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Why do guys finish fast when a female is on top? I just heard guys saying it’s because they are bored so finish fast?

Is that true? The guy I’m with finish’s fast when I’m on top if he doesn’t pull out to pace. He always has finished within 5 mins if I’m on top. Is that why is it because guys get bored? Another said they imagine to get it over with because they don’t feel much when the girl is on top. This is the position the guy I’m with is done fasted in and seems to love most?
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They just finish fast in this position
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  • Put yourself in his perspective... whether he 'loves' you is immaterial,
    it's ALL sensory!
    He's NOT 'bored' OR... in control.

    Visualize, ... he's got a determined, enthusiastic female
    who's placed his most tactile bodily part DESIGNED to squirt as much DNA into her
    purpose-evolved bodily 'pocket' in response to tactile sensory friction not unlike
    one of those 'shake-powered' flashlights.

    She slides him pistoning in-out, in-out
    fast and/or deliciously s-l-o-w.
    Perhaps, he instinctively tries to buck and thrust...
    "Ride 'your 'stallion, cowgirl! Yeehaw!" GRIND your clit down on him!

    As she works him to arouse her own excitation... she's grinding, undulating
    and her vaginal muscles contract, ... swelling to form a better seal per Nature's evolved design.

    Meanstwhile he's pretty much 'pinioned'... and his imagination being fueled by a view of this nude or partially-dressed 'Goddess's Avatar' literally doing what comes NATURALLY as he's fondling her breasts, tweaking and suckling her nipples and intermittently kissing her! Her breathing becomes in sexy labored gasps, stifled moans and telling grunts.

    Ever go to an equestrian riding event and watch the teen girls fixatedly doing English 'sit trot' dressage? Often their stiffening nipples tellingly 'print' through their blouses! Or pre-teen girls clandestinely intuitively 'riding' their pillows or stuffed animals? Nature will NOT be denied or ignored~

    THAT is 'audience participation' EVERY HETERO-male instinctively LIVES for!
    ( I just turned 70 and 'get wood' just wistfully REMEMBERING such moments from my OWN life...)

    THIS IS... exactly what ALL men are 'designed' by the Deity to do,
    WHY DOES IT 'SURPRISE' YOU his animal body 'cums' quickly?
    And 'why' do you let him off with getting away with only ONE climax?
    We guys say: "the first, is for 'the thirst'"... evolutionary urgency satisfied,
    make us guys 'EARN' that next one!

    Have you SO LITTLE confidence in YOUR 'allure' and intimate skills?

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  • I've never really thought about it (I am one of those guys with the opposite problem - taking too long), but I would suspect it's because if the guy is on top/in control, and he feels like he's getting close, he can slow down or even pull out and keep himself from going over the edge, and just a few seconds of interruption can let you regain control. If the woman is on top, and doing the moving, then in most cases the guy isn't going to be able to stop her in time to maintain control. Sometimes a second or two is enough to make the difference between going over the cliff or staying in control, and when the guy is on the bottom, he may not be able to stop the girl in that short amount of time.

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  • I would imagine the guy struggling to get hard or even be able to cum if he was bored for most guys having the girl on top is a huge turn on for him because he can see all of her while she is riding him

  • Not always. sometimes it can be very stimulating for them in both views and feel

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  • That's kind of like asking if you breathe faster when your wind is up because you're bored of oxygen. Orgasm is largely a result of the right physical stimulus being applied to the right body parts- there's a psychological component, too, don't get me wrong, but do you really think you'd have so many women complaining about their men ejaculating too quickly if it were controlled as a matter of will?

    Most guys quite like it when she's on top (why would he be bored with the position he seems to love most?), at least sometimes (variety being the spice of life and all, and it's hard to beat the view). His speed is because when you're controlling things, he's not. With some effort and practice, you can learn what stimulates him and what the signs are that he's close, and adjust your speed or position accordingly. Every guy is different, but switching off between bouncing and grinding can prolong things in some very interesting ways.

  • Why do guys finish fast when a female is on top? I just heard guys saying it’s because they are bored so finish fast?

