Could this be one of the reasons why men cheat?

So I think one of the reasons why men cheat is because of lack of sexual excitement.

I just feel like when a woman is in touch with her femininity and sensuality it makes the man more excited and happy. It makes him feel more secured, confident and sexually adequate to the point where his partner is the only one in his mind.

But when the woman is operating in her masculine energy, lacks sensuality and refuses to sexually explore and please her man the man gets distracted by other women who exude the qualities that he would like to see in his partner.

So when the woman continues to behave like that the man loses self control and gets distracted by other women and gives in.

Before some of you come for my neck I'm not saying that it's okay to cheat, but if someone cheats there's always a reason, and personally I think this might be one of the reasons.
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Maybe I should've made this question referring it to both genders. Because men lacking sexual excitement operating in their feminine energy and things like that could be one of the reasons women cheat as well. But as I said this doesn't mean that cheating is ok.
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In addition, these are just random thoughts I get, I don't fully believe this and this is why I shared this with you guys so I can get your point of view. Please do not take offense in this. He who asks a question is a fool for five minutes ; he who does not ask a question remains a fool forever. -Chinese proverb.
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  • Yes there is always a reason but this usually happens when your partner doesn't look as good as you do they could get jealous or selfish of you. go on YouTube and watch on the Psych2go Channel watch their video sings someone is jealous of you. Yes! The one with the cute characters in it. 🐰 Here's a link to help you out with selfish people too🥳🧐 hackspirit. com/selfish-people/{ I need to be lvl3 to put the link on this ruined it a bit the http/-is gone.} Look I was around this age that my ex who did not look as good as me cheated on me with ugly guys. Bless you I know what it's like and I also had a situation that my best friend at the time would lie to me to take a girl who was obsessed with me from me only to later show his true colors. This is what a selfish person does ( He and I liked a girl who was colored and cute he was colored too and I am Puerto Rican I was better looking than him so that girl had a huge crush on me so much it actually kinda turned me off sometimes. Then as I kept hanging out with her I would bring him along because he wanted to come with and she was very persistent in doing things with me. I wanted time to think about it. He hid his true colors he would pretend and tell me bad things about her but pretend to encourage me. You know I'm just looking for you dawg🤭 . One night I walked her home and we made out at night in a parking lot and other things she but Insisted on me walking her home even further. I felt guilty because the things I was told about her were nasty and It held my love for her back so it would not depart to her so I felt like I was taking advantage of her. After that I felt kinda off because the next day in school everyone was putting too much pressure on me thanks to him talking about it. I stopped talking to her for a bit then he sneaks in and plays victim you know that I just feel bad for her card that's why I'm spending time with her #thegirlwouldnotstoptalkingaboutmetohim. The girl still gave me hints I even warned him he was so selfish he pretended not to see them he even told me once she hated me. Later on he took her virginity I lost mine to another girl and later he would start mistreating her and taking pictures of her. dirty ones and boasting about them to me. Although I had another girlfriend. He would do this constantly to exert power over her. Selfish people mistreat you in secret because when you engage them in public they play victim but hate public humiliation they are terrified of it. He would keep mistreating her his jealousy kept growing to the point he would do in front of me and leave her crying and expect me to leave her crying too to play with her heart even more. He tried to flip our confrontation about his way of being a Di***head into control over us every time and He was self absorbed. This girl was in her prime at the time and now she's miserable thanks to him cheating on her I tried telling her and he tricked her into staying only to dump her later on. He on the other hand was very mideocer looking and was one of those friends who stuck around others like an idealist 😂) bye bye I pray this helps you 😵😆👋

    • Sorry that happened to you... but please when you're aware that your friend or a man is mistreating a woman please do something about it ❤

    • Awww ok ☺️

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  • People these days don't understand the reality of marriage, they think that it's just a contract or a piece of paper, they forgot that it's sacred and that god blessed their marriage and made them one spiritually and physically...

    Once married, forever married!

    No sane spouse would cheat becauwe it's a sin...

    A man is responsible of his wife after marriage, it's teue he can see her naked or make sex with her anytime he wants to but what if he wanted to try anal sex, maybe the wife will let him but wouldn't be comfortable at all doing but since he's her husband she might end up accepting it but the husband shouldn't do it because it hurts his wife and what kind of pleasure does he gets from it?

    His dick is made to penetrate the vagina and the woman receives extreme pleasure from it and the husband will get total satisfaction from it!

    This is the only woman on earth who is made for him, he should take good care of her and never hurt his wife because hurting her means hurting himself...

    They can try anything together but some things are just off limits...

    If i was married i'll always love my housewife the way she is and will never hurt her heart or feelings because when she's happy than i'm happy, we might argue and brawl with each other but in the end of the day we will kiss and sleep glued to each other because we know that in this world we only have each other and we just can't live without each other...

    The divorce word do not exists in the book of marriage...

    These days, marriage is like a game, whenever a simple problem occurs or if you feel uncomfortable you will file for a divorce which is very wong...

    • True

    • But could the things I mentioned be one of the reasons why men cheat?

