So you mean impossible for a straight woman to be an incel?
Now, yes. When it started, no. When it began it was just people who weren't able to get relationships and didn't really choose it. Now it's woman hating singmen.
One need not be overweight to be a female incel. In the cases that I know, most of them are not overweight. They have offputting faces.I've not seen My 200 pound life. My friend's girlfriend is about 200 pounds. She's tallish but overweight. Nevertheless she's fairly active! As for her body, I don't think she's attractive but my friend does. She does have a very beautiful face and she's quite stylish. I'm curious what you advise female incels who are that way simply because of the bone structure of their faces being unattractive.
@Bluemax I mean... are we talking like genuine facial deformity? Because let's be honest, there are some VERY ugly dudes around who would be grateful to have sex with almost anyone. So if her body is not hideous, she literally would have to have a fairly deformed face for it to prevent any man from wanting to have sex with her ever. I mean... probably if it truly is that severe, I would advise facial surgery.
Let's just say unattractive. One doesn't need a facial deformity to be unattractive. I generally don't consider advising anyone to have sex with someone they find ugly to be a viable solution. I have found such advice is rather poorly thought through. Contrary to many people's beliefs, ugly people do not find other ugly people attractive any more than the rest of us. And most people can't control who they find unattractive, including ugly people. Having heard how many people describe sex with someone they find unattractive as anywhere ranging from "meh" to "awful," I am inclined to think that sex with someone you're repelled by is not a good idea. Surgery works only in some cases, and in others it winds up making them worse, or requires expensive touch ups. Most twentysomethings don't have that kind of disposable income anyways. Frankly, I'm stymied, as is my brother who counsels the disabled. 😕
@Bluemax I don't know what to say to you without a picture of the woman, and to be able to talