Should I use a condom with one night stands?

[Maddywastaken]

Is being on the pill enough or should we also use condoms?

[CrazyGirl2]

Absolutely YES! The pill does not stop us from contracting STIs like HIV, HPV, Herpes, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, et al. STIs are particularly dangerous to us, because even if they are detected and cured (of those which even CAN be cured), we can still face infertility, fibroids, uterine cysts, and a host of other “bad shit”! While our grandmother’s were burning their bras and screwing their way through the crowds at Woodstock, armed with nothing but a healthy sexual appetite and the “pill”, for granny a case of the “clap” (Gonorrhea), or Syphilis meant a shot in the ass and a week of penicillin! Today however, those STIs can be completely resistant to antibiotics, and are extremely difficult to cure, increasing their risk of serious health effects for us later in life! Condoms may not allow for the best sexual experience, but it beats the alternative. Look, if you are living on a college campus, you may have 15 to 30 thousand guys to choose from, and if you discovered that only ONE percent of those guys had any STIs, you’d likely think those great odds, right? But if I handed you a bowl with 25 thousand Skittles, and said “Don’t worry, only ONE percent of them are poisoned”. Precisely how many would you eat? Exactly, NONE! So just treat nasty sexual disease infected guys like poisoned Skittles, and ALWAYS USE CONDOMS! Especially when you are eating a different Skittle every night!

[jess2022]

@CrazyGirl2 I'm planning on losing my virginity with my friend with benefits tonight (we are both virgins we were just doing mainly oral stuff) he's my roommate too and I think I've caught feeling's for him. im definitely prepared for it I've got condoms lube and even some really cute crotchless lingerie but I feel bad asking him to use a condom is that weird.

[CrazyGirl2]

@jess2022 Yeah, but finding out that you have an STI because you were worried about “weird”? Nowadays people have a very strange definition of virgin! Virgin used to mean someone who hasn’t had sex. Today, someone whose had anal sex 150 times and starred in 15 anal gang bang porn films will say she is a virgin if she’s never don “it” vaginally! Look, you have to do what makes you comfortable. But STIs like HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Herpes, even HPV can be spread through oran sex, anal sex. While HIV studies have shown it unlikely to contract the disease through oral sex, if a person has ANY open oral wound, like a tooth cavity, a canker sore (mouth ulcer) of inflamed tonsils which are bleeding, then absolutely it can be passed. If you desperately want to have sex without a condom, then both go to a clinic and get a quick test to see whether or not either of you are infected to any STIs. Besides… he wouldn’t be the FIRST guy to lie about being a virgin, just to get laid! But Jess, you are 21, you are an adult, and as such you are free to decide what is best for you, your health, and the health of your future children. (Syphilis in a pregnant woman, can cause her child to be born blind. Many times that is HOW the woman discovered she had Syphilis, especially since there are very rarely outward signs or even symptoms she has it!) So, good luck, and a hope you make the right decision.

[jess2022]

@CrazyGirl2 We both got tested before we started doing anything (I've done anal once) my ex put me under the impression that all guys hate wearing condoms and it's a massive turn off (we never had sex, he had a bigger ego than dick) I do realise now that's not the case I think I'm just nervous about losing my virginity and don't want to fuck it up

[jess2022]

@CrazyGirl2 he definitely isn't lying about being a virgin I have known him for a while he was the very Christian keep yourself till marriage type until he moved out of his parents house. Considering we are friends with benefits it is actually quite intimate and he actually respects what I like and don't like

[CrazyGirl2]

@jess2022 Just remember jess the pill is 99% effective, there is still a chance of pregnancy. However as I said, you are 21, it’s entirely up to you. If you have both been tested, then why not? Also, you can’t possibly screw it up! You are loosing your virginity, all you have to do, is lie there and if it hurts, just do some deep breathing exercises. Square breathing works great for me during menstrual cramps. Square breathing is where you breathe in for say 10 seconds, hold or 10 seconds, breathe out for 10 seconds, hold for 10 seconds and repeat! Obviously you can use any number of seconds, just use that same number in all four steps. Now, if it doesn’t hurt, and it likely won’t just enjoy it! Listen to your body, if it feels good and you want to moan, moan! If you want to wrap your legs around him, do it! It really is that simple! Good luck, and hope you have fun.

