How do I Tell her we can't have sex?

Question

There's a girl I’ve been getting steamy with & Sex is coming soon.

I can’t because there’s a chance I may have an STD.
I have no clue, but I’m Treading forward as if I do, Until I know for sure.

She’s 20, I’m 21.
At our age, If I say anything about an STD..
She’s gone, Point blank period.
I paid for unprotected sex a few times, so I don’t know.

We talk about sex a ton, if she tries anything, what do I say?
It could be a month before I get in, get tested, Get results & Possibly treatment..

jim009 · Accepted Answer

Well, I would not share the part about paying to rawdog hookers... but! You could say, hey, I made a yolo decision and hooked up with a girl i met on the dance floor and then my crotch started getting itchy (or whatever is making you seek an std test) and I think it's nothing, but I really like you and don't want to put you at risk. I should know for sure in a few weeks (insert timeline, walkin sti clinic is a good idea for a fast result), are you willing to wait?

You can delay it, you can change the details of the story, but you might need to tell her man... if you say nothing and bang her you're a scumbag, if she wants you and you pull away without an explanation she's gone anyway.

Don't fuck up your life, her life, and your rep, just cause you don't wanna wait a few weeks.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

Just say that you think you should both get tested before moving forward, it really isn't uncommon for that to happen these days and it really should be the norm. Why so long to wait to be tested though?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A lot of people get tested as a precaution before having sex with a new partner. Just tell her you want to wait until you get tested just to be safe because you’ve had other partners. That’s a responsible thing to do. Why would it have to be awkward?

purplepoppy · Accepted Answer

Just go to a walk in clinic you'll get a result for most stds there and then. If you have to wait you could always claim you've had an injury.

PrettyPriya · Answer

You MUST be honest with her. It is irresponsible to put her at risk of an STD. Just going to have to bite the bullet as they say.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

You can get same day results in the UK. Certain ones are very fast, others may be next day.

litty · Answer

If you want her, you need to go to a walk in clinic for immediate testing. That won't take a month. Just make sure you always bring protection like condoms and dental dams.