Do you think having your mother as the/ a dominant parent figure influence how ‘masculine’ a boy is growing up?

[Anonymous]

My parents are like two peas in a pod ok proud of it, but 100% my mum is the alpha.

I've wondered if this has influenced my personality growing up. I know for a fact I’m not as masculine as other dudes, in the sense I: I show my emotions often, cry publicly if I’m upset, comfortable talking about period related topics, I can honestly say I’ve never ‘eyed’ a women for her in a sexual manner, (though I have started wondering if maybe I’m demisexual). I’ve always been comfortable with me; I do ‘weird’ (weird to the norm for a guy) shit, like dress up as a sexy cowgirl (you bet your ass I was sexy) for Halloween, flirt with literally everyone both girls and dudes, (ima slut).

I just feel as if my mother being the more impactful role model influenced me more, and I’m curious if maybe y’all think it’s common for those who’s mothers are the dominant parental figure.

-note I’m not trans I’m comfortable with me.
Im not gay or anything I’m straight (as said I’m confused with the demisexual stuff, but I mean I jack of to porn with chicks so 🤷)
My parents are somewhat progressive but old fashioned, eg: they kinda talk smack about non-binary people sadly. So it’s not a whole ‘progressive thinking parents’.

[Maxiebleu]

I disagree in a way that even though your mother is considered the "Alpha" between both of your parents, I don't think she influences in a way that one should like the same gender or what not. Like being emotional and being goofy like dressing up in female clothing and such doesn't mean that your gay/bi/trans etc. I 100% believe that it is TOTALLY OKAY to be emotional as a dude. I personally believe that being "emotional" really helps connects with people, especially us girls. I hate that society is telling everyone that "Men cannot be emotional because it lacks masculinity" that's straight up dumb as fu**. Like okay don't be over sensitive and be a cry baby about every little thing but if you are upset or depressed its okay to get emotional, just don't let it control you, ya know? Like it is totally okay for men to have feelings... I hate how society tells men that they cannot and that they have to the a rock with no motions. That's not human.

[Asker]

Interesting, do you think maybe the whole being goofy and all are more impacted by her character? My question is more Sorry if it made it seem like I was saying she impacted my sexuality I didn’t mean that at all, I know that’s something uncontrolled by anyone, just how you feel. I still have thought about it and reckon me being comfortable is more due to the fact my mother was alpha, however I get it’s more likely just cause of her character that I’m the way I am.

[Destiel_24]

It doesn’t sound like there’s something wrong, it sounds like you are not as oppressed by the patriarchy as other men, you know yourself better (or accept it) and are more free. Also you don’t sound like the type of guy women tend to run away from (because of toxic masculinity, extreme sexism, no empathy and things like that), I don't know it sound like more fun.
Oh and I want to make clear the difference between sexual attraction, romantic attraction (that these two don’t always match), gender identity (male, female, nb…) and gender expression (masculine, feminine, androgynous), these last two also don’t have to match

[Asker]

I don’t think anything’s wrong (sorry if it seemed like that), I’m just curios if you would think this is a result of having a mother as the leading role model. Interesting points on the sexual/romantic attraction. Kinda clarifies things for me.

[Destiel_24]

Well I wasn’t sure about the wrong thing so better say it right? But what I try to say is that you are an individual and sure your environment affects you somehow but doesn’t change who you are, with an oppressive role model you probably would have been like you are but as I said oppressed and would think bad things about yourself or be sad about it, a woman being your role model sometimes is more liberal due to women have always been oppressed and empathize more in that way (obviously this is always generic) For example, a lot of gay kids have homofobic parents, but does that stop them from being them? No, it just makes them sad and not able to express themselves

[Destiel_24]

And yes, sexuality and gender are very confusing, you don’t always have a solid answer, it may change as you learn or you may not like any label and that’s fine because it is a very wide spectrum and what matters is that you are comfortable with yourself

[moviedude714]

I feel it definitely has a major effect, me personally I never felt like a dominant take charge or leader type guy by nature and I sometimes wonder if my parental upbringing has had an effect on that.

Because I will admit, I have noticed and observed the way my parents have interacted with each other over the years and I have seen my dad be indecisive around my mom, I have heard him literally say things to my mom such as "I don't know, whatever you want to do is fine".

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's why there's so damn many snowflakes about these days.

[Asker]

Meh I find There’s being snowflakes and then there’s expressing emotions, too me they can be confused but they aren’t codependent.