Why won't you personally commit adultery? What stops you or would stop you from doing it?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

[lilyanony1]

I used to hear my mum speak of my dad cheating. I watched the pain and the obsession she developed trying to unravel the story behind his shady behaviour.
At first I'd fight and stand up for what I knew or thought was right. But my mum showed me that no matter what he did, she still loved him and she would forgive him no matter what.
That's a scary place to be.
To love someone more than you love yourself.
That you'd commit your life to whatever just to keep them.

I hated watching how desperate she looked and I hated how confident he looked everytime she took him back.

I'm not innocent, I ended up in a relationship where I was the mistress. And deep down when I look back. Although I didn't go out my way purposefully looking to get into that, I was so hurt my being left to die by my ex who I loved so much, that when the next guy came along. I wasn't focused, I wasn't just wanting to prove to myself I was worthy of someone and it didn't matter. I desperately needed the validation because I mean how could my love, how could I mean so little to someone that they'd neglect my well being.

Instead of seeing something that wasn't normal for me as a warning sign. They actually saw it as a reason to scorn and abandon me.

I'm still in shock!

I was a mess.
And I think a part of me actually did die that day.
I stopped caring.

Finding out really sent me over the edge and I had a nervous breakdown.

I don't really have anything to contribute for being against it other than it causes so much hate, anger and pain.
Why would you want that in your story?

[lilyanony1]

I will add that, when I found out I did end it. Things blew up when he started harassing me, he called my bluff and I did confess to her.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Good. 🙌

[Alwayreckles93]

It is a huge sin against God. And it is very disrespectful and hurtful to the spouse.

[NathanDavis]

1.- I am not that kind of person (cheating)
2.- I would not want to hurt my partner in any way, especially this way
3.- Because it's wrong
4.- Because it's very wrong
5.- Because it's absolutely wrong
6.- Because I've never had any kind of consideration to the idea of possibly ever cheating so nothing is actually stopping me... is just not happening at all

[Pnp4unMe]

I've done it in the past and I had no problem with it until it happened to me and it shattered my whole world and then I understood how much damage it actually does to the other person. No I would never ever cheated again no way in hell. Unless she's really hot

[Adam1978]

Because it's wrong and if your in a bad relationship you dump her before going to the next. There is no reason for adultery, that isn't also a reason to break up.

[LimboOfTheDink]

Because I don't want to.

[slatyb]

Because I told my partner that I wouldn't.

[t-8900]

i believe in the sanctity of marriage but more than that it's my nature. I believe firmly in loyalty about all other things, yes even love. It's the one thing I hold above all else. Betrayal is the ultimate crime and no one will convince me otherwise.

[exitseven]

I am married and I take the whole "till death do us part" literally.

[Jay3344]

If you really love the person, then there is no question about the reason. It can be devastating to a relationship when someone cheats so when the consequences of the action is so profound then what would compel someone to cheat?

[ChiPaPa]

I'm loyal. I see no point in promising something to break it. A man is only as good as his word.

[Twalli]

I just don't see why anyone would do it if you have a successful relationship. If it's at the point where you consider it, you probably shouldn't be in one.

[imfreeze95]

My deeply held personal religious beliefs are why also I can’t because I’m not married so it’s actually literally impossible.


It is still a complete scum bag move if I was dating someone though.

[grega239]

Im not a cunt

[Anonymous]

Nothing stops me

[Anonymous]

I met a woman online and we became friends. I told her to commit adultery, and she did. She is now a happy person.