I understand your fear and anxiety.
You are basically saying, "am I good enough?" You don't just want an experienced guy. A porn star is really experienced, the question is can they go back to "boring" releative to their own experiences. I hope you find that man who will love and adore you, who will be gentle. Who will make you feel warm, and relaxed. That your fears and insecurities will disappear when you finally make love. It's hard to find a right person that will respect you and go your pace. One of my female friends said, everytime she was with a guy she gave a piece of herself to him. As in his mind he has to believe he is giving a piece of himself to you. Don't fall for the oversexualized hype, "he won't love me if I am not his little pornstar" that man that I described is out there. It is much harder when men and women are shopping for each other like items on Amazon. Women that swiped right on this guy, also bought this guy. It's hard to feel them out unless you are around them and spending time with them. As always,
Good luck Ms Alyssa
So true... thank you
As "an experienced guy", my biased opinion is: that is totally okay lol
But really, I think it's a good dynamic and honestly what I prefer in a partner as well, only in the reverse. I want that perfect combination of a girl who is inexperienced, but that doesn't mean she is sexually repressed or unadventurous; she is interested and willing to learn, excited about sex.
I think one thing that might be a red flag for me is if she didn't even masturbate and was totally unfamiliar with her own body, especially if she was several years past puberty and hadn't experimented at least a bit on her own. In my experience, women who aren't driven to pleasure themselves, also have a hard time experiencing pleasure with others.
Sure. I’m not repressed at all and the thought of someone with experience teaching me just sounds so fun
You're a gem <3
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!There's nothing wrong with that. And experience doesn't make a man any more or less likely to cheat - his MORALS determine that. You can determine his morals by spending time around him, and having conversations with him, and observing how he treats other people - especially people who have lesser status than he does.
A guy who holds doors open for people (not just you), or who makes a point to say "thank you", or does nice things for people, probably has good morals. A guy who is rude to the bank teller, or is a jerk to the waiter/waitress, or who sees $5 fall out of someone's pocket and silently grabs it and puts it in his pocket, is a guy who doesn't care about other people. THAT is the guy who is likely to cheat on you. And, generally, the ultra-hot guys - the guys that all the girls are crazy for - will ALWAYS cheat on you, because they can. Guys like that can replace a girl in an instant, so they have no reason to care about what any one girl thinks, so while an attractive girl can almost always get a guy like that to have sex with her, it doesn't mean he'll give her a relationship, and it absolutely doesn't mean that he'll be monogamous.
Sure except the final part... attractive women and most women tbh can get laid/replace a man easily too but we choose not to because we genuinely want to be in this relationship. Isn't that the whole point?
It's not the point for those really-good-looking guys. For them, it's about being able to fuck as many good-looking women as they can, while NOT having to deal with any hassle from them. Those guys don't normally have relationships with any girl, and when they make an exception, they often have "arrangements" where he is free to fuck other girls. You have to keep in mind that, while women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships. That's because, for men, sex is usually the higher priority, while for women, relationships are usually the higher priority. If you're assuming that men and women prioritize relationships the same, you're both wrong and likely to set yourself up for heartbreak.
Alright
Its your preference. But my virgin ex was very experienced. You dont need a lot of sexual partners. You just need to do your research and know your body before expecting to learn someone elses
Reallyyyy I wouldn't have expected that...
Yes I've only been with 2 people and im already somewhat experienced because i do my research. And then put my tricks to use
An experienced guy is more likely to take their time with you. If they are more mature and have learned to slow down and take their time they will be able to make it a more pleasurable experience for both of you.
Of course it's okay to be with an experienced buy. And, no, an experienced guy is necessarily more likely to cheat.
Most women prefer experienced guys, but they seem to pick the wrong type of experienced guy. You can be a charming gentleman, and get laid a ton. You can be a "bad boy" and get laid a ton. Girls pick the bad boy for a relationship, and then they come running back after they've been traumatized. I say a guy's values and morals are what determine whether or not he will cheat on you. If he has cheated in the past, that's ared flag. If he is flirty with other girls around you, that's another flag. If he's respectful, got his life together and is good to other people, you don't have to worry. Hopefully that explains it.
Sure. Experience doesn't equal a cheater...
