Am I being ridiculous?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend isn’t that’s sexual our whole relationship we have had this problem, he can jack off but can go months with out sex. He was like this with his ex wife (wasn’t fully aware till we moved in together he told me he would jack off and she would get upset but left out the part that they didn’t have sex) so a part of me knows it’s not me it’s a him thing but sometimes my mind can’t help to think it is me, so last night I told him my friend was coming over in a few days and he said to have a threesome…. Made it out like it was a joke then I asked if that’s what he would ever want and he said I would be okay with having one. I got pretty upset and told him it’s not If that’s what he wants we shouldn’t be together! asked why he wanted one etc and he said I never said I need one or was looking for one! I just simply said that I think it’s crazy we don’t have sex but yet you want a threesome he then said it was a joke and I need to stop micro Analyzing the situation And then things got crazy, he went to work I was think well this could be a Fantasy things so I tried to like have phone sex and it’s just turned into like a big ordeal and I just don’t even know what to think about at all! Like you obviously want one or you wouldn’t have said anything or jokes about it!

[Miristheiss]

Forget the threesome remark.

You two need to break up because you are sexually incompatible. If he rarely wants to be intimate with you and leaves you hanging all the time with no connection, no release, no bonding then you should move on. Unless he takes drastic steps such as getting on some testosterone injections to boost his drive or he makes sex a priority and stops jacking off then you two should just part ways.

[boggboss]

Another women in a relationship where she is not happy and because your not happy u are getting more upset by other things that u are connecting to the original problem u have yet he dont know its that big a issue or if he does know he dont care to fix it meh

[Asker]

Oh he knows, we have talked about it years ago how later on in life this is going to be a problem, he went to the dr got some test done took supplements for a sex drive for a little while then we went back to the same old sex life going awhile with out having it!

[boggboss]

Which means that's by u staying again with this level of sex u have essentially made it OK for him to not change your actions justify his

[Asker]

Ya! I guess I just feel like you get use to it! And it’s just a Sacrifice I was willing to make

[boggboss]

Meh if that's what makes u happy

[Anonymous]

Porn causes this. Porn is a fantasy land. When it comes to your guy having one on one sex with you, the idea sounds boring to him. His head is filled with threesomes, foursomes, orgies and gangbangs, and you can't compete with that.

[Iknowbestgirls]

I don't know about that I watch all that on porn all the time but I'm always up to have one on one sex. If I'm in a relationship with the girl I wouldn't want to have a gangbang with My girlfriend being the main event. But I'll join in if I don't know the girl, it's like a glory hole it's more fun if it's anonymous.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iknowbestgirls Google "porn creep"

[Iknowbestgirls]

I get where you're coming from but I have no problem feeling a physical connection with a female partner one on one no matter how much porn I watch. But you probably are saying that it's the problem with the question askers boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iknowbestgirls Bingo.

[Iknowbestgirls]

Well then yea you are probably right. I only watch a lot of pork because I'm single rn and have a high sex drive.

[Opinion Owner]

@Iknowbestgirls So if you were in a relationship, you'd stop watching porn?

[Anonymous]

Gay or Bi or even Asexual or some other problem. It will worsen.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks to Gag. x

[slatyb]

Why are you still in this sexless relationship? Are you happy with it?

[elizamichale1]

Well 3sums are always so much fun

[Asker]

I’m sure they are but I don’t think have a threesome would work out well for us, I already have self-esteem problems because he doesn’t want to fuck me why would I wanna add someone else to the mix

[elizamichale1]

Maybe if he sees the kinky n naughty side of u he will get more into i

[Asker]

I do have a side like that, I want to be cuffed slapped like I feel like I’m more into stuff like that then he is, I always thought he was vanilla but now I’m thinking he’s not

[elizamichale1]

Well then try having him in roleplays where u can show him ur kinky side

[pink_and_inlove]

He should at least be trying to please you sexually. Tell him how you feel

[Mangospacho]

You’re not being ridiculous. He’s being very shady.

[Den1971]

You need to leave that dude? Are u horny and he's not full filing you needs, how often are you horny, and when it does happen is it quick, good he foreplay, eat your pussy, kiss you, finger you. Or is it all about him

[Asker]

When we have sex it’s good, sometimes I feel like he can be selfish! And I’m with him because I love him! We have been together for awhile now and sometimes it doesn’t bother me and other times it hits me hard!

[Den1971]

Well if y'all been together what did you say 6 years. Kind of seems like this kind of sitting Stone the way that's going to be and if you think that he's a little bit selfish sometimes whenever y'all having sex and it's good it's just not enough say something to him about it he's going to have to chat out address that situation and get it handled to something that suits you or you have to leave them how many times are you satisfied with a month or a week sexually

[OnTheLevel]

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone with whom you are sexually incompatible? Why are you staying with this guy? Do you just enjoy the frustration?

[Asker]

Well other then sex we are good, I have told him in the past that I didn’t know if it would work out unless things changed he said he would work on it and I got him supplement, he went to his dr about it but then nothing more happened! A part of me thinks why end a good relationship over sex! Like it’s not like we are in abusive relationship or he cheats like we’re a fairly good couple like we go out of our way to make each other feel good and different ways! It’s just the sex and then now you say you wouldn’t mains a threesome

[OnTheLevel]

Sex is too important in a romantic relationship to discount it simply because he had other good qualities. Seriously, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and potentially cheating to satisfy your sexual needs.

[Asker]

Cheating wouldn’t happen, I might end up resenting him which I’ve told him along time ago that could very well happen! We are intimate in other ways so I guess I just look at it like it’s just sex

[OnTheLevel]

Your choice

[Anonymous]

All guys want a threesome but when it becomes reality, it can build or destroy the relationship.

[Asker]

He’s had one before! Like why do you feel like it’s Something you’d be OK with but yet you can go months without having sex with me that’s just weird to me

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that’s not normal. I couldn’t go months without having sex! Lol.

[Asker]

I mean I don’t think it’s normal at all but then again he jacks off so I guess he’s getting what he needs

[Opinion Owner]

I jack off too but that’s because I’m always horny and not getting what I need/want. Lol. If I had the option to actually have sex or jack off, I’d definitely b fucking!