How can I, a 23 year old virgin, start to feel super sexy?

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Not going to lie when I view porn and I see how hard the guy gets, I get kind of jealous, I wish I had that much of a sex appeal and I wish I felt free enough to have sex on camera and not be self conscious, but I can't

SomeGuyCalledTom · Accepted Answer

1) Stop watching porn
2) Start dressing better and flirting more
3) Don't take the first offer of sex, weed out the low-hanging fruits and look for qualities you want in a partner
4) As you get a better idea of those qualities, you'll naturally start to wonder how YOU compare against them (since that man will also be looking for certain qualities in a woman). So this will give you incentive to be the best version of yourself. Because a person with high standards of others must also hold themselves to an even higher standard. When you truly grasp and internalise this truth, you'll possess the secret to being the sexiest woman in the room.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

For starters porn is a total fake shit show, all those guys are on Viagra, besides it's their job to be hard regardless of if they find the woman attractive to them or not. Being sexy is a mind set, it's about how you feel about yourself, and in turn with come out in your personality. You need to think positively about yourself and put the negatives aside. But yourself some sexy lingerie, put it on and parade yourself Infront of the mirror, feel sexy in that lingerie, wear it out under your regular clothes and know that you are sexy. Also there are plenty of free confidence building workshops online, take a couple.

friendlypixie · Accepted Answer

It takes a long time to develop confidence and it requires like a shift in negative thinking patterns about yourself. Generally, healthy-looking people are seen as more attractive so try exercising, eating well, sleeping, invest in skincare, etc. Ultimately, you should try and live up to the best version of yourself don't try to be someone else

JillC15 · Accepted Answer

confidence is super sexy but so is being shy  so really I have no idea, it all depends on you you want to be sexy too

NathanDavis · Answer

are you jealous of an erection?

Pnp4unMe · Answer

Go out with me once

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Get in good shape. Dress flirty.

chriscdi · Answer

How are you so sure they dont take dick pills before starting the films and shit, don't forget pornography is a business

Ironic_Method · Answer

That depends on what you're willing to do, what you're willing to wear, and how you look.

DiegoO · Answer

The day you gain enough confidence in yourself.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This advice is for any gender: If you want to feel sexier, become sexier. You have to put in the work. Go to the gym. Go to the spa. Go to the salon. Not everything is superficial and based on outside appearance; however, when you look in the mirror and you like what you see, you will be more confident.

Jay3344 · Answer

The men in porn usually are using things to help with the erection, viagra and the like. Having sex on camera cam also be the result of necessity, and many women use drugs to cope with the anxiety of it. Sex appeal isn’t just about looks in real life, think of the amazing artists and musicians that have been in the world, thinkers and innovaters, many have sex appeal despite not being conventionally sexy. If you want to feel sexy, a good way to start is take care of yourself and see if you can get some attention from your desired sex. Doesn’t have to be overboard but maybe dress a little sexy and flirt with somebody. You’ll feel sexy real quick

greycadillacs · Answer

I'm sure your abilities to turn on a man are higher than you think they are. But it just takes getting comfortable with yourself and loving the body you're in.