Do you have to be sexually attracted to your spouse for your marriage to work?

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Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

Depends on both sides.
If you're both iceman and icequeen, well then it doesn't have to.
But if one of you is horny or has sexual needs, while the other isn't sexually atracted, it'll be a timebomb.

About the "being sexually attracted" part on its own, it has a lot to do with the mindset.
By focusing on the positive and sexy characteristics and ignoring the negative/unsexy characteristics of the spouse, that can help eventually.
And the not-sexually-attracted man/woman has to force him/herself to focus the attention on the spouse instead of making connections with friends/strangers.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

For me it’s a yes and no.

simply being sexually is not enough, I need a large amount of emotional attraction.

I can sort of live without a huge amount of sexual attraction as long as there is more emotional.

I could not do it with purely emotional alone, there definitely needs to be some sexual.

this does vary between those I’m involved with.

MrCommodore · Answer

Initially yes, otherwise its unlikely that 2 people will get married, but it can definitely fade.

PositiveNote · Answer

I'm not sure how a marriage relationship would work if I were not sexually attracted. Without it would seem to be more of a contractual agreement.

t-8900 · Answer

It you started out attracted to each other and time wore on you both then i mean no it wouldn't be an issue, you'd already be in love with each other. Once my wife gets pregnant and her body changes, gets stretch marks, and after a few gets more saggy and gains weight am I just going to up and leave her? No, hell no, of course not! And besides once you are in love with someone they can look very attractive to you still regardless of how time has worn them down.

exitseven · Answer

I know married people that are not sexually attracted to each other but I would not like that.

humanearth · Answer

I think so, but I could be wrong.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yes, being attracted to your spouse is essential.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Absolutely.

Roah_Boat · Answer

If sex is not being had doesn't that just make you just friends?

Andres77 · Answer

My emotional connection feeds my desire to please her sexually.
My pleasure is for when I've done my job... pleasing her first.
I love her.
I want to please her.
It's satisfying as a man to give her so much.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I do for mine to work. Fortunately thats not an issue.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Yes.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why getting married if your not sexually attracted to him, a person who loves will surely be attracted to the other sexually...

Sexual relations can be easy between the couples if they truly love eachother

Wise4myage · Answer

I think the two go hand in hand.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Yes!

dudeinohio · Answer

I would think so.

Twalli · Answer

You should be at the start

KrakenAttackin · Answer

ABSOLUTELY. Otherwise your "marriage" might just as well be a child care arrangement or a business partnership.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

It is part of the of the marriage that helps it work but there are many other part that make it work and I am not about to try and list those just to have people say I missed one. Most people know it is not just sex that make marriage work

Guardian45 · Answer

Yup!

OnTheLevel · Answer

I don't know if it's 100% necessary, but it sure does help.

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