Why does my boyfriend like to do everything but basic penetration 👉👌?

[Anonymous]

It’s early in the relationship and we just started wrestling, some oral, and assistance in masturbating. We tried full on intercourse once but he was soft and we just made out instead. It’s been avoid since his pupil shows signs he is attracted to me. He said it’s due to medication he is taking and really likes pleasing me. I haven’t given him oral since that one time he is used to his own touch. He might have erectile dysfunction and finds alternatives to stimulate?

Maybe he is performance shy?
Is he avoiding full on intercourse?

[DonkeyDan]

A lot of medication can cause problems with performance and ED. If it is that and he's not just using it as an excuse for something else then he really should speak to his doctor for a solution, either reduced medication or even Viagra. If it is something else like performance anxiety then talk to his about it and calm his worries and work together to help him over it. The problem with anxiety related performance issues is they are self feeding, your performance is affected by anxiety and you become more anxious and it affects your performance more and it goes on like that getting worse and worse. He need to know that he can have sex with you and you won't judge him in his performance, and the more practice he gets the less it will be an issue.

[Asker]

This is very useful thank you!

[NamerOfStars]

It could be any of the above- or more than one. A penis isn't like a light switch, with "hard" and "soft" and nothing in between; and it's entirely possible for him to be able to get erect enough to masturbate, but not to properly penetrate. Some medicines can definitely do that, and if performance anxiety kicks in, it gets even worse, because that's a self-reinforcing problem (you feel you can't perform well, so you perform poorly, which makes your feelings of poor performance even stronger...). Usually it's just temporary and goes away on its own, but sometimes it's a longer-term thing.

The key, I think, is to be patient, understanding, and creative. If reproduction isn't the goal, there's no real "wrong way" to have sex, so long as you're both happy and satisfied.

[Wise4myage]

Given his age, Id say its a performance issue, so go easy on him for now. But not forever.

[vald9inches]

That is pretty weird not gonna lie lol

[astep]

Is he virgin? Maybe he is just stressed and unsecure. That can cause him to get soft just before he should start the intercourse. Make him more comfortable and dont force the things.

[Asker]

He has been with two other people. I have only been with one aside from him. He mentioned medications and performance anxiety

[astep]

If you wanna talk more about it DM me

[B4852]

Let him get more comfortable.

[Anonymous]

He says it's due to medication, so that's what I would take his word for. He could be worried about performance and maybe even you getting pregnant, but only he can answer that. He says it's medication so we are usually direct, I would assume it's whatever medication he's on then.

[Anonymous]

If he can get fully hard and cum by masturbating there likely isn't an issue that is being caused by drugs. If he can't he may want to discuss it with his doctor. If he's just shy it may take him time to get more comfortable around you. Some guys are embarrassed about their semen, so let him know you aren't.

[Asker]

Thank you! Yes, I think he is shy to trying to get a sense for things. I appreciate your insight

[Opinion Owner]

I hope it all works out for you and him. 🤗🤗

[Anonymous]

Work with him... it's probably the meds affecting it or he's just having anxieties.

[Asker]

I feel it’s both! Thank you! I will continue to be patient