Serious Question: Why do men like to cum on their woman?

[Anonymous]

I'm asking this question because my boyfriend and I just became intimate.

Prior to being with him, I was celibate for 8 years and only had sex with the person I lost my virginity to (it wasn't great). And let's say before now, I wasn't that experienced.

The last time my boyfriend and I were "together," after several intense love making sessions... at the end he pulled out and came all over the back of my body. He seemed so pleased! He ended by slapping my ass and giving me a kiss.

I was really confused and didn't know if I should feel okay about this or not lol.

Can someone explain why guys do this?

[humpbackjack]

I’ve done it many times with several different girls and most of them have told me where to come or I ask where and most actually liked it even played with it and yes it is a little bit of a degrading thing but a lot of women like being treated bad and rough during sex. It’s bad in a good way and rough in a fun way so it usually works for all involved plus if you haven’t designated where before hand and I’m sure he wasn’t wanting to risk pregnancy what would you want him to do with it and I’m sure he meant no disrespect even if he likes degrading you some it’s meant to be fun hell a lot of women like being came on spanked hair pulled slapped in the face choked spit on pissed on and called every name in the book my wife likes all of that and more

[Asker]

I'm guilty of some of these things. You're right it's all about preferences. I don't believe he meant it in a degrading way now either. You two get it in, nice! Thanks for sharing your insight!!!

[humpbackjack]

You’re very welcome and just try to keep an open mind and communicate your likes and dislikes and your hard no’s I see it as it’s kinda or job to try and introduce each other to fun so if I don’t know your limits then I might cross a line unintentionally. Sex should be fun and exciting for all involved not feeling embarrassed or disrespected or violated in anyway

[Asker]

You're right! I need to be more open about communicating my likes and dislikes about sex. We're still learning and growing together. But, so far I'd our sexual chemistry is pretty great. I think I was just offended for no reason. I appreciate your advice!

[humpbackjack]

Glad I could help and always test your limits in everything

[Anonymous]

You are a self-identified sapiosexual, so you should understand that the brain is the most important sexual organ, and fantasy is the fuel that feeds it. With that in mind, if he treats you well outside the bedroom and takes care of your need in bed, why would you have an issue with him coming on your backside and giving it a sensual smack?

I would suggest watching some porn yourself and exercising and developing your own most important sexual muscle. You might find you develop some of your own fantasies that HE can help YOU realize. Sex is one of the most natural and meaningful experiences in life. Why not enjoy it to the fullest? And allow him to.

[Asker]

Jaw dropping advice. You are absolutely right!!! I'll definitely take head to this. He is pretty amazing in almost every way.

[Opinion Owner]

Best of luck to the two of you. Cheers

[Asker]

Thanks!

[chrissykerdock]

looks like you got a lot of guy answers and not enough girl answers... guys like it for different reasons... well maybe not too many... slightly degrading maybe that you'd agree to do that for them makes them feel good and dominant... maybe they get it from porn... personally i find it sexy love to feel it go on not so easy to get if off... most guys want that once in awhile as they seem to like cumming in the mouth much more... but you let a guy cum on your face he may like obediance and feel you must really like him things of that elk

[Asker]

Thanks for giving more feminine insight. This makes a lot of sense too. I don't think it'll be all that bad from time to time.

[chrissykerdock]

yes it will be a time to time occurence not too often

[kramerrocks]

for me it has nothing to do with degrading a women.. which no man should do... or dominance... its i see a pretty face... i want to cum on it... great tits... guess what... u guessed it i want to cum on them... what's better then cumming on a pretty face or a great set of tits?

[Bobsyoruncle]

... Explain...

I can’t.

I’ve always assumed that porno movies often featured this at the end to ‘prove’ that the sex was ‘real’.

I’ve never been a fan of blow jobs or anal sex. When I copulate I want to go ‘bareback’, in a woman’s vagina, and when I ejaculate I want to thrust with my pelvis as hard as I can against her buttocks to push my penis as deeply as I can into the woman’s vagina and then continue to push, with no in and out movement until I’ve released all of my semen.

