He doesn’t stay as hard like before I’m sex (to much porn, cheating or am I the problem? I need answers?

[Anonymous]

A week ago I posted about my boyfriend and I sex life how I notice a month ago he wasn’t getting as hard like he use to. We get a hotel every weekend and that’s basically the only days we can have as much sex as we want. We get some liquor order some food and have sex. Sounds fun but unfortunately things haven’t been the same.

I’m 26 5’3 120 pounds in good shape and he is 29 5’8 160 pounds so we are both in pretty much in good shape. I’m healthy and from his part I assume he is too. My boyfriend admitted that “ he masturbates a lot “ and watch porn I have heard that guys that are addicted to porn can’t stay hard when is time for sex.

my boyfriend does show me he wants to fuck me even gets mad if I tell him I don’t want have sex so he does show interest the thing is that he doesn’t get as hard like he use to and he gets more hard when I suck him. So is the issue me? I have even came to a point where I think my pussy is loose and that i can’t feel him. I sometimes touch his dick while he fucking me and notice how he gets softer as he fucks me but yet continues to fuck me and at times he cums if not we just stop with out him cummin. I try to not make it seem like I’m disappointed but it has came to a point where I’m sad and just uncomfortable.

[MrOracle]

This sounds like a combo of "whiskey dick" and porn addiction. The problem isn't you - it's him. He needs to back off of the porn and masturbation and save it (or at least most of it) for you.

[Asker]

How exactly is a guy going to stop himself from masturbating if he doesn’t have sex during the week? At least that what he tells me

[MrOracle]

I didn't say stop completely, but instead of 10 times a week, how about 3, and then spending the rest of that energy on you? I get that he has urges, and I wouldn't expect him to go to zero - that's unrealistic - but he also doesn't have to indulge every single urge he has either.

[Asker]

I agree with you but how can I tell him this with out him getting mad? I don’t want come off as rude

[MrOracle]

You talk to him in a sweet voice, and tell him how much better it will be for both of you if he does this. You can elaborate the advantages for him. Avoid any scolding or accusing tones of voice - instead, say, "would you PLEASE consider doing this? It would be SO hot to know that you were saving your energies for me, and I'd be SO turned on and it would drive me wild!" It's about POSITIVE reinforcement rather than negative. And if he does it, make sure you show your appreciation. Make it so good for him that he'll motivate HIMSELF to do this.

[DonkeyDan]

The problem with porn and too much masturbation is it conditions the brain to become desensitized to real life situations that are not the same as in porn. If he values your relationship and the sex you have then he will cut back on it, surely he must realise there is an issue too. He needs to understand that this is a real problem, that he can't control himself and not masturbate so much.

[TheFlak38]

your boyfriend masturbates to porn because you're too boring to turn him on. that's why women want to ban porn. you only care about yourself and your orgasm.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/J-gOUJKpCNI

[Asker]

How am I exactly boring if we only CAN do it on the weekends

[Asker]

I watch porn too by the way

[Anonymous]

He wants exciting sex like what he sees in porn.