I think it experienced guy would be good hopefully he knows the difference about making it all about himself or making it all about you and I hope he makes it all about you and the thing is look at it like this anybody in this world can c h e a t you will never know when somebody's doing it when you're not doing it and the thing is you can't worry about it if it happens it happens if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen you want to hope that the guy is in love with you but I really don't think he's going to cheat on you but if you're thinking about it you're putting it in the Airways he seen it on your face and then you're going to start asking him are you cheating on me you can't do that those days are over you got to let things go not all guys are like that it's a 50/50 deal you take care of your 50% and do it the best of your ability and be happy smile enjoy the moment from this moment on you have to forget about your past what happened because you can't bring it into this relationship it will ruin it
You’re very right
I Know LMAO. he's going to be a lucky guy
:) thanks
Yeah sure it's ok, young inexperienced guys could be a bed experience especially for your first time, they are just interested in getting themselves off. We're far more experienced and know that sex is more than getting yourself off and part of the enjoyment is to make it a great experience for the girl. I'd say we are less likey to cheat than a younger guy.
Its complelty fine and no it dont mean they will be a cheater
You can prefer whatever. No one else gets a vote.
Experienced guys are the best. I always want a guy that knows how to please me.
It is a little odd.
Why?
Well, are you having a one night stand? If so then I guess you'd want to get as much band for your buck as you could since you'll only be with them ONE TIME. You don't have the luxury and learning what each other likes and getting more in sync with each other through many encounters.
If you are going to have a long term relationship and maybe, one day a marriage. You'll be together hundreds... thousands of times. "Experienced" is kind of a moot point eventually. Only the first few times would "inexperience" be a thing.
Picking the right person is the most important part.
That is very true
It's laughable when people assume that experience=skill. This goes for anything, including sex.
Here's an example... I go hunting with some older guys. I am a couch potato gamer and they're veterans, ex-cops, a police commander, etc. who've all been hunting for decades. And yet... who do you think manages to consistently bag the most birds?
Same goes with sex. You get these guys who are good at getting women into bed, but when they do it's the good ol' dry rub fingering and jackhammer 5000 until they cum and roll over to go to sleep. I'm a virgin, but I've spent a lot of time researching things that women enjoy. So what? Despite this, I'm automatically an inferior sex-partner because I haven't bedded as many women as other men? Yeah, that's some sound logic. I guess that means you must be a pretty boring partner too and I'm just better off with my hand.
I wouldn’t know but I’m definitely not boring
What makes someone more likely to cheat is if they were the kind of person to have done hook ups in their past. they don't value sex in the same way and don't see it as part of a special emotional connection. Casual sex ruins long term pair bonding.
I just want a kind heart and a sexually adventurous gal who wants to explore with me
Sounds like me :( lol
i've only had 2 sexual partners so not sure how "experienced" i'd be lol. But yeah I want to explore every avenue for her pleasure. I'm a giver a lot in sex because i just enjoy it so much more. But i need a spiritual/emotional connection with a woman before I go to bed with her. Emotionless sex to me just feels wrong, cheap, and dirty.
Same here I need an emotional connection to have sex with someone and enjoy it
I also prefer a experienced guy
It depends on the man. Some sexually experienced men are selfish in bed or too rough or impatient and horrible lovers; others are okay or good at it. Some inexperienced men will cheat once they are in a relationship, others will be loyal.
A well matched couple that are good to each other will most likely relate to each other well sexually whether or not one of them is experienced.
I had an inexperienced (virgin) girl I dated and she decided she wanted to lose her virginity with me. I thought it was very special and we were in love, but then pretty shortly after she lost her virginity with me, we were traveling and she asked if we could stop by to see her ex. I'm not a jealous or insecure person so I said sure why not, he's important to you I am open to that. Then she fell in love with him all over and decided to leave me. I was sad for a while but I got over it eventually and my friend was joking around with me, she called me a "can opener". lol. But the point being you never know someone's story or feelings or past and you're totally right about experienced or not, a person could be loyal or not. I'm not worried either way, it if is meant to be and work out, it will. But an experienced person is not necessarily disloyal. And an inexperienced person is an unknown factor because who knows how they will feel after having for the first time something they never had before?
Personally I think it can be fun for two inexperienced people to learn from each other and teach one another during their first times. But that's me!
That’s also true (:
Experienced guy cab make or mar sex for you. Experience doesn't mean, he would please you. It depends on the kind of experience he had or sought after.
Some men's experience was threesome, BGB, orgy, experimenting with a ladyboy. If such a man handled you, you may regret all of it.
Personally, I prefer to learn about sex with my wife. It is her body and mine. Discovering what sends us beyond fourth heaven together, can't be that hard.
If its a preference its fine, if its a requirement then it's kinda hypocritical, if that makes sense.
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