I have a short penis (4 1/2”) and any deviation from this can easily result in my penis slipping out and my semen being ejaculated up onto the woman’s back. (I habitually mount a woman from behind)

It completely ruins my climax when that happens.

[Asker]

Thank you for your detailed response. I guess that it's different for every person, and there's not a one size fits all answer.

[DonkeyDan]

I love to cum on a girl, the visual of painting a girl with my hot cum is hot, but I guess it's a dominance thing as well. I like cumming up their back or on their stomach best, that is if I'm not cumming in their pussy or mouth.

[Asker]

I agree with you, I think it was a way of him asserting his dominance and seeing something he fantasized about.

[Kaneki05]

Tbh i don't see much point in just cumming on a woman unless if it's what she's using to do it.
So i have no clue really. But if you don't like it, should just bring it up. If you don't mind it but just confused well all ya need to know is he enjoys it which therefore the sake of getting pleasure from giving one pleasure is to be said there.

[VDrago14]

Some guys really enjoy cumming on the woman's body. Some of this could perhaps be attributed to porn as it's very common there (generally facials) but blowing loads on the body is also common. The only time I pulled out and shot cum on my wife or whatever woman I was fucking at the time was when I wasn't wearing a condom and going for the pull out method.

[Asker]

Thank you for this insight. This totally makes sense!

[mikey0613]

He does this because he saw it in porn and is emulating that.. its probably better than him cumming inside you and risking pregnancy.

[Asker]

I guess that makes sense.

[FilmGuy93]

Would you rather he finished inside you? Cumming on the girl just looks sexy. We cum when we orgasm, so cumming on our partner is like marking our territory.

[Asker]

Honestly, yes. He has a condom on... so that would've been fine. I never thought about it being something a guy would find sexy. Interesting. Thanks for sharing your two cents, much appreciated.

[Massageman]

Because we think it might seem more intimate than just using a towel or a Handi-Wipe?

[Asker]

You're right, that would kill the denouement of the vibe!

[Massageman]

Wow! The first time I had even seen/heard of "denouement" in casual talk, rather than a novel. But very appropriate!

[Asker]

Hahaha there is always a first time for everything!

[Hairylegs222]

So I love exploding all over the girl every time, especially her boobs, so I can try to explain why.

All that pleasure from her looks, stroking me, sexy talk, different positions, etc is all built up. I want all that pleasure build up all over her. The bigger and more powerful the load, the more it shows how hot and pleasurable it all was that's all over her. It's so much more satisfying seeing my hot cum all over her, especially her boobs.

It's so intense and hot too when it's about to burst and she prepares herself for the load. She sticks out her boobs basically saying "Explode all over my boobs please".

Also so hot when she's jerking it off onto herself and she controls how hard it bursts. She can hold it tightly for farther burst shots. She can point it wherever she wants the big load to go.

[Asker]

Hey there! Thank you for explaining your reasoning behind it! It's nice to understand what a guy is thinking. This also makes a lot of sense. I hadn't considered this before.

[bittermoonx]

Caause that's how humans reproduce, it's natural selection

[Asker]

On, not in lol.

[whatsthereinname]

That's perfectly normal... You either come inside her or of you pull it out.. it's like cumming on her

In fact you can think about it and if you find that hot, you can ask him to come in any particular part

[Wise4myage]

I enjoy cumming on a girls boobs the most. Not sure why it confused you, but ask him about it.

[Asker]

Just was curious if there was a significance behind it. Thanks for sharing!

[Wise4myage]

No it just feels really and some girls are really into it. Have yo tried it? You’re welcome.😊

[Asker]

Not yet. Maybe I should! You should try everything at least once, right?

[Wise4myage]

I agree, I hope you do try it.😜

[Wise4myage]

It’s a real turn on for me.

[larry69]

I prefer cumming inside her pussy.

[Glasgow55]

I don't understand this at all. It maybe looks good in movies, but I think it's degrading and disrespectful to the woman. I've done it once or twice, but only because the girl asked, but I didn't like it, not even on boobs, which I love.

