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Am I just the mistress? he’s 29, I’m 20 never goes out with me in public?

I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months now. We have never went on a date, he will tell me that he will take me out on a date and he never does. Something always comes up and he will say ‘Just come round mine’ and we end up having sex and then it just repeats. He has 3 kids he’s 29 I’m 20 and I’m starting to feel like he dosent wanna be seen with me? He’s promised me 4 times to take me out then something always comes up with work or him getting in late so he tells me to come
over to his at 10pm and I sleep over and we have sex.

Every day we talk but I’m
getting the feeling I’m just a mistress? He always messages me everyday though all day but I’m starting to think it’s because he wants to keep me there since I’m young, pretty, we have good sex? Anyone help me? He has a car and he dosent even pick me up I always catch the taxi to see him at night.
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  • Are you a matriarch in a position of authority over him, where are you have to be obeyed and acknowledged as the one who wears the pants in the house metaphorically speaking? If you are his equal or even his support yet of the absence gender and he is asserting his will over you getting his way then you'd be more like a concubine or a booty call. If he respect and responsibilities shared between the two of you and decisions on whether to go out together are made of mutual determination than you are his girlfriend or his partner but if he's getting his way and deciding that you're not going to go out and do things and be seeing then we just go back to concubine because that's some more flattering designations in the other term, since concubine this anonymous with positions of influence in the actions of political and corporate leaders of state and commerce. Since these examples of directing the course of world events from behind closed bedroom doors, I'm going to decide that you are a concubine of great breeding and social standing in the community, until such time that you decide to take my advice too change that status to equal partner and participant status case you stop asking him if you can go out with him and simply tell him to get dressed up into something nice because the two of you are leaving at exactly 5pm. Don't bother asking him if he needs help if he's dogging it or complaining, just use the most abrasive copper wire brush you can find in the garage or workshop a half bucket of borax, and scrub him down until he bleeds, 🩸🤕, if he needs encouragement to get with the program, because his programs haven't been getting it done, and you are not there at his discretion, if he knows what is good for him.🥺
    If that course of action too far then you will become a mistress and shortly after that A Fem. Dom. Unless you want him naked or in ass-less chaps as your slave boy, I'd use a bit of restraint in terms of how assertive you choose to make a habit of becumming.🤤

Most Helpful Guy


  • I'm sorry that you have to go through this I think you answered your own question you are 100% right everybody says they love you but they like you they want to be with you you're going to take you out they want to be with you no matter where it is they want to help you they want to save you money they don't want you to take a taxi cab. Uber they are there for you no matter what you're being used I'm sorry to say that that you are. And I know you probably like the guy. And you're probably not going to listen to me anyway. You need to stand back and look at the whole picture a little bit better I mean you just did that by asking this question which I think is great you deserve better you deserve to go and do anything and everything and be seen in her and have fun not locked in your house where nobody can see you and him together so if you don't want to listen to me at least try this the next time he promises you to take you out and he doesn't go or want to go tell him that he can't come over you need to look ahead and let him prove to you that he likes you and he wants to be with you let him prove it if you can't prove it to you then you're wasting your time I can tell you right now you are a beautiful person with a beautiful heart and you need to find somebody it understands and knows that and loves to be with you anyplace anywhere at anytime

Most Helpful Girls

  • Sorry but he’s using you for sex. In two months, he can’t find the time to take you on dates? Nonsense. That’s a huge red flag and you realize it too or you wouldn’t be asking this. He’s stringing you along promising dates that never happen and texting you daily to feign interest. He wants to keep you coming around for sex but isn’t interested in putting in the time and effort to have a real relationship with you. Walk away. You deserve better than that.

  • Why aren't you with a man your own age why with a 29 year old man? What are you looking for a sugar daddy or do you just have daddy issues? He should be with a 28 year old mature woman not with a child!

    • Yes I have daddy issues my dad left when I was 5

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  • Wow... in my opinion, he is just using you for sex, and will never really date you.
    And you take a taxi to see him? Wow... Dump his sorry ass. So he is older and probably a mess too with kids.
    Do yourself a favor and dump him. Find yourself a guy who wants to date you, take you out, be interested in YOU, and not a douche like this clown is.
    Good luck, but think about YOU.

  • Oh god, dump that son of a bitch right now, he's playing you, so sorry.

  • Lol yep u are just there for sex

    • He speaks to me everyday though? Would a guy do that? Every single day?

    • To make sure u are sweet yes if he liked u for more u would have been on days funny how the dates get cancelled or postponed yet sex don't

  • I got an idea, stop putting out, see how fast he disappears

  • I think you're right... Suggest a date in another town, if he's more open to that... Then he's avoiding someone

  • Cut him adrift. That is a loser, and a losing battle.

  • He is breaking promises and he has kids from someone else already. He doesn't seem like a good choice for a mate.

  • This guy sounds like he is married.

  • Sure sounds like it

  • Dump this loser, he's using you for sex and doesn't care about you. He won't even drive you home after your booty calls.

  • Eyes wide open girl, and let this be a lesson to you. 29, 3 kids, (do any live with him?) I presume he's divorced? You're absolutely nothing BUT a booty call to him, that's it.

    I'd wage that he can't be seen with you because the ex would try and get full custody of the kids and paint him as an unfit father for dating a 20 yr old. God forbid she finds out you're making 10 pm booty calls and then leaving in the morning too!

    Like everyone else is telling you - dump this loser now, RIGHT NOW !!

  • I think your instincts are right. He’s taking advantage.

  • Yep, you are.

  • If he married you are a mistress but if he is a single father or divorced he just using for sex.

  • You are only good enough for sex. For a serious relationship, he will not choose a slut.

  • This is a no brainer. He tells you that you will go on a date to keep you hooked. It’s obvious this guy has a wife or girlfriend and he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. He’s using you strictly for sex.

  • You're merely a tool to him. End it.

  • I am truly sorry that he is not showing you any respect, He has a lot to lose and you are just a trip to the desert tray. You deserve better.

  • You are the "Fuck Buddy".

  • You aren't dating him... he's fucking you.

    • Well said

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