Girls, If a guy loses his erection the first time you hook up, what do you think?

[Anonymous]

Do you tell your friends?

[PrettyPriya]

Nah, I don't tell anyone about stuff like that. It is really not a big deal. I would try to "help" the situation.

I would also understand that in most likelihood it was from being nervous for first time. Not the end of the world.

[Asker]

What do you mean by help the situation?

[PrettyPriya]

Ok, so didn't want to get graphic but I would probably give some oral if he was having some trouble. Or anything else that might help. Get what I'm saying?

[Asker]

In my situation I was hard then she was playing with me and a little rough, apparently she likes it rough, and grabbed my nuts hard and it made me go soft

[PrettyPriya]

Oof. Yeah, not something I would do. Can't blame you there if she was getting rough.

[Asker]

She didn’t really prepare for that, she just said she likes to be a little rough. Why do you say you can’t blame me there?

[PrettyPriya]

Can't blame you that you went from hard to soft when she was rough. Obviously, not your cup of tea. Maybe just communicate with her your likes/dislikes for next time. These are things you learn when first having sex with a new person. You grow from it and sex gets better as you go along.

[Asker]

I’m still a virgin. She did say she didn’t squeeze very hard but it felt pretty hard

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you AI Bot

[sophiejo]

No big deal nerves get the better of everyone at some point in time just comfort him and try something different to see if we can change the situation

[Asker]

Would you tell your friends what happened? We go to the same college so I’m worried she’ll tell others

[sophiejo]

No I wouldn't, that's a very personal matter and I would never tell anyone about it. If she's a decent person she won't say anything

[Asker]

Has a guy ever gotten soft like that around you? She said she likes it rough and I didn’t know what that meant since I’m a virgin. I was really hard but then she grabbed my nuts pretty hard and I went soft

[sophiejo]

Yes it has happened more than once it's totally normal. Especially if it's your first time and definitely from her grabbing your balls that's totally understandable especially if that's not something you're in to I know some guys are

[Asker]

Why do you say it’s understandable if she grabbed my balls? She said she didn’t grab that hard but it felt hard to me

[sophiejo]

I know they're sensitive to things like that I guess it hurt and that's a definite turn off for most people (obviously some people are in to pain/pleasure mix)

[Asker]

Yeah it hurt, we were making out when it happened and I had a big Hardon, she was playing with my penis which was great, then she grabbed my balls and squeezed and I went down to knees and went soft

[sophiejo]

She should have communicated with you to make sure you're okay with stuff like that, completely get why you had issues

[Asker]

So you wouldn’t expect a guy your making out with to continue with the make out if you did that? It sucks because we were gonna have sex I think

[sophiejo]

I wouldn't do that without making sure that was something he likes and if he wanted to stop that would be okay with me

[Asker]

How do you know what’s okay and what’s not? Like right before that she was rubbing my penis which felt great, would u ask about that too?

[sophiejo]

Yes consent is key in any sexual encounter obviously if he was in to it you can perceive consent for certain aspects but for something intimate or especially something not everyone will be in to the person should always ask for consent

[Asker]

what would you have expected in her shoes if you grabbed him hard?

[sophiejo]

I don't know because that's not something I would do without knowing that it was something he likes

[Asker]

I’m embarrassed because it Made me feel like I’m not strong or whatever