    • A man can cheat for many reasons and might cheat without a reason too because he just can't get enough from one woman and wants to live an adventure... It all starts back on how were you raise and your upbringing and the things that you believe in... If a man says i don't wanna cheat than no matter how hard it gets or no matter how much temptations he gets, he will always remember his wife in his head and never cheats... If he feels that he's weak in front of a woman, he will run to his wife so he hugs her and feels her love and in this way he will become more powerful and the thought of cheating will be eliminated from his head...

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  • Men cheat for most of the same reasons women cheat. Because they're no longer happy with parts of their relationship. Often that's a lack of physical intimacy or excitement, feeling unloved, or the relationship getting boring. You get a lot of positive brain chemicals from a new relationship, ones that are very intoxicating to people, but that doesn't last forever. Lots of people overlook future deal-breakers because they have that new relationship energy.

    To be clear, I don't condone breaking the terms of your relationship, but I also don't see the value in villainizing people for seeking happiness elsewhere when a relationship is dying. I strongly empathize with your desire to understand rather than just condemn; that's wisdom that many people never attain in life.

    But yes, keeping things spicy in the bedroom will have a very positive effect on your relationship over time.

    • Thank you for understanding ☺❤

  • YES ,, both men and women cheat. The way you are brought up has a role in that too, I believe. Getting a lot of attention growing up, and into adulthood , attention ! The attention I got from childhood on, I was getting I know, to much attention, I was lonely , I got hugs and kisses, I achieved something I got hugs and kisses, I'ld do something that someone wanted, more hugs and kisses, I got way to much ATTENTION at home and away from home. And I expected attention all the time, and I knew how to get any kind of attention, and I knew if I acted sad, that they would feel sorry for me and give me attention, take me in their arms and give me attention. And later on in life if my man couldn't give me full attention I went out and more or less cried on guys shoulders to get that attention, and end up in bed with them. I was pretty well raised that way.

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  • I don't want to vote Yes or No because I believe both answers could be true. I think both partners need to be open and willing to explore some. Both men and women should be able to talk to their partner about sex and what they want or need. If a couple are stuck in a rut of one person wanting sex and being turned down by the other or having that person just give in and let them have sex but not show interest in it there will be problems.

  • I like the way you explain your thought process and the way you express yourself, Sweetener_.

    And yes, this is likely "one" of the reasons why some men cheat. If he feels unloved, emasculated, taken for granted, or unappreciated sexually, he may seek sexual excitement and appreciation elsewhere. A man needs to feel like a man, and virility is a big part of it.

    As you said, some women have similar reasons for cheating. Not that cheating is ever justified. Cheating is dishonest, therefore, immoral. A person should just be honest.

    • Thank you ☺❤

  • If you really believe what you have espoused, then it means that you are in control of whether your future partners will cheat on you, but it also means that it is your "fault" if they do cheat. This theory makes you feel that you are more in control of what will happen in your future and perhaps that thought is comforting to you, but. . .

    Experience will prove that your explanation is wrong.

    In 1995, this actor:

    Could this be one of the reasons why men cheat?

    cheated on this actress

    Could this be one of the reasons why men cheat?

    just so he could receive a blow job from this prostitute:

    Could this be one of the reasons why men cheat?

    Do you really think Elizabeth Hurley wasn't giving Hugh Grant what he wanted and she "pushed" him into the arms of a prostitute?

    People cheat because the thrill of doing something taboo is more important than honoring their most sacred promise. They have a character defect and it is NOT their partner's fault when they cheat. You will realize that when you have given yourself completely to a guy and he still cheats on you with some skank.

    • I don't fully believe this, it was just a thought that I had, thanks for clearing it out 😊

  • Both men and women cheat because they're selfish assholes. End of story.

  • First of all when a man cheats he's going to cheat because he doesn't have any respect for his wife he has been lying to her and he doesn't care what he does he thinks that he's smarter than everybody else and he's going to get away with it. He wants what he wants when he wants it

    Okay now and saying all the above yes you are 100% right it's the energy energy is the most powerful beautiful thing ever that we have inside of our bodies when two energies can connect and become one it is the most beautiful thing the most beautiful feeling that most beautiful excitement do you ever feel your orgasms that you will have will be 10 times more powerful than a regular orgasm if you know how to use energy and touch somebody's energy with yours there is a bond that is undescribable it is beautiful it is sexy it is real people think this is called love when this happens a mistake it for love because it's so powerful that bond is so powerful It Feels Like Love when I make love to a girl whether it's in real life or even roleplay I tried to connect my energy with hers ninety-nine percent of the time I can do it because I want her to feel something that is so special so beautiful I want to just make her scream and yell I want to take her to a place you've never been before but anyway

    Most people don't know this you don't even understand energy they don't even know what it is but the guy feels something from that girl and like you said he's all excited and he wants to feel that he wants to keep that feeling going so that's another reason why people Tes you are whatever set right

    • Once again right men and women both have that energy within them to do that did you feel it and you're unfaithful already and you only care about yourself and most odds are they're going to cheat

  • We are kind of suppose to sleep around, its our primordial drive, monotony is just a social construct we are really just animals.

