Can you still be a virgin if a guy fucks you in the butt?

When I was younger a lot of guys started to fuck me in the butt at 11. Did I lose my virginity at that age? I started vaginal sex at age 17.
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  • A virgin is someone who’s never had sex — but it’s not quite as simple as it seems. That’s because sex means different things to different people, so virginity can mean different things, too.

    A lot of people think that having penis-in-vagina sex for the first time is how you lose your virginity. But this leaves lots of people and other types of sex out of the picture.

    Some people haven’t had penis-in-vagina sex, but they’ve had other kinds of sex (like oral sex or anal sex) — and they may or may not see themselves as virgins. And there are lesbian, gay, bisexual or pansexual people who may never have penis-in-vagina sex at all. But they probably don't see themselves as lifelong virgins just because they haven’t had penis-in-vagina sex.

    Many people believe rape and sexual assault aren’t sex — it’s only sex if both partners have consent. So if someone was forced or pressured the first time they had vaginal sex, oral sex, or anal sex, they may not see that as “losing their virginity.”

    Bottom line: the definition of virginity is complicated, and it’s really up to you to decide what you believe. Some people don't even care what “virginity” means or think it matters. Stressing about whether you’re a virgin is way less important than how you feel about your sexual experiences. Ask yourself: are you happy with the sexual experiences you've had or decided not to have?

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  • The concept of virginity is too nebulous. No one has an answer everyone else agrees to and there is no authority on the topic to defer to. This is what happens when a thing that was once defined around a purpose loses that purpose. And the purpose of virginity used to be so fathers could trade their daughters for stuff. The hymen was the thing people checked to ensure the woman was still new.

    But we don't do that in civilized places anymore, so virginity has lost that purpose. This means we have to come up with a new purpose for it. And if we don't the definitions will all slowly fade to irrelevance. To that end, most people still carry the broken hymen definition just because, to them, that's what started this whole thing. But others might change it to posessing any firsthand knowledge of how to get off using someone else's body or how to get someone else off. But again there isn't really a purpose for this so it won't become anything formal.

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  • I don't think you lost it then. I believe you lose it when you have vaginal sex.

    All depends on how you feel about it.

  • I think so. I've done anal but not vaginal and I consider myself a virgin.

    • You should try vaginal lol😍

    • You are a virgin until you do it in vagina

    • @kelseywight I'm trying it for the first time tonight, got some crotchless lingerie as a little surprise for him

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  • Sorry girl, you lost it at 11. While I don't think oral is a way to lose it, having a dick in either of the other two is to me.

    • So, if i am understanding you correctly, if you have a dick inside your mouth, you ae still a virgin but if you have it in any other other 2 holes, you are not? !!!

    • @spacegalaxy yes, to me, oral sex is more of foreplay than it is intercourse. So to me, and my personal definition of the term "virgin", I would consider her no longer a virgin if she had anal sex.

    • @KrisPW Oral sex is foreplay within a sexual relationship. If there's no sexual relationship otherwise, then oral sex is the most intimate thing you can do (logically speaking, since you're not going further than that), and it counts as its own sexual experience.

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  • For most people, "virgin" refers to someone who in naive and inexperienced at sex. If you start having anal sex at 11, then you lost your virginity at age 11.

    • Finaly somine who agrees with me. Virginity is a state of mind

    • there's a reason they refer to it as "losing your innocence" after all.

  • Social construct aside.

    Anal sex nope, you are still a virgin.

    A lot of guys I worked with took advantage of this when in the US.

    These purity, pledge rings pretty much shout out ‘Anal available’.

    They promise to remain a virgin but are happy to use the tradesman entrance.

  • technically you lost your anal virginity not your vaginal
    by virgin people mean a lot of things vaginal virgin, anal virgin, virgin (who inserted something, but no sex), virgin (who didn't insert something and had no sex), and some more that I can't remember
    based on the situation people use different meanings

  • His penis in your anus...
    A sexual act.

    His penis in your mouth...
    A different sexual act.

    His penis in your vagina...
    THE specific sexual act that indisputably DEFINES the loss of virginity.

  • The definition of virginity is not to have had penetrative sex so technically yes you did loose it then although if you were to look at it from a medical point if view under examination, then no you wold this have been a virgin. But in reality the definition of virginity is about as flexible as all other sexual terms and is really how you feel about it, some refer to the loss of their virginity as oral sex etc.

  • Who cares?

  • No. That is sex. The moment that occurred you were no longer a virgin.
    If your story is story you lost it at age 11.

  • My opinion is that virginity ends wit PIV or PIA intercourse. Its about intent.

  • Technically yes. Virginity is specifically vaginal sex.

  • Nope. Not a virgin.

  • NO..

  • You do not lose your virginity till you had regular sex.

  • A vaginal virgin yes

  • I think it depends, people got different feelings about that

  • The catholic virginity. Butt-fuckers. LOL

  • Gays would say vaginal virgin, not anal virgin.

  • that mean homosexual are 4ever virgin no

    • well if guy who do u in butt still virgin or no

  • If you had a cock inside you anywhere, no are not a virgin. That's just a myth women want to believe to make themselves look innocent.

    • But you cannot get prego in the ass

    • No you can't get get prego, it's fine if you like anal, but not a virgin.

    • Okay

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