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Would anyone see it differently?

I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and I can count on one hand the number of times he has initiated sex. We only have sex one every few weeks. And the only way he will do forplay is if we are really messed up. And he will literally get out of bed and go in the bathroom and watch porn and jack off instead of having sex with me. Can someone please let me know what you would take all of this to mean from where you are standing. Am I crazy or what.
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  • That is 100% crazy I do not understand this at all well I mean I do but I don't I don't understand why he's not making love to you but I do I don't mean to put your boyfriend down but he is a lazy lazy person it's too much energy for him he'd rather just move his arm up and down and that is totally sad when men are in a relationship and they masturbate. It's either because they're horny and they want a quickie at the wife or girlfriend isn't around so they masturbate or they masturbate because they want to get off they just don't want to put the work into it with their wife or girlfriend it's going to take to get them off so they're selfish at the same time that they are lazy and that's just sad sad sad it only gets worse for you from here this is something you're going to have to think about

Most Helpful Guy

  • He probably has some emotional issue. Perhaps some block towards sex. Maybe he see's it as dirty or wrong and hides from it. If he's willing he or the two of you could see a sex therapist. To work on the issue.

    But I'd say it's not you. He has a deeper seated emotional problem which needs to be addressed.

    Otherwise, all I could suggest. If you're interested and want to stick with him. Is join in the porn and draw it into the bedroom. You'll probably get more sex. It'll also likely feel more detached and emotionless for you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • PORN is the PROBLEM!!! He would Rather Jack Off than be Intimate with You!!! You are Now---A Room Mate, No Soul Mate!!! Rid the Squid!!! xxoo

    • Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck., xx

    • I agree

    • @Iron_Man Dr. Denny's. lol!!! xxoo

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  • I would not be cool with that at all you need to talk to him about that and he needs to get away from porn or something that's just not okay.

    • Ok girl to girl if your boyfriend never acted like he wanted to have sex with you. only did forplay when he wasn't sober. And would leave you in bed to go watch porn and Jack off instead of having sex with u. Wouldn't you question if he is really even attracted to you

    • Definitely I'd be thinking either he just isn't attracted or like other people are saying he's addicted to porn or something. Either way he's a loser in my opinion like he should make his intentions clear about why he's like this and why would he date someone he's not attracted to? Just a weird guy.

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  • Does he ever have trouble 'performing'? Sounds possibly like a lack of confidence and/or anxiety, and jacking off is a convenient alternative.

    The porn part probably isn't helping but I don't know if that's the actual root cause of the problem.

    How does he respond when you initiate?

  • Regardless of how you feel about yourself, you definitely can do much better. Life will not get better for you till you leave him and find a guy that cares about you!

  • I never understood why a guy would rather jack off than bang a willing woman. He obviously has some issues that he needs to get some help with. Have you spoken to him about it, and if so what does he say about it?

    • I've spoken to him this isn't the 1st time this has come up it's been a problem for the last 4 years My problem is I'm not used to not being wanted and I don't know how to walk away

    • Is the rest of the relationship worth staying for?

  • Hmm... have you ever let him know you wanted it? I've never said no when asked or had my dick grabbed, etc. I always initiate and still end up at the self service pump way more than I'd like.

  • he isn't liking u otherwise he would bang u more often and not jerk off in bathroom

  • He has some type of a dysfunctional problem too addicted to porn. What kind of porn does he like that’s a big ticket right there. Maybe we can get to the bottom of this

    • He likes bdsm stuff mostly all blow job videos

    • And you dont do that with him so that’s why He was addicted to porn and gets it there

    • No I would love to do that with him I beg I begged to do those things and he still just won't do it unless we messed up

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  • Why on earth are you still with this slug? He's obviously addicted to porn and couldn't care less about pleasuring you.

  • That’s crazy but seems something that comes up on here a lot. Concerning.

    • Comes up a lot?

    • I see no shortage of girls complaining that their guys jack off too much and not want sex.

    • That's not my problem. My problem is when I stop and look at all of these issues I see a man that isn't attracted to me but says he is.

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  • If he would rather fuck his fist instead of you then he would be fucking his fist all of the time if I were you... If he likes masturbation that mush then he should be masturbating with you and sharing the moments with you. Watching you masturbate while he masturbates too.

  • If you love him, have the conversation necessary to discuss what helping him out of an addiction looks like... or call him a loser and leave him to drown... either way, life is testing your character with this too...

    ... if you have the convo, discuss how having it be an open narrative between the 2 of you is a healthy result that keeps it from "out of sight/out of mind"... if he rebels to even have the convo, then you've made the honorable efforts required before consideration for leaving would be deemed understandable.

    ... the chances of him preferring a plastic screen staring at porn over real life sex are zilch, he's stuck in a spell, it sucks for him too, but at least he has you... unless you too have you're own demons holding you back in the form of an ego that just wants to call him a loser so you can feel like your iq is above his... etc

  • He's the crazy one

  • I bet he was the one who pursued you or hit on you

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