    But really if you and your partner dont want to do the same thing that sounds like y'all are incompatible anyways so why try to force something that dosent work to work? He wants to do adventurous kinky things and you dont, neither of you are wrong but if he's bored by what you like and you refuse to do what he likes what's the point of you 2 doing it?

  • I haven't cheated because I have a conscience, I'm able to control myself, I'm closer to average looking so it's not like there's temptation for me constantly, and I always date women that I'm very into.

  • Trust a woman to blame women for why men cheat on them. Text book, toxic femininity.

    • It wasn't my intention to do that...

  • Both cheat because of selfishness and a lack of character.

    Character: What you do when no one is watching you (or you think no one is watching you) or will ever know what you do.

  • Yes that’s definitely a reason , lack of sex in a relationship will make someone have wandering eyes , why it’s important to please your partner as much as possible , it’s it’s ok turn them down once in awhile but when it becomes a constant thing the partner starts to not feel loved or valued so getting there needs mer elsewhere is what usually ends up happening , Sex should never be 1 sided both people should be initiating it , when it comes down to only 1 partner initiating it then that person doesn’t feel valued they feel like their partner is just letting them have sex to shit them up

    • Well said 💯

    • Thank you and sorry my typing was all messed up lol i was typing to fast lol

    • Lol no worries

  • People that tend to cheat are people that have had casual sex.

  • I wouldn't exclude that it contributes no. Although ultimately, it is always the active choice and blame of the perpetrator to cheat whether male or female, most explanations given have always revolved around a lackluster sex life. That does not make it excusable, but nonetheless it is an explanation. The Bible is clear that a married man and woman must take care to regularly have sex as to avoid exact sins like that, because lust is more powerful than almost all other sins.

  • Guys do not cheat for sex. They do it because of the excitement of getting away with it.

  • I don't agree with the act of cheating itself, but I could conceive of such a rationale, given the right milieu.

  • That’s not why men typically cheat

  • Here's from actual Proverbs

    Proverbs 9: 13 -18
    13 Folly is an unruly woman;
    she is simple and knows nothing.
    14 She sits at the door of her house,
    on a seat at the highest point of the city,
    15 calling out to those who pass by,
    who go straight on their way,
    16 “Let all who are simple come to my house!”
    To those who have no sense she says,
    17 “Stolen water is sweet;
    food eaten in secret is delicious!”
    18 But little do they know that the dead are there,
    that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead.

    Men are lured away by their own lust. Lust starts with the eyes, then the heart, and finally actions. Men are naturally drawn to women, but we are responsibility for our thought life and actions. If a man is attracted to his wife he will naturally be attracted to other women, but what he does with that attraction decides if he sins.

    Proverbs 7:21 - 27
    21 With persuasive words she led him astray;
    she seduced him with her smooth talk.
    22 All at once he followed her
    like an ox going to the slaughter,
    like a deer stepping into a noose
    23 till an arrow pierces his liver,
    like a bird darting into a snare,
    little knowing it will cost him his life.
    24 Now then, my sons, listen to me;
    pay attention to what I say.
    25 Do not let your heart turn to her ways
    or stray into her paths.
    26 Many are the victims she has brought down;
    her slain are a mighty throng.
    27 Her house is a highway to the grave,
    leading down to the chambers of death.

  • Listen, if your significant other can’t, won’t or refuses to “ take care of business” folks will cheat

  • if a person cheats, there's something wrong with that person. period. there's plenty of "reasons" to cheat but there's no excuse for actually cheating. that just means the person who did that has a horrible character and lack integrity, so you're better off getting them out of your life rather than wasting your time trying to figure out what's wrong with them. this of course goes for both genders equally.

  • @Sweetener_ in my experience every girlfriend I have been with has cheated on me! I kind love and thoughtful. I have a decent job I'm good at and well let's just say I'm really big and that I'm great in bed. I don't know why girls all cheat on me. Maybe because they weren't quality women to begin with then...

  • It's "a reason", but it's not the "bigger reason" in my opinion. No matter how feminine, seductive and sexually pleasing any one girl is to a man, he'll always wonder "well, what's that one like, or this one". It's how men are made. Now maybe 50% will actually DO something to find out, maybe more, maybe less, depending on their age and situation. But most men just don't attach the same level of emotions to sex that a woman does, so they don't feel bound by it.

    I know it sounds great to believe that if you are always as feminine, sensual, focused and sexual as you can be that a man will always be satisfied with you and only you. History hasn't shown that to be true, so keep that in mind as you enter the dating world and seek your prince. I'm not saying "be a pessimist", but rather, be a realist and understand that men don't think like you do and operate under an entirely different mindset.

    • That's sad... and if I have to live with this mindset then it'll be hard for me to trust my partner.

    • I'm not saying every single man out there will cheat, but I am saying that historically speaking, you've got a 30 to 50% chance that there will be "some sort of dalliance" during the course of an extended relationship. I think darn near every woman goes into a relationship thinking "my guy is one of those who won't cheat on me", and hopefully, they are correct. Statistically though, it doesn't work out that way. I think women need to be far more cognizant of this then they allow themselves to be. Your point about feminine energy is well taken, and I applaud women who employ that practice.

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