@CrazyGirl2 I'm planning on losing my virginity with my friend with benefits tonight (we are both virgins we were just doing mainly oral stuff) he's my roommate too and I think I've caught feeling's for him. im definitely prepared for it I've got condoms lube and even some really cute crotchless lingerie but I feel bad asking him to use a condom is that weird.
@jess2022 Yeah, but finding out that you have an STI because you were worried about “weird”? Nowadays people have a very strange definition of virgin! Virgin used to mean someone who hasn’t had sex. Today, someone whose had anal sex 150 times and starred in 15 anal gang bang porn films will say she is a virgin if she’s never don “it” vaginally! Look, you have to do what makes you comfortable. But STIs like HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Herpes, even HPV can be spread through oran sex, anal sex. While HIV studies have shown it unlikely to contract the disease through oral sex, if a person has ANY open oral wound, like a tooth cavity, a canker sore (mouth ulcer) of inflamed tonsils which are bleeding, then absolutely it can be passed. If you desperately want to have sex without a condom, then both go to a clinic and get a quick test to see whether or not either of you are infected to any STIs. Besides… he wouldn’t be the FIRST guy to lie about being a virgin, just to get laid! But Jess, you are 21, you are an adult, and as such you are free to decide what is best for you, your health, and the health of your future children. (Syphilis in a pregnant woman, can cause her child to be born blind. Many times that is HOW the woman discovered she had Syphilis, especially since there are very rarely outward signs or even symptoms she has it!) So, good luck, and a hope you make the right decision.
@CrazyGirl2 We both got tested before we started doing anything (I've done anal once) my ex put me under the impression that all guys hate wearing condoms and it's a massive turn off (we never had sex, he had a bigger ego than dick) I do realise now that's not the case I think I'm just nervous about losing my virginity and don't want to fuck it up
@CrazyGirl2 he definitely isn't lying about being a virgin I have known him for a while he was the very Christian keep yourself till marriage type until he moved out of his parents house. Considering we are friends with benefits it is actually quite intimate and he actually respects what I like and don't like
@jess2022 Just remember jess the pill is 99% effective, there is still a chance of pregnancy. However as I said, you are 21, it’s entirely up to you. If you have both been tested, then why not? Also, you can’t possibly screw it up! You are loosing your virginity, all you have to do, is lie there and if it hurts, just do some deep breathing exercises. Square breathing works great for me during menstrual cramps. Square breathing is where you breathe in for say 10 seconds, hold or 10 seconds, breathe out for 10 seconds, hold for 10 seconds and repeat! Obviously you can use any number of seconds, just use that same number in all four steps. Now, if it doesn’t hurt, and it likely won’t just enjoy it! Listen to your body, if it feels good and you want to moan, moan! If you want to wrap your legs around him, do it! It really is that simple! Good luck, and hope you have fun.
@CrazyGirl2 I would ideally like to use a condom, I'll ask him soon. I am a bit ashamed that im losing my virginity at 21 though
@jess2022 Jesus! Don’t EVER be ashamed!!! My god if I hadn’t been raped at 13, I would have loved to save myself for marriage! I guess when something like that happens a whole load of “don’t give a shits” kinda pop up! Seriously, be proud that no only did you not loose it to a pimple faced 16 y/o in the back of his moms car, but you are loosing it on your own terms! If you even have the tiniest thought that you want him to use a condom… MAKE HIM USE ONE! Believe me NO guy about to loose his virginity would say “nah, never mind” when you tell him he needs to wear a condom! Believe me, I had to have an abortion like 45 days after my 13th birthday! (Because I was SO tiny, the pregnancy may have killed me, and if I survived it, I would never have been able to have anymore children) people who are anti abortion often say “except in cases of rape, incest, or the life of the mother… I had all THREE. It was clearly a rape, the rapist was my fathers twin brother, so they have the same dna, so the birth defects were so profound, the baby would never have lived outside the womb!, and MY life was at risk! Yet I STILL feel guilty about the abortion, and it wasn’t even my choice my mom made the decision. You are making the right call, good Luck. I hope its everything you dreamed it would be.
@CrazyGirl2 We did it, I don't know what i was worrying about I didn't even need to ask him to use a condom, I was never in a position to lose my virginity at an earlier age, most guys that I knew were extremely childish for their age and I didn't really want a relationship with someone who has the thought process of someone half their age
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Smh. Of course use a condom.