How to become more dominant in bed?

[Anonymous]

My man wants me to be dominant and take what I want when I want. I don’t know how to be dominant also I don’t want to hurt his manly bitz. How do I be dominant and not hurt him at the same time?

[NamerOfStars]

Dominance is about power and control- there's no need for it to be about pain (though it often is). Give him commands. Tie him to the bed and screw his brains out. Take turns going down on each other, with him getting you off and you bringing him right up to the edge and stopping, until he's a quivering mess, then give him the kind of explosive orgasm he'll remember on his deathbed. There's a subcategory of porn called "gentle femdom" that has lots of ideas that may suit your needs.

Just remember, when trying something new, that it might not go smoothly at first- you're still learning and experimenting. Also remember that playing kinky dominance games does NOT constitute a change in the fundamental nature of your relationship; he's still your man, who you love and cherish. Getting into and out of that mental space can (I imagine) be very tricky, and it's psychologically important to be able to reground yourself in your usual reality. Safewords are important- for BOTH of you.

[Asker]

Thank you that’s really helpful!!

[NamerOfStars]

Glad it helped! Remember that (reproduction aside), there really isn't a "wrong way" to do sex; so long as you're both having fun, you're good.

[Hairylegs222]

He sounds controlling. You shouldn't change an aspect of your personality because someone says so. Be yourself, and if someone has an issue with it, that's their issue, not yours. Some people are dominant and others aren't. It's perfectly fine to not be dominant in bed.

I recommend standing up for yourself in a nice way telling him that's just how you are and compromising would be changing a part of your personality.

If you do want to change to be dominant, than taking lead would be a good start. Instead of him changing positions, you do those actions. Those actions would be for example, you're on top for awhile then you get off and change to doggy style position. Being verbal too, telling your partner what you want to do next. Giving orders can also be dominant, you're the boss. "Take your dick out" or "Fuck me on the couch" or something like that.

[Asker]

Thank you that is very helpful!!

[fappy1010]

Well I'm like him and I'd like being slapped while you're riding me, then you could demand I open my mouth and spit a big lugi in there also being told if I can cum and where. Demanding that we don't cum while going faster knowing we won't be able to hold it lol. Demand we lock your armpit! The list goes on 😅

[MiamiMadness]

Call him names like pussy and bitch, possibly make him wear your underwear as well.

[Djaay]

Depends on what you desire to take and for what reason.

[OnTheLevel]

Being dominant doesn't mean being rough. Being dominant is just doing what pleases you and making him do what you want.

[Goodboystevie]

just say you prefer your methods to get the most out of it, he'll understand he just wants to cum doesn't matter how

[Anonymous]

His manly bits? He’s a sub, he has no manly bits.

[Anonymous]

Give him orders. Like you could tell him to undress while you watch and to get on his knees and go down on you while you sit. Handcuffing him while you have sex with him would be good too.

[Anonymous]

Cuckold him

[Anonymous]

Does he want you to use a strap-on on him?

[Asker]

No he doesn’t want anything in his asshole.