Should I feel bad for this sexual escapade?

[Anonymous]

I liked this guy and he likes me. I’ve been trying to express for some weeks now that Im sexually frustrated even though i wasn't ready to take “the big step” but was hoping to do something minor like masturbation. He said he wanted to act on it but was to shy. So i recently messed up an did somethig with someone else. There was a day where he thought he was the reason i was smiling but he wasn't.
I didn't want to tell him someone else had me smiling so i just reminded him that i get sexually frustrated and that our flirting was no longer enough and that i feared i may have to get sexual with someone else. This time his response was that next time we see eachother, he’d do some things to me to help me get off. I feel kind of sick to my stomach now for having done something with someone else. Should i feel bad? Why did it have to take a threat of another man to make him step up?

[Anonymous]

it's not that "threat of another man to make him step up" it's just he was thinking that was he going too fast or not and also if he ask you for sex what will you think so he wasn't comfortable in asking you simply.

if he would have said that he is frustrated and want to do it and if u won't he will do it with someone else the thought of losing him will also make you say yes.
it's just that u both want each other and also sex but u have a fear of what other (for you it's him and for him its you) will think. simple...

[Asker]

No we dont want sex yet. I just wanted us to at least masturbate each other

[Opinion Owner]

So ask him without threatening him simple

[Asker]

I did. The threat came weeks later

[MysteriousT]

I don't get this type of men. Your girl is horny and asking for help. He should be more than happy to do so. I don't understand why I don't come across to women like you..

[Asker]

After i told him i may have to go elsewhere now he wants to step up 😂

[MysteriousT]

I mean if he didn't at that point honestly you would've left him that's what he deserves. As I said even getting to this point is something he should be ashamed of.. I guess you have a much higher sex drive than he has

[Asker]

No we both have the same sex drive but only difference is he wants to sext but i want to masturbate in person. Yes shy

[Yourfriend2021]

You should start fucking the new "someone else" guy now, since you already gave it to him..

[Asker]

I did not have sex with him. He got me off

[Anonymous]

yes you should feel bad and need to tell him

[Asker]

I did and now he wants to step out :)

[Asker]

*step up

[Anonymous]

You'll feel bad if you go through it

[Asker]

What do you mean if i go through it

[Opinion Owner]

If you have sex with someone else

[Asker]

Its not sex just like masturbation. But read above. I did

[Opinion Owner]

It's not us to answer you should feel bad. Cause your crush will find out maybe and if he likes you he will be hurt

[Asker]

Well we werent official

[Opinion Owner]

I understand that but if you like someone why sleep with someone else

[Asker]

I did not sleep with someone else. I wouldn't disrespect him that damn much. But i asked him to help get me off and he kept stalling so i found someone who did

[Opinion Owner]

Smh... you should feel bad

[Asker]

Well i dont. I came, i saw, i conquered. And now he's stepped his game up because he doesn't want me getting sexual with anyone else