In bed, are you focussing on pleasing yourself or the other person?

Tbh I only focus on enjoying myself because why have sex if your doing it as a chore to please someone else? Sex is suppose to be pleasurable so I don't worry about pleasing her... until after I'm done then il. please her... But while I'm doing it I'm. enjoying myself
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  • 1. Once I have an orgasm, I am less motivated to continue any sexual activities.

    2. Women need more foreplay to have an orgasm than what men need.

    3. Once a woman has her first orgasm, the next orgasm will probably be much easier for her to achieve.

    4. I get aroused hearing my girlfriend have an orgasm.

    5. If my girlfriend is satisfied with our sexual encounters, she is more likely to want to have sex more frequently.

    6. Therefore, if I first concentrate on her, and I give her an orgasm through foreplay, she will orgasm, I will get aroused, she will be more likely to have another orgasm when I am inside her, and afterwards, we can both go to sleep feel contented and happy with each other.

    7. Finally, for me, sex is a physical expression of love within a relationship. Showing her that I make her physical satisfaction as important as my own demonstrates my attitude about our relationship: her needs and desires are just as important as mine. When you truly love someone, selfishness is not what motivates you.

    Of course, if you are engaging in casual sex and this is just some girl who you are fucking, nothing that I said really applies to you.

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  • Almost always the other person. Only one ex partner of mine has ever focused on my pleasure though, and it made me return the favor, and it became a game of "one upping" each other, as she would try to make me climax before I did. But yeah... Usually, it's just me giving them pleasure, usually through oral sex.

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  • Depends on my mood and who it is. If it’s a boyfriend or someone I really like I’ll focus on their pleasure. Otherwise I focus more on mine.

    • Respect. That'd how it should be done. People these days are so wrapped up about "having good sex skills" and pleasing the other person... They aren't able to enjoy sex itself.. the whole purpose of even doing it

    • I think if both our focussing on theirself both will be able to get off

    • In general that makes sense

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  • Both, usually. If your own pleasure is all you care about, why bother with sex when you could just masturbate? Sex isn't just about swapping fluids, it's also about bonding, and making someone you care a lot about feel good.

    • Because sex is more intimate and feels better than mastirbation

    • I don't know it jus seems pointless to only. focus on someone else's feeling cos then you can't enjoy it yourself. It's like going to McDonald's jus to watch someone else eat a burger. I'd rather go to McDonald's for a burger myself

  • The girls will be lining up for you Don Juan... 🙄😂😂

    • Fuck them. Scree them once then onto the next one

    • Ain't got nomlove for these hoes

  • It is both really, yes of course there is not point in having sex if you're not enjoying it, but sex is so much better when they are enjoying it too because of things you do for them.

  • In my opinion you got to find middle ground. So if you're doing something thinking of yourself it should also be something she likes. If you're not thinking like that then you might as well masturbate. With me I enjoy making the girl orgasm so it is not a chore to me to put in a little extra effort to hear some loud moaning and leg shaking. Little bit of squirting is nice.

  • You can only control your pleasure.
    That aside, helping them by doing what turns them on helps.

  • I focus on her.