How can I initiate sex with my boyfriend without being nervous of him rejecting me?

my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years and i don’t ever initiate sex with him. i don’t know why but i am always so nervous. after 6 years you’d think i’ll be comfortable by now. i think i’m nervous because i don’t want him rejecting me, i don’t know if he’ll be in the mood or find whatever i do a turn on.
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  • Okay if you do this I guarantee you he will not reject you ever.
    Next time you messing around be in your pajamas being your panties short pants no panties
    If you have to tell him you want to give him a massage get on butt
    And give him a quick massage.
    Tell him to roll over on his back sit on his hips. Hopefully you have him in his underwear or Nothing at All as you sit on his hips get yourself position just right start massaging his chest working your hips forward and backwards forward and backwards hopefully you're in your panties and every time you massages hits just keep moving your hips forward and back. The moment you feel him getting turned on stand up and take off your panties if you're too shy to do that then before you even start be naked and have a bathrobe on that way when you sit on his hips he can feel you as you slide your hips forward and back push down hard. That his cock go in between your pussy lips so they're straddling him on each side of his cock slowly seducing by moving your hips forward and back after you get done with his chest turn around the other way started his feet work your way up to his thighs doing the same thing pushing your hips forward and back there is no way in this world he's going to reject you because then you can say okay what other place post office underwear and just sit on top of him pushing your hips into his cock and slide your hits forward and back if he does not roll you over and make love to you right then and there there's something's wrong

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  • It seems worrying to me that after 6 years you don't know him well enough to know when and how to initiate sex with him, I'm not being mean I'm being concerned that there is an issue with your relationship that you have to come and ask strangers about this. The majority of men aren't going to turn down sex from their partner unless there are issues in the relationship. Usually a simple "I'd like you to fuck me now" would do it for pretty much most men, it's a turn on that a woman wants sex and isn't just doing it because we initiated it. I think you need to look hard at the relationship and work out why you'd be nervous of initiating sex after being with someone for 6 years.

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  • If you can arrange to be alone with him, wait for him, nude, facing away from him and bent over waiting to be mounted when he comes into the room.

    Alternatively, you can be in bed, on your back with your legs drawn sharply up and spread as widely as you can manage, displaying your open vagina to him.

    If at least one of these crude invitations to copulate doesn't result in him putting his erect penis in your vagina with a minimum of formalities you’ve got a dud on your hands.

  • By seducing him do some touching kissing fuck me I never thought I would have to teach a women how to seduce a guy lol especially a women in a 6 year relationship

  • Trust me, he will definitely be turned on and I'm surprised he's never mention this. Or has he?

  • Use images to set the mood, send some seductive images just before you meet him

  • You nervous is understandable but him rejecting you, what the hell is that about? I have never rejected my girl

  • Fucking do something sexy if you rejects you then it is what it is women reject the man we got to deal with that don't we same deal

  • In general guys are never not in the mood. If we're really tired or sick, we may not, but he will probably be in the mood more often than you ask.

  • You can't. 😊 With initiation comes the possibility of rejection. If it helps, think about the fact that at all times your boyfriend initiated through the years he simply had to take your rejection.

  • That’s sad. I’m sorry u feel that way. If u were my girl though, I’d love it if u initiated sex! Lol. Just saying.

    • yes i know, but i don’t know how to! or know how without being nervous of him rejecting me

    • All u can do is try. 😉

  • Does he have a history of not being aroused by you?

    • no, he says i always turn him on. but we haven’t had sex in almost a month

  • if you been with him for 6 years then he'll be turned on by you and you shouldn't have to worry about rejection because after 6 years he's still very into you

  • "you'd think I'd be comfortable by now" - yep lol, totally should be, but I'd ask "why aren't I?", because I think there's maybe a reason (him)? Is it just with sex? Are you comfortable with him otherwise in all other areas? Maybe you guys need to have and talk about sex more so you are comfortable with it?

    But, that's the bigger issue lol. The immediate solution, confront it. 1) he's your boyfriend, so why would he reject you? Do you reject him? 2) if by chance he does reject you, which is highly unlikely I think, you just have to look at that rejection differently. He's not rejecting YOU personally, for whatever reason (and could be many that have nothing to do with you personally), he's rejecting the SEX AT THAT TIME! Just like if you just aren't in the mood one time for whatever reason, it's probably not HIM personally right? Same think here.

    • i think i’m not comfortable around him because i’m not confident in myself. also there have been a few situations that he has done in our relationship that disrespected me and i always think about it. for example, he has DMed a girl telling her she’s gorgeous. he worked for this porn star (doing construction in her house) and he recored her ass (fully clothes) and that really pissed me off. he apologized for both, but i still think about it and how he can do it again and not tell me about it. i found out because i looked through his phone.

    • Sounds like you guys are kind of "disconnected" anyway, not just with sex? Maybe try changing that and spending more time together. Sex and in general? If you are wanting things to be better? Doesn't sound like there's trust there, and that's important.


  • Get on your knees and unzip his fly...