Is it hard to find a guy that is into rough sex/kink?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying dating apps because I want a long term relationship, but I want a relationship with a guy that’s into rough sex. I feel like i’d be disappointed if a guy doesn’t want to tie me up, slap me, choke me etc. Talking to a nice guy, and sometimes picturing if he could get rough though but so guess you can’t tell until you ask. I like to be dominated, even while not having sex I like that intimidating energy from a guy if you know what i mean.

[MrOracle]

If you were going fishing, and you were hoping to catch a tuna (a salt-water, ocean fish), but you didn't live near the ocean, so you decided you'd fish in the rivers and lakes around you instead, what do you think your chances of catching a tuna would be? Probably zero, or something so close to zero that the difference wasn't worth talking about.

Wouldn't it make more sense to travel to a coast, and then go out on a boat with someone who fished for tuna every day and knew where they tended to be? Your chances of success would skyrocket, right?

Well, that's why websites like FetLife exist. While it's not really a dating site - it's not set up directly for dating or that kind of thing - it's going to be populated by the type of guy you are looking for. There's no guarantee that you're going to catch the "fish" you're after - or at least, not easily or the first time you cast your bait - but your chances of success are FAR higher over time if you start in a place where such men congregate. And, yeah, it's going to take some more effort, because it's not a dating app exactly, but, still, you have a much better idea of what you're getting there.

[Pnp4unMe]

I suppose it is but then again why would you want to?

[Anonymous]

Don't stray from normal dating apps. If you try to look in a more specialized area on the web, you're going to find a freak show.

After two days of chatting on a dating app, you can easily get the stage of talking about fantasies. Make him go first. If you go first he'll probably just agree with you and not mean it.

[rachel776]

they are everywhere, rougher than you want usually

[GrahamWest]

Lol if You from UK hit me up.
I take care of you 😏

[rcljr]

Not at all, come on over , I’ll show you

[Wise4myage]

Have you tried BDSM dating sites?

[Asker]

everyone is SO ugly and creepy looking! but i love what they say and talking to them tho :/

[Wise4myage]

Sounds good.

[Morgador]

Nope just tell him that's what you want

[In_Trance]

Yea probably

[Jmmmfi4]

Thats so hot

[imbeingmyself]

i think you should simply ask him "what are your thoughts on rough sex" not on the first date tho but maybe on 2nd or 3rd

[CeeJay02]

Thats pretty general stuff that most guys like! We just gotta feel you out, if we rush into that stuff we scare you away!

[Anonymous]

not hard at all, unfortunately finding a dominant girl is tho

[Anonymous]

My guess is you've been sexually active since your teens

[Asker]

the opposite!

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying you didn't have sex for the first time until your 20s?

[Asker]

yes i was 21 and have only had 3 partners in my life