Guys, Sex or no sex?

Guys, if you go on a first date with a female and things are going really well. If she makes the first move, does that make her an automatic no for girlfriend material?

... If she knows what she likes sexually and goes after it. Does that make her a no go for a relationship?
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  • If we have great chemistry and connection then it would be a turn on , When I meet a great girl that I am attracted to and we have great chemistry and connection I don’t put a time limit on when we will have sex , sometimes we meet people that we instantly know we are an awesome match and very attracted to each other , so if I end up having sex with her that night , my intentions are to keep having sex with that girl more and more , it would only be a turn off if she didn’t want to see me again after that night, I would then think she just wanted to get off and just used me for her convenience , but if she was all about seeing me more and more then to me That’s a great thing.

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  • I wouldn't say so. I'd politely decline (with something like "I'm not ready for that yet" or "Let's hold off on that for a bit"), since, y'know, disease and all, but I'm not going to hold wanting to escalate faster than I do against her- assuming that she can take "not yet" for an answer and attempted reasonable escalation instead of just holding a knife to my throat and demanding sex. Over-eagerness is okay, violent insanity isn't.

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  • Not at all. If she likes sex and knows what she wants it is not a deal breaker for me.

  • As a long term option yes, for me anyway. I like a woman that has some respect for herself and doesn't give it up to easily, just makes me think she'll sleep with anyone and I'm in no way special to her.

    • If you got to know her after that first date where you had sex, and found she doesn't give it up to anyone... would that change how you felt?

    • Possibly, yes, I'd still rather they save it for after the 3rd date or so though.

    • Ok fair enough

  • It's really just a matter of compatibility.

    Sex on first or second date is the norm if you both can hit it off well. Too many people these days overcomplicate things and add unnecessary drama.

  • I would be turned on. And it wouldn't affect anything for me as far as "girlfriend material", that doesn't exist for me (ie everyone is "girlfriend material" if I want a girlfriend). And if anything, I'd want her even more.

  • Not necessarily, it would depend on her personality and how she goes for it.

  • I would make the final decision after taking some time to get to know her better. I would not dismiss her for that especially if things were going well.

  • I'd be happy to know someone that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go for it. It would not negatively the chance of our relationship becoming more serious.

  • Nope honestly I see that as. Plus I'm more likely to pursue a relationship with a woman whose openly sexual from the jump

    • My kind of answer!

    • You sound like My kind of woman!

  • For me personally I would admire her even more but whether we have sex or not wouldn't be the deciding factor for a relationship it would be our chemistry as a whole but since we are attracted to each other physically it's definitely a good sign!

  • I think sex is fine the first date. I’ve done it with girls I’ve continued with

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