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Why doesn’t my boyfriend go down on me?

Been together for 10 years and I always done the oral sex. He loves when I give him oral sex and I never been the type to ask to get some in return. Usually during sex I’m the one pleasing him like this. I’m a clean female and make sure I shower before we have sex I have good hygiene.

Recently I told my boyfriend that he always asking me to suck his dick but he doesn’t eat me out and I asked him why and he just said “ just because”. He will give it a lick here and there before having sex but that’s it and if we are about to do doggy style he will go down and lick my ass hole but not my pussy …

not sure why he doesn’t eat me out more often I understand there’s guys that don’t like to do that but it would be nice to receive some pleasure this way too
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  • Presumably, he doesn't think you want it. Before you do anything extreme, sit down with him and let him know this is actually important to you- yes, you really should've brought it up before now, but you can't change the past- and that it's something that you'd like, going forward.

    Now, after ten years, he probably thinks he has a pretty good idea of what pleases you, and it's likely that he mostly does- hearing this will cause him to doubt that, especially if he has little experience of it with prior partners. You may be able to avoid the loss of face (which IS something that you should look for in a relationship, as dishonest as it may feel; your goal is to fix the problem, not make your partner feel bad) by phrasing it differently; bringing it up as "something new I want to try" will let you incorporate it into your usual repertoire without hard feelings. In particular, if you make it elaborate, or part of something bigger- that way, he's less likely to feel that you're just wanting something he hasn't been giving you. He'll likely need some guidance, and perhaps quite a bit of it, so prepare for that, and when he does, GIVE HIM FEEDBACK- I can't stress that enough. Trying something that's new for him will likely make him feel insecure, and if it works, let him know. I'm not saying to fake anything, but don't hold back on the sounds and motions of satisfaction. Let him see just how much you like it, and he'll be a lot more willing to keep doing it.

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  • Seems like if he licks your ass hole he would not have any reservations about eating your pussy. I understand that some men do not like to eat pussy, and it can be for different reasons. I have always enjoyed oral sex with women, but I have to say that there were times that I did not eat a girl out for one reason or another. I was uninitiated with the 'outie' look of one girls pussy, after she had sucked me off many times. Rather than eat her out, I just fucked her, shot in her and that was it. Biggest sexual mistake I ever made ! She HATED me from that day on, and WRONGLY, smeared me, with many people in our department at work.
    I guess it is the approach one takes. My present girlfriend and I had not had sex for a LONG time, since we were just 'work friends' that traveled a lot together. She loved my French kissing, and thought we should fuck. On New Years Eve, two years ago, at my house, we stripped, (I had never seen her nude, nor looked at her pussy) I went down on her immediately, and she orgasmed quickly. Sad to say, for whatever reason, I could not get a hard-on for her so we did not fuck. So she had the reciprocal of what you had, eaten but not fucked, and you fucked and NOT eaten.
    Wish I understood the dynamic of eating or not eating pussy. Since he licks your asshole that is really puzzling. I had a girlfriend that I started eating her ass hole about a year into dating and she went crazy over it !!

Most Helpful Girls

  • Dont give him oral then till he gives it to you so many times as possible. He is selfish. He owns you 10 years of oral sex lol. If he thinks it is gross, why should you suck his gross stinky dick.

  • you've been together 10 years and you've never pressed him for an answer as to why he doesn't eat you out?

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  • My first time enjoying oral with my girlfriend was done later in life (26 years old). Before that I really didn't know much about what to do. That particular girlfriend took the bull by the horns. She gave me a great bj, then proceeded to put herself in an obvious position where I knew what she wanted. As I proceeded she made me feel very comfortable by moving her body and making perfect noises that made it clear she was enjoying my work!

    Sometimes guys just need to know what it is you need. It also helps when you make it clear how much pleasure you are getting. Most guys want you to feel the same excitement as they are receiving from you. and that's when the sex starts to go over the top.

  • Don't take this wrong cause I enjoy eating women out, it is a turn on for me. Men aren't the only ones that won't reciprocate the oral pleasure. I also live receiving too! There's been, I would say way over half, the times I pleasure her and we'll yeah she's done. I was taught a long time ago, that the happier you make them the happier they'll make you. But that seems to be goin by the wayside. For me anyway, so I feel for ya sister. We should swap and I'll curl your toes and make you scream!!

  • you should have solved this in month one 10 years later is too late get a guy on the side to take care of you

  • Over the year I have done oral hundreds of times on guys, but I can still remember the guys who ever went down on me.
    I think it's a guy thing

  • One thing to consider is hygiene. A sour vagina does not appeal to a guy. Sorry of that's not it.

  • maybe he doesn't know how or maybe you are gross hygiene or he just don't like it.

  • Talk to him. Tell him that you want it.

  • Is he Caucasian?

  • he doesn't like doing it i guess

  • That sucks, I’ll eat a girl all night long and twice for breakfast.

  • Maybe he is afraid he won't be good enough at it for you i personal love to eat out before sex as long as its clean and all i wish i could help you get more of what you want

  • It sounds crazy because I would lick your pussy all the time if it's clean and shaved :)

  • No idea why, tit for tat

  • You need to start asking for it and if nothing changes, than cut him off.

  • He's a selfish pig and you need to bounce

  • I'm not sure but there are plenty of guys that will do it for you.

  • Sit on his face

  • Because he doesn’t have to. After 10 years you have conditioned him not to even try

  • Because our dicks is out.
    Vagina is inside your bodies.
    Not really an equal thing.


    All my female friends I slept with they always willing to suck it.


    I never eat them out.

    • You said female friends but I assume if you had a solid relationship with a female you would be down to eat her or am I wrong?

    • That's a selfish stupid ass answer. But women flick to you because for some reason when you treat them like possessions and shit on them they fall in love for life and no matter how bad you treat them they will die for you.

    • I only ate 3 girls in my whole life. I don’t like it. Girls aren’t clear as they appear, I’m on a whole planet diet and I’ve clean. I’m rapidly not eating a girl who eats meat and garbage stuff.

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