Why is it so hard to get sex without paying?

[Willoughby23]

[Anonymous]

I know this guy who has sex a lot and with many girls. He is good looking though and I fell for it one time 😩 I didn't know how many girls were all over him. I wouldn't have fallen for a guy that wasn't good looking.

Although, after I found out, I rejected him when he tried again and he spent years trying to get my attention.

So either you played around too much and everyone knows, or you are not attractive enough to most girls so you gotta go for the less attractive and they seem to be less likely to go for it.

I am not saying you're not good looking (I wouldn't know that) but even not good looking people more likely to fall for a good looking person but when they meet another not good looking person they naturally wan to get to know them and have a connection before having sex. Just like a good looking person who meets a less attractive person. They did a study on that, it used to be on netflix.
So chances are, you might wanna try finding a girlfriend if you want to have sex more often (if the looks are an issue).

Would you say your are good looking (hot, sexy, hard to resist?)

[CrazyGirl2]

It isn’t! just be really handsome, charming, confident, and have a great sense of humor, and if she’s horny, poof! Your getting laid! Now, if you lack those natural genetic advantages of good looks, charm, and humor…. All you have to do is spend some time dating a woman, and getting to know her, and she gets to know you to the point where she can absolutely trust that if, god forbid, there is an unintended pregnancy, you will actually be there for her and your child! Because EVERY time we have sex, we are risking pregnancy! Even if we’re on the pill, and you wear a condom! Because condoms break, and the pill can fail! So we need to know that you can be trusted to not just stick around , long enough to help pay for the abortion if that is what she chooses, but to also support your child for 18 years if we decide that we are keeping the child!

[Darksign]

The plan B can fail? How likely is that?

[CrazyGirl2]

@Darksign I didn’t actually mention Plan-B. That is a specific brand of abortifacient, and i only mentioned “the pill” and “condoms”! However, as with all chemical abortifacients there is a risk of the abortifacient not working. As far as the specific method of action, you will have to speak with a doctor, given that I recently move out of my parents’ home, I’m unable to simply ask my “Dr. Mom”. It is important to note that not all women are okay with casually having an abortion! (Even a chemical abortifacient induced abortion) I had to have an abortion when I was 13 because I was raped by a family member! The pain and guilt associated with the abortion was profound, and I would rather simply date men who are mature and responsible enough to care for a child if, god forbid, my hormonal birth control AND your condom fail! While obviously rare, a “double failure” does happen. The person who dismisses risks because “they are rare” or “it’s never going to happen to me/you/us” is a fool. Bottom line on the “having sex” question. Nobody has a RIGHT to either a woman’s attention, affection, or physical love! Put in the time, show the woman that you care about her. Let HER get to a place where she knows you well enough, to where she knows your character, and knows that you are NOT the type of man who will disappear the second you discover that she is pregnant! Maybe then she will be more comfortable inviting you into her bed?

[ChrisMaster69]

Because life is hard, it’s not some movie, it’s not the bollox you read on social media, it’s hard and brutal.

People invariably work hard for everything, this includes relationships.

Sex is not an entitlement, it’s something that 90% of the time is part of a relationship.

We can’t have posts where guys go on about a girl having to be a virgin or a really low ‘body count’ and also ones from guys complaining about not getting sex.

If guys want to marry virgins / low body counts, then get used to not having sex, it’s brutal but so is the world.

[sawno]

Sex is more valuable to men than to women. Guys are easy, so she can pretty much fuck who she wants especially if she's decently good looking and puts some effort in. So if its sex your looking for you better have something to offer in exchange or you simply won't be interesting.

[loves2learn]

I think a change in strategy is in order. The dating apps aren't working, next!

[whirled_up_girl]

Because contrary to the belief of certain blue users on gag many women like myself are looking for something more than a hookup, and relationships take time and effort to build.

[SaoirseS]

Because Guys just looking for women so they can get their noodles wet are plentiful. A lot of of us aren’t promiscuous and are more interested in relationships.

[SaoirseS]

I don’t need any man’s money. I do fine on my own and so do quite a few women. Look at the way the question is phrased.

[SaoirseS]

Asker can speak for himself.

[SaoirseS]

@Willoughby23. Did I answer your question adequately?

[SaoirseS]

Free troll block.

[Willoughby23]

@saoirses yes you did

[cocoamaca]

You gotta have game ; be yourself. Be cool, & don’t be desperate. Let things flow.

[Willoughby23]

I dont know how to have game. Everyone says you need game but never says what it even is

[cocoamaca]

I just did ! It’s all about being yourself, keep cool , don’t be desperate. Let it flow. Throw the ball back and forth. You drop the ball in your court then the other player can’t throw it back

[cocoamaca]

Your welcomeee ;* be safe out here lol

[SamWilliams]

It depends what you look like, how charming you are, and what type of women you're talking to.

