Im happily married, but need gay sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm happily married in a sexless relationship, I know it sounds stupid, but its driving me insane. I'm not attracted to women anymore. My interest are in larger husky males their scent makes me quiver. my penis can not get erect any longer its limp, i only ejaculate with anal stimulation. My wife tried pegging me twice which i enjoyed thoroughly but was disgusted that i came by it? I would always please her first with oral and dildos. She won't do it anymore. I know it sounds sick but its driving me away from her, I have started to look for a match for me to have my first gay sex encounter, haven't found anyone safe yet. I love my wife but also need Sex, I'm going insane

[Kabluie]

You could always get on the PReP pill to protect yourself from HIV and that could ease your safety worries. It's a good choice if you are considering having anal and possibly vaginal sex with multiple partners.

Second, as long as you have permission from your partner. That's an important one, and I say this in a sense that not every relationship or marriage has to be monogamous. There are plenty of healthy relationships that are in your situation where maybe one is asexual or maybe both are sex positive and want to experience with more partners. Talk that out, maybe you agree that you only want ethical non-monogamy where it's just looking for safe sex partners, and no romantic relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate your opinion, but I feel my wife would be disgusted with me and choose to leave Im disgusted with myself my emotions are being torn apart. I dont think its something she would allow in our marriage, im sorry im getting emotional now this hurts a great deal. she gets sexually satisfied by me at least once a month by me and i just have to endure with online porn its not fare.

[Rainbow_Boy]

I've been in a similar situation years ago, so I can relate. It sounds very much like you found out you were actually gay at a later age, which is not uncommon. In my case, I had hesitated for a while before having sex with a man. But, it took one trial for me to become convinced that that's what was missing in my life. I have only had sex with men since then, never with a woman anymore. It may be the same for you, which you can only find out after having gay sex.

I can give you a lot of tips from my own experience. Please PM me, if you're interested.

[Asker]

yes, thank you

[Apple1996]

Then tell your wife that you like guys. It'd be less hurtful then cheating

[Asker]

yes, but what about my marriage? i dont want to loose it

[Apple1996]

That is something y'all would have to discuss. Maybe she'd be okay with everything being open

[Asker]

that goes through my mind on a daily basis, but im scared to loose my family to sexual want, im going on 8 years of sexless marriage

[Apple1996]

8 years is a long time 😬

[Apple1996]

Do you think if your wife was having regular sex you wouldn't want guys?

[Asker]

Dont understand? you mean with some else? we can't have regular sex because of diabetes and heart problems my penis can not get erect any longer it is always limp even if i ejaculate its limp so our sex is oral for her and toys. oral does not work for me it feels good but does not arouse me

[Asker]

Im trying to keep my answers real with out vulgarity sorry for being so graffic

[Apple1996]

Oh interesting have you ever talked to a doctor about these issues?

[Asker]

Yes, his help has come to no avale. I also looked into other treatments that i can't afford

[Asker]

Thank you for your interest in my problem it helps just being heard

[Asker]

I guess there is no answer to my problem without consequence. I guess im just want to hear that im not weird and its not my fault, or maybe someone else out there is the same as me, im not disgusting that its not fare to me , sorry crying now got to go

[Asker]

im back if you have any more questions

[DonkeyDan]

Ok I don't know if this is serious or not but I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt
Do you have any friends that could "help" you out? If I ever decided to turn gay, I have a couple of friends I could turn to, to satisfy my desires. Failing that there's Grindr. Casual sex regardless of straight or gay should be practiced safely with the use of condoms. Then there's male prostitutes, or gay crusing.

[Asker]

no i dont, im in my late 50s I spend all my time with my wife we have mutual friends our age and are normal. not weird like me

[Asker]

No, Im in my late 50's and my wife and i have mutual friend our age that are normal, i won't go on dating sites, i look when i go to the market or to stores by myself. I guess deep down inside i dont want to stray and betray my wife. but it is mental anguish i hate that im weird and need sex but its driving me insane, i dont like that i satisfy myself with free porn on line but i dont know what else to do

[DonkeyDan]

Do you have any sex toys?

[Asker]

yes i do, i use my wifes toys i bought for her because, like wrote before i have ED i can't get erect any longer so i use hers while she is at work. thats how i get along

[Asker]

Like i said i also bought a strapon for her to use on me, she did it to me twice then became disgusted than it made me ejaculate she called me a few names that made me cry and hasn't ever done it again, since then we just haven't been sexual, she loves me still but we dont bring it up

[DonkeyDan]

I'm not sure what else to suggest. Maybe try some gay specific help websites.

[Asker]

Thank you for listening it kinda helps just writing about my problem

[Asker]

Im just frustrated

[In_Trance]

So... then you're not happy

[Asker]

yes i guess so very unhappy but i do love my wife its been 32 years 2 grown children

[Asker]

Why is everyone calling me a troll, im sorry ireached out for help

[Asker]

I looked up trolling and dont even understand why their calling me a troller! so stupid

[dudeinohio]

Many people do not know the proper definition of a troll

[Asker]

@dudeinohio thanks

[OnTheLevel]

You said you were happily married but went on to say her actions are driving you away from her. Which is it?

[Asker]

Both, you ever loved someone yet couldn’t stand them at times? Life is not black and white. I can't take not having sex! But my life with her is precious

[Asker]

Read all the comments before you judge

[Anonymous]

Wait. Your wife pegged you and then got disgusted by you cumming from it? Wasn’t that the whole point in what she was trying to do?

[Anonymous]

That's a pretty fucked up situation.

[Asker]

I know, it really sucks