quickly became best friends but I kept pushing her to Marry John and, they finally did in July of `83. A month later, John left her over something INCREDIBLY stupid and, even though I had no idea what her meds were for, she admitted to me once they got married that she hadn't been taking them for the past week or two! I guess that was the cause of her third breakdown in Aug.. After John left her apartment (he quit the band a year before), she broke her foot while we were out for a long walk and, as she was scared of the crutches (as in: she was afraid of falling while using them) she asked me to stay with her until the cast came oof to help her get around. So, I did. I'd carry her from one room to the next anytime she wanted to go somewhere. She slept in her bedroom with the doors (sliding) closed and I slept on the couch in the next room. Around the 3rd week, we got to the point where we were walking around half naked! After a couple days of that, we started having sex and fell in love. A week later, she started doing some really bizarre things!! As she was artistic and kind of into punk rock, I just figured it was normal for her (I'd seen her do odd things before when she was normal), until a couple days later when she started screaming at me a bunch of weird things and I immediately called up her dad to come take her to the hospital because it was VERY obvious, she was not mentally well!!!

[FunkyMonkee]

She's had several more breakdowns since then. What I've noticed based on that 3rd one and the last few that I knew of personally, she tends to fall in love with me during these episodes!! During one of her last 2 that I was witness to, I went to see her in the hospital and she introduced me to everyone there as her husband!! When she got back on her feet, she apologized profusely for telling everyone that. But, no harm done! I never made an issue of it. I guess it was like she had a split personality. While normal, we were just very close friends. While not normal, we were lovers (in her mind).

[Asker]

Wow! That's a lot. Its sweet how you was there for her through all of that. That was very nice.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you but, that's just the kind of guy I am. She was my best friend and I wanted to make sure she'd be okay until the cast came off. I even temporarily quit 8 of my 9 newspaper routes to be able to help her because she lived about 20 miles away and neither of us drove. I couldn't get anyone to do my 9th route because it was mostly 3 miles from my house and I walked up and back to do it so, as it was only one day a week, I'd come home on a bus, deliver the papers and go right back over to Carol or, if I discovered I couldn't make it back, and had to stay at my place, I'd at least call her up to let her know and see if she was gonna be okay without me for the night. That only happened the night before she finally flippeed out. About 10 years ago, I was on my way to work on an icy cold day and, about 2 blocks from work, I fell on an ice-covered sidewalk and really hurt my back!! I hobbled the rest of they way into work to let my boss know I was gonna be out of commission for as much as a week or so and then went back to the bus stop to head off to my chirpractor. As I was standing there, I saw some girl in her 20's, I guess, walking towards me. I saw that everything was covered in ice and didn't want her getting hurt, too so, I hobbled across the street and helped her across. She thanked me very sweetly and we told each other our names. A few weeks later, I was at the same stop and saw Amber again coming towards me the same way and, again, I went across the street to help her across. She thanked me again and, after we went our separate ways,. we never saw each other again. I almost ALWAYS waited for my bus at that corner the whole 11 years I worked there but never saw her again!

[Asker]

Wow. Thats so sweet. You really are a nice guy. I wish I could meet more guys like you.

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you! I wsjh more girls would go for guys like me! I also wish society or karma would treat me the way I deserve to be treated! I do so many nice things for other, but I always end up getting shit on! It's all the not-so-nice people that get everything they want!

[Asker]

I know right. I'm exactly the same way. Im so nice that people take advantage of me and a lot of guys I meet only want sex. People keep telling me I need to stop being nice, but I just can't.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, it's not just that they take advatage of me it's more that, for all the nice things I do for others, WHEN is SOME of that gonna come back to me? Guys that only want sex aren't worth it!! I HOPE you don't get emotionally involved with any of them! Twice, I had a guitarist that was like that!! Frank had been living with this one girl for well over a decade and they had 7 kids together, but they never got married. In the meantime, he was always chasing other girls!! One night I caught him trying to make out with MY brand new girlfriend!! We'd only been seeing each other for about 5 hours!! 3 or 4 years later, Jason gets into the band and, although we started out as good friends, he quickly soured on me!! Not only was he too much into ciggies, booze and drugs, he was too over-breariing and would take over not only his space but yours, too!! Even worse is how he used massive amounts of girls just to get his rocks off!! He'd get himself a regular girlfriend and then go out and fuck anything in a skirt that stood still long enough!! He could talk his way into ANY girl's panties!! And, once he got what he wanted from her, he never wanted to see her again!! I'm sure he could even talk a rhino into handing over his balls!! He was in the band for 10 years and had 5 or 6 steady girlfriends and even one wife over that period and he was STILL running around fucking every girl that'd let him!! Last time I saw him, he was with my then, bass player's steady girlfriend!! We couldn't BELIEVE that Amy, who KNEW better and KNEW what he was like, would stoop so low as to go with him!! WHY he married Rose, I'll never know because, they weren't even married a couple months before he started bitching about her and saying how much he hated her!! Anyway, there's NOTHING wrong with being nice, as long as you don't let it become something others take advantage of.