    One of my ex girlfriends loves being on the top of your having sex. She likes calling me her a mechanical bull rider, and she ride me so hard that the bed started limping downward to the right. She fell out of the bed and she had to pull me out. I got mad at her for destroying my bed but she eventually replaced. I told her to just get a mattress and just put it on the floor that way she can break me no matter how much each rides me. My favorite positions in sex is the cowgirl or the reverse cowgirl sex positions because she's basically doing all the work and she's literally burning calories in her legs moving up and down.

  • it probably feels good to him and he isn't in control of pacing.

    For me it takes longer to climax in that position, I prefer in and out motion while the girls I have been with go back and forth more.

  • Not for me. I can finish fastest in doggy style. I love it.

    But I do enjoy being ridden by a woman. I like to watch her focus inwardly as she uses me to pleasure herself. It's nice to give her control to rise up and down, grind her hips, and work to give me maximum pleasure while stirring me inside herself to do what gives her the most pleasure. Nothing is better than being a vehicle for a woman to achieve orgasm. I don't always have to be in total control.

    I don't find cowgirl boring at all. I can always jack hammer her in that position. Plus, I love it when she leans down to dangle her tits over me. It's one of the best sights ever. And I can play with them or suck her nipples. Some girls really get off on nipple stimulation while they are fucking/getting fucked.

    I basically like all positions. It's fun to change things up during a good session of sex.

  • Personally, I absolutely am bored when the woman is on top, but this means that I last forever in that position, sometimes I even lose erection altogether if the lady is not active enough.
    No amount of imagination can fix cowgirl for me, it's always underwhelming for me.

    If the man comes fast, well then I would have to assume that he isn't bored.
    They probably just come fast because they can't pace themselves when you are in control.

    • Why do you feel that way?

    • With everyone you’ve been with?

    • It's a combination of not being partial to the woman being in lead and it not doing enough for me physically. For me it's just something I agree to for the sake of the woman's satisfaction.

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  • You are assuming tok much, guys can feel bore at any point and it could be the female but other reasons as well, if a guy enjoys it he will go on naturally

  • Boredom and arousal are the opposite feelings. How can you climax if you are bored or don't feel much?

    I would say girl on top is arousing for guys because they can relax and feel wanted and desired.

  • Because it's extremely intense and the woman has total control of the position and penetration depth so we know we're screwed cuz it's going to happen quick

  • Has nothing to do with being bored they are lying to you it tends to be because they are into the sex excited and can't control the pace ots going

  • I have never finished with a girl on top lol

  • I've never had issues there given it is my primary option for sexual relations but given the state of my back there's probably some damage affecting things

  • Cuz he's a noob honey. He still jerks off a lot, they're always in a hurry.
    When you're on top he can't control the thrusting, can't stop the crest.
    It has nothing to do with being bored.

  • Guys will rarely finish fast because they're bored. If they so , they're with a girl that doesn't turn them on that much anyway... shame on their choice.
    I think it might be that guys masturbate MOSTLY in that position and therefore, it is more likely to bring them to climax faster. Factors like him seeing her getting more into it on top, him doing less work for a change (on the bottom) add to it.
    As for myself, I have only EVER cum with me on top or in various other positions. Not with her on top. I guess I'm different than most.

  • This is just flat out inexperience, but he doesn't want you to perceive him as an inexperienced guy (don't blame him) but nothing on you at all. Maybe if you start communicating more about what you like and details he'll become more open of what works for him and ask what works for you.

    by the way, any position laying down for a guy is harder to flex the PC muscle because the whole body is relaxed. Only experienced vets, like yours truly, have mastered holding back from exploding lol.
    So, I recommend a 'standing up' position for him while you lay down or do doggy... up to you.

  • I’ve never finished in that position.

  • I finish the same amount of time in any position.

  • They just sound like sensitive guys. 5 mins, Damn!

  • For me it is a major turn on.

  • Depends on her speed and muscle control.

  • If they are bored they won't finish at all really

    • Yeah the guys point was he’s bored so makes himself finish quickly he won’t hold off

    • Or will imagine out of boredom to finish fast

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