[FilmGuy93]

Because most women realize that their time has value, and if she's going to give you her time without requiring more investment from you, she needs to think you are good enough to justify that decision.

[Renegade_Sailor]

Because you are young and have not built a life for yourself yet where others want to be.

Do the work, build your life and it will get easier.

[Pumpkinspice009]

Because girls feel disrespected being asked to have sex with for some reason, that’s why.

[Browneye57]

You're doing it wrong.

You need:
Looks
Money
Confidence. Irrational confidence.
You can get by with any two of these, but having all three is key. So hit the gym, HARD, and make a shit-ton of dough. You'll gain the confidence you need through the effort, and you'll have all the pussy you can stand. FREE. I guarantee it.

[Willoughby23]

I hope I can become wealthy one day. But im honestly not going to the gym its too awful. And I will never ne confident when it comes to women

[malwins]

He could also be a model and an athlete 🤣

[Browneye57]

@malwins - sure... same thing. :)

The truth is, if you're not willing to do the work to become a REAL MAN, then you're not gonna be a hit with the ladies. It's really that simple. And askwer wanted to know how to get sex without paying - well you pay one way or another - you either put the bucks up to support one (or more) or you pay per click as they say. Either way, you need to have some bucks to spend - no girl worth her salt wants a dead-broke guy. EVER.
But doing the work is something you do for YOU - all the pussy is a side benefit.

Asker go here for your man-makeover: www.theartofmanliness.com

[malwins]

No if u r not rich u can compensate in good looks or fitness

[Browneye57]

@malwins - Exactly. Just look at DJT. LOL

[malwins]

Wtf is djt

[Browneye57]

@malwins - Seriously honey? You live under a rock?

[DaveToo]

Yer trying too hard. (excuse the pun).

[Willoughby23]

Im not trying at all outside of dating apps

[moviedude714]

I have to guess it's because women pay a much higher investment for sex than men do, even though we have very advanced birth control that doesn't change thousands of years or more of the human psyche

[Johnsy000]

I have sex almost everyday without paying

[Twalli]

Because you aren't willing to look for it

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@saoirses Because Girls just looking for men so they can gold dig. A lot "of of" us aren’t promiscuous and are more interested in relationships.

He's ask why it's hard to get sex. He's not being gender specific about it. And who's saying he's speaking for everyone tho? Go ahead and delete this comment like you just did.

[SaoirseS]

I answered asker’s question. He can speak for himself and debate the issue if he wants. I didn’t put a quarter in you.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@SaoirseS You sure that's the only thing you did? Read your answer again and tell me you're not generalizing.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also that doesn't remove the fact that you're just deleting anyone's comment like your way of silencing anyone. How responsible

[SaoirseS]

Are you the asker?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@SaoirseS No but are you?

[SaoirseS]

I replied to his question. We’re done here.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@SaoirseS Still can't admit your mistake i see. You can leave the stove open and call it done. "Never mind if i burned the house"

[SaoirseS]

I made no mistake. I deleted comments on my comment thread. My prerogative since you don’t speak for asker. You’re free to delete mine on yours. You did put those comments in your own comment which you should have done in the first place, so your message wasn’t silenced. Yes I’m done now.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@SaoirseS Do you have any idea that hasty generalization is a straw man fallacy? With that being said, your denial just fails you. Also one thing you said is you're done yet you're still arguing anyways. You sure you know what you're saying? Because I'm not the one saying I'm done here. The point of my comment is to backfire your own logic but see, you just got so hostile about it and just delete it anyways. So why are you so free to generalize but I can't do thesame? Are you trying to prove double standards?

[Mango-man]

A bit of statistics: "While the Asker didn't specify his sexual orientation, according to the percentage of adults identifying with LGB in the US, there is 96.5% chance he is heterosexual."

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@Mango-man I meant he's not specific if he's talking about a men or women. It doesn't matter if he's gay or not

[Sidfawy]

Economic issue 😂
For real it will be mkst guys do not want commitment, girls help em with that by accepting i consider that she is a slut if she doin that for money

[EnglishEuropean]

Dude it's hard to get ANYTHING without paying.

[Joshua0213]

Its not? I've never had problems. And I'm not even that good looking lol

[Siddeunusual]

It's not 😅

[Darksign]

Because if they banged every dude I wouldn't value them or want to be with her. That's why they lie about their body count

[EaterPeter]

Why to get only sex. When you can get much more. From womens pov. You are in for life sentence.

[EaterPeter]

You are in for about 7 years.

[EaterPeter]

Or 18 21 or 25 probably life time