[Asker]

Honestly, I did feel slightly disrespected and surprised in an odd kind of way. He did clean it off of me. But, I was left a little confused. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

[Glasgow55]

Welcome, and good luck.

[Den1971]

Where are we supposed to cum?

[Asker]

Um, I was thinking he would cum in the condom that he pulled off.

[Den1971]

True. Didn't know he was wearing one. Then I don't know why. I think in a guy's mind that coming in a condom is kind of like a waste of like the work that we put in to get your orgasm in mind you know what I mean maybe you don't maybe I didn't word that right but I think that's just like a gratification thing with guys that's kind of saying thank you instead of actually saying it it's like the finished product if you don't like what you did just tell him but whenever y'all stop using condoms that still may happen and then was you supposed to do it at

[Den1971]

Don't be confused I'm sure that he didn't mean it in any kind of disrespectful way

[Asker]

Thanks for your that response. This makes much more sense. Maybe I read too far into it. Safe sex is great sex. Hahaha. Never know what the future might hold.

[Den1971]

True

[Mcmarvelous]

I suppose it's a masculine look what I did thing. I've always prefers to cum inside. It's a hot view when it's all filled up. The only time I find it hot for a girl to be came on is when there's more than one guy. But even then it's hotter when it's inside, makes it feel better.

[In_Trance]

for the same reason women like it when men do it

[Asker]

To each is own. Thanks for your response!

[OddBeMe]

More importantly, why are you so shameful about sex?

[Asker]

Do you really think I'm coming off as shameful? I wouldn't say I'm ashamed. Just not that experienced is all.

[OddBeMe]

I don’t mean to offend, but I read words like “celibate” and I think religious and shameful. Anyway. Sex should be fun and he should be doing what you want. If you dislike cum soaking your back, I would certainly understand. But if you don’t mind it, and it get him so excited you have better orgasms, win win. You do have multiple orgasms, yes?

[Asker]

Oh okay. Not offended, I was just curious. I was celibate because I consider myself to be a sapiosexual. I hadn't met anyone that stimulated me enough mentally to get remotely close to stimulate me sexually. At least not until him. He pleases me, well. I was just surprised by his actions as that is something I never experienced before or thought he would do. It was a turn on have us both be satisfied. However, I felt slightly degraded... probably a personal problem of mine because I'm an overthinker. Sex is fun with him and he's the only partner I've had that gets me to orgasm lol.

[OddBeMe]

Yes your boyfriend probably likes cumming on you because he’s watched it in porn. And there’s probably a level of degradation that he finds sexually stimulating. But that’s ok. As long as you both enjoy it.

[Asker]

Okay, thank you for your opinions!

[OddBeMe]

Oh and make him go down on you. Force it. Trust me.

[Asker]

Hahaha okay, thanks!

[Pterodon]

He can stick his dick in your pussy but you can’t ask him this?

[Pterodon]

As far how you should feel that isn’t up to us. Did you like it or not?

[Asker]

Well, I was taken back and didn't want to kill the vibe. I guess I could...

[Pterodon]

Yeah you should. You should also tell him if you liked it or not

[Asker]

Still trying to figure that out. Leaning more towards a no. Have you ever done this? If so, what was your reason?

[Pterodon]

I did it but on her belly because she didn’t want me to cum in her pussy. I’ve also done it in her ass crack and her butthole, her tits, her mouth for the same reason. She loved it

[Asker]

Interesting, sounds like you two are compatible. Thanks for sharing your opinion!

[Pterodon]

She was a 29 year old virgin and I was 54 at the time. We met on this very site and had a very serious 4 year relationship

[Asker]

Well, you never know where you'll meet your person. As for me, I'm not sure, I'm still deciding lol.

[Pterodon]

We lived in neighboring states. I’m looking for someone. PM me anytime

[Asker]

I'm good love. Have a good night.

[Pterodon]

You too

[OnTheLevel]

Primal marking of territory

[Asker]

Thanks for your response!