Why did my boyfriend take ages to orgasm when we first met?

He would take 30-40 mins and not even get close. I would say things, moan etc. I wasn’t really into it.

Then I became into it and he finsished fast and needs to pace but I can act like I’m
Not that into it and the same thing happens

Why did he take so long before. He wasn’t attracted to me was he?
Not attracted so lasting ages
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Was attracted but it was how I was acting making last ages
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  • 1. He was probably nervous. Many people get nervous with a new partner, and it takes some time to get comfortable with them.

    2. You said you weren't into the sex you were having with him initially, and then over time, you were. A lot of guys really need that positive feedback/enjoyment/reactions/participation from the girl in order to really enjoy sex.

    It wasn't ever about his attraction towards you.

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  • I am the same way I like a marathon because I like to make sure that the girl has at least two orgasms I mean heavy duty hard orgasms and when trying to do this you have basic needs kind of train yourself not to come so it takes a little bit longer but it's well worth it look if you want to make your boyfriend come fast
    All you have to do is get vocal
    You start giving him some loud moans and I mean intensely moans if you roll playing something start calling him daddy start begging him to fuck you hard I mean hold on to him tight so we can fill that intense mess and use your voice in your words and he will come in a heartbeat

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  • First thing never act and do stuff u don’t like just enjoy it second its fine if he take long time it doesn’t mean he’s not attracted to you or stuff if he’s not he will go soft and when did you get together how long have you been together

  • What happened with me isn't there.

    There are roughly 3 types of performance anxiety.
    1. Impotence, too stressed to perform.
    2. Premature ejaculation, nervous and blasts off early
    3. Inability to climax, nerves can't get to the end.

    Number 3 is what happened to me the first two times I had sex. First time I lasted 45 minutes and no climax. Too nervous, totally into her but couldn't get to the end.

    The same thing tends to happen the first time someone blows me.

    And I can't do anal the first time I'm with a guy, can't relax enough to let it happen.

    So he could very well be attracted to you, and your actions may not have had anything to do with his difficulty climaxing. He may have just been nervous and not comfortable. And that's nothing against you or him really. Some guys are just kind of wired that way.

  • Sometimes men can't come (or take ages), thats it.

  • He was either nervous or something because he should be able to bust a nut six or seven times if he's into you

  • U keep spamming this question when the answer is obvious

  • Anxiety due to Inexperience? Are you the first for him?

  • Maybe he was just trying to give you a good time! The first time I ever fucked a girl it took me a long time, too!! Maybe it's just the thought of actually doing it WITH someone else in the room! The first few times CAN be a bit of self-consious raising event! 'Am I doing it right? Is it good enough for her?", etc..

  • He was on a magic pill.

  • I don't think this is an A or B answer. there can be a lot of reasons.

  • The pussy acts different when you're enjoying yourself. Maybe he's just not used to that

    • Can you explain this how is it different

    • It moves and tightens and throbs and sucks and gets wetter. All the greats.

  • I don't know. In MY case, I've either cum pretty fast (through intercourse), or I've lost my erection at some point before cumming. Whether or not she was "into it", or whether or not I was attracted to her... didn't really make any difference.

  • Only he can tell you. There's so many things that can affect it, many that have NOTHING to do with how attracted he is to you. Just two possibilities (of many more), 1) he already orgasmed before that (masturbated maybe) 2) maybe just him. Some guys just naturally take a long time, no matter who they are with.