[Asker]

Yeah, but being taking advantage of I think is my only problem. My other problem is I usually don't know when a guy is lying to me or telling the truth. If I had some guy friends that know maybe I would know because guys know how guys act usually.

[FunkyMonkee]

I guess you just have to go by instinct or find some way to find out if they're lying. It's not always easy for us to tell, either. Problem is, on one hand, there's so many lying assholes out there (Frank, Jason, etc.) that are just screwing it all up for us guys that DON'T do that that, on the other hand, there's so many girls that WON'T believe a guy even when he IS telling the truth! I've already fallen victim to that quite a few times!! By the way, did you just follow me an hour or so ago?

[Asker]

Yeah I know what you mean it the same way with girls and I've met so many assholes that now if I meet a guy whose nice I tend not to believe anything he says. I know that I do that and usually I try to stop it, but so far I've only met assholes. Yes, I did follow you I thought maybe private messaging would be better than continuing to add to this thread. If you don't want me to follow you I won't.

[FunkyMonkee]

So, now, you see what I mean. You've met so many assholes you don't even trust us REAL nice guys. I learned a LONG time ago that you can't cover every one of your lies, sooner or later,, they'll catch up to you somewhere along the way. If not now, maybe a few years down the road. Not that I lied when I was a kid but, I've seen how others get caught by their own lies. Oh, I might tell a little white lie here and there, like, if I want to go get something for someone (a surprise, etc.) and I don't want them to see me buy it, but, they tend to want to go with me, I might tell them I'm going somewhere they don't exactly want to go, just so I can go buy their present. That kind of "lie" isn't gonna hurt anyone and I'll probably fess up later, anyway. Also, I've found that, if I discover that someone lied to me, it proves that I can't trust them anymore and, I prefer to mostly keep my relationships with people I can trust implicitly! If someone HAS lied to me but it wasn't anything major or hurtful, I might stay friends with them but will still not be 100% trusting of them. My ex-fiance, for instance. I'm not the jealous type so, it didn't bother me that she had male friends and I told her from the start that I'd NEVER cheat on her so, she didn't mind if I had female friends. I even had a few offers shortly after we started seeing each other but, I turned them down because, as far as I was concerned, I was spoken for for the rest of my life! At least 8 years into the relationship, I started to notice a few things that didn't add up! One day, she spent the night at my house and the next day, I noticed that one of my fave recent CD's was missing! As it was a promo copy, it was REALLY hard to come by!! A few weeks later, I went over to her place for a short visit and found it on her desk where she was studying. I actually saw her hide it under her books when I walked in!

[FunkyMonkee]

At one point, she left the room for a few minutes so, I took it back and hid it in my coat or something until I left. I KNOW she liked it but, all she had to do was ask me to make her a copy and I would've been happy to!! I love sharing music with people! I rarely ever get the chance! In fact, that's how we got together in the first place! About a year before my grandmother died, we were shopping for a Chriistmas present and we decided on this wool throw blanket. We decided to split the cost 50/50 but, she said she didn't have the money so, I paid for her half (about $20) and she said she'd give it to me later. Even though I asked, she never did give it back to me! And, the last few years that we were together, instead of her spending all the holidays with me, she always had plans to spend them with her "friend", David! That's, eventually, how I found out she'd been cheating on me those last few years!! I asked if she was coming over for Thanksgiving, she said she already made plans to go to her 'friend", David's. I jokingly asked, "What are you gonna do, marry the guy?" After a pause of a few seconds, she said, "Welllll... yeah!". Later, she said she thought I knew!! HOW? She NEVER told me!! So, I dropped her like a hot brick!! A year later, she broke up with him and went back to India! And, another thing; I've RARELY EVER had any TRUE friends so, why would I risk losing one to a lie? I kinda figured that was you partially by the s/n. Following me is perfectly fine. I followed you back and, if you want, we CAN continue in private.