[jess2022]

@CrazyGirl2 I would ideally like to use a condom, I'll ask him soon. I am a bit ashamed that im losing my virginity at 21 though

[CrazyGirl2]

@jess2022 Jesus! Don’t EVER be ashamed!!! My god if I hadn’t been raped at 13, I would have loved to save myself for marriage! I guess when something like that happens a whole load of “don’t give a shits” kinda pop up! Seriously, be proud that no only did you not loose it to a pimple faced 16 y/o in the back of his moms car, but you are loosing it on your own terms! If you even have the tiniest thought that you want him to use a condom… MAKE HIM USE ONE! Believe me NO guy about to loose his virginity would say “nah, never mind” when you tell him he needs to wear a condom! Believe me, I had to have an abortion like 45 days after my 13th birthday! (Because I was SO tiny, the pregnancy may have killed me, and if I survived it, I would never have been able to have anymore children) people who are anti abortion often say “except in cases of rape, incest, or the life of the mother… I had all THREE. It was clearly a rape, the rapist was my fathers twin brother, so they have the same dna, so the birth defects were so profound, the baby would never have lived outside the womb!, and MY life was at risk! Yet I STILL feel guilty about the abortion, and it wasn’t even my choice my mom made the decision. You are making the right call, good Luck. I hope its everything you dreamed it would be.

[jess2022]

@CrazyGirl2 We did it, I don't know what i was worrying about I didn't even need to ask him to use a condom, I was never in a position to lose my virginity at an earlier age, most guys that I knew were extremely childish for their age and I didn't really want a relationship with someone who has the thought process of someone half their age

[AmandaYVR]

YessssssssssssssssssSSSSSSSSSS. You have to use condoms when you don't know the person's history and neither of you is providing a clean bill of health to the other.

There are antibiotic-resistant STDs/STIs now.
Some cause nasty, painful, abscesses. Some cause infertility.

[pickedcrisps]

Personally, two things.
I always would wear condoms.
I would always wear condoms even in a closed (non-open) relationship.

I always insist on condoms and birth control combined. And if anal is on the menu too in my life I always use condoms lube combined for anal.

I never do oral. I always seek out women unicorns who share my tastes and my dislikes. No oral giving no oral receiving. Why? Obvious really. Germs.

[CuriousJC]

If you're not ready to have a child then I suggest you use condoms. But it's kind of pointless to have sex on a one night, because if a man have sex with a woman he has to be willing to go the whole yard meaning take responsibility for you not just hit it and then move on to the next woman. That is disrespect towards all women.

[Michael49]

You can NEVER be too safe. I absolutely suggest that you do. Its not just the chance of getting pregnant but safe guarding against STD’s

[MatthewA]

Use a condom!!! You don’t want a thot to have your child !!!

[Daniela1982]

Use a condom too as either can fail. It also helps protect against STD's.

[purplepoppy]

Definitely be on the pill. Most men will insist on using a condom if they don't know you anyway.

[CindyRuns]

Definitely... unless you want to pick up an STD !!!

[hannahjo022]

YES, PLEASE USE CONDOMS! Even if you are on the pill, you should use condoms especially with one-night stands. It helps you from getting a STD. I am a PA and young girls like you would be on the pill and don't use condoms will come in complaining about white discharge and itchiness. it is a sexual bacterial infection that is passed on from a sexual partner to another sexual partner by not wearing condoms.

[whirled_up_girl]

Use a condom, birth control pills won't protect you against HIV and STDs.

[Flower7]

Definitely use condoms also to protect against STDs.

[erandal]

Of course. You should always use a condom unless you (a) want an STD or (b) want to get pregnant, or (c) both. Also the pill doesn't always work if you have a cold. I found out about that the hard way and my daughter is 26 next year.

[ushagomez]

Condom required to act as barrier for STIs.

[ohshee]

I've always wanted to stand 1 night

[Mary087]

Yeah unless you wanna catch some disease. Its a way to dodge a bullet of getting pregnant or catching stds so id use a condom. The guy i hooked up with had no issue wearing one.

[Tamera952]

Yes, duh... the pill doesn't protect against STD's. Did you cut health class in school, or what?

[Elliegirl]

A very emphatic yes!

[Poppymarie]

The pill can’t protect you against STDs, and who knows where they’ve been. Use a condom and stay safe.

[EmmaMary]

Surely you should know that Double Protection is by far the best.

[Adam1978]

Yes because you don't want stds. Pregnancies can be something good, but stds are never a good thing so they should be higher on your agenda to protect against. But you should protect against both. Don't get kids until you are ready.

[jillybeanns]

Unless you want to risk catching HIV/AIDS just take the pill.

[jillybeanns]

Smh. Of course use a condom.

[Mary087]

My thoughts👌

[Brebaby]

Yes you should cause you never know about an std

[DonkeyDan]

If you don't want to catch an STD yeah you should.