[Asker]

Wow that's just so mean. How could she cheat on you and then say she thought you new when she didn't even tell her. She didn't tell you so you didn't know and probably never would have if weren't smart enough to put the signs together. Can you send me a private message it won't allow me to send you one.

[FunkyMonkee]

And, after 10 years of loyalty to her!! I can only guess that this started about a year or so before when she tried to fix me up with some cute French girl she met. She invited me to go to some kind of art show with her and a couple friends of hers. I'm more into music and don't much get into art but, she invited me so, I went to her place to meet up with her and then we'd go to the art show from there. When I got to her place, I don't even remember if Ann was already there but, she told me that she felt bad that we weren't having sex anymore (as of the previous 3 years when she shut me off) and wanted me to get involved with Ann in hopes that WE would start having sex. So, it wasn't like she expected me to be Ann''s boyfriend, now but, that Ann would be someone for me to fuck if I wanted to. Kinda weird! So, we went to the art show for an hour or two, I tried to hang with her but, she would make excuses to break away from me with David. After the show, we went back to her place I was left alone with Ann in the front room, no idea where she & Dave were. Although we weren't talking "relationship" it kinda looked to me like Ann was getting interested. After a bit, Ann & Dave left and then she comes to me and pleads with me not to get romantically involved with Ann!! I don't recall her telling me why but it sounded like she'd suddenly discovered that Ann was not a nice person. As Ann had just told me that she's moving back to France in a few days, there was no way in hell I was gonna bother getting involved with her!! She was cute, sweet (from what I could tell) and appeared to be a nice girl but, what's the point in getting involved with someone that's gonna move 6000 miles away, never to be seen in person again?

[FunkyMonkee]

Dave's idea of art, which, SOMEHOW, made him shitloads of cash, was to go through peoples' garbage and pick out various bits of it, put it together in bizarre ways, take pictures of it and sell it to people that do magazine ads!! One was a tiny toy teddy bear sitting in the corner of a small "room" made of floor tiles, another was an album sitting on a spindle from a record player that was attached to one of the slots of an old toaster from the `50's! Another had something to do with a small aquarium with just the blue cinders in it. What kind of crap is this? People actually BUY this shit? Yeah, I'll send you a PM in a moment but, I'm going to bed in a few minutes. Sorry it took so long to answer this, I zonked out for at least an hour.

[Slayerrrrrrr]

Yes absolutely, for me it's every morning...

[YAhallo]

It's normal don't worry

[Twalli]

You aren't crazy and without the possibility of physically harming yourself or others you wouldn't be institutionalized. Also getting a counselor to help you isn't a sign of weakness or mental instability it's a sign if strength and intelligence.

[Asker]

Thanks. I was just wondering because I already get counseling for some mental health problems and I was afraid that my counselor would look at it negatively.

[REDHOTLINE]

Its so normal. You are on the right age for sexual awakening.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Yes most people experience that

[B4852]

I'd say there probably is. Some are stronger experiences than others.

[Anonymous]

I am 23 years old too and I am in a similar situation. I think I achieved sexual awakening through excessive masturbation. I never had sex. I have however reached a point where I feel super ready to have sex. I have never felt that way at all in the past. I guess maybe it is a prime of life thing. Maybe it is also that I am finally living in good circumstances too. I do still have a fear of STIs tho.

[Asker]

Yes, exactly, I know what you are saying. I have a fear of STIs to hence another reason why I am taking it slow and don't just want to go out to have sex with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Fairly normal.

I was with the same woman from age 14 to 32, she same age as me. We went through a lot from her getting pregnant at 15 to several ups and downs, sex wise it happened a lot with her as she had a very high drive and she sort of believed a couple should not be apart more than 48 hours and most certainly they should have sex everyday and even better if it was twice per day. The only thing... it could only happen in missionary position as she didn't want to be on top as she didn't like it and she had a strong opinion about positions where there wasn't face to face or eye contact.
Then I got a new job that required lots of foreign travels, had a lot more money and could afford better stuff in life.

Things got bad between us, then we split up and I found a whole new world out there.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are doing alright. I know a break up can be hard. I also have a high libido, but doing it everyday I don't know, but it seems like my sex drive has gotten higher so maybe I could.

[Opinion Owner]

She chose to make it happen everyday therefore it happened I suppose. Am sure you could do the same. Things are better these days... LOL mostly because I haven't got that much time to ponder over it.

[Asker]

Oh, okay. I see, I'm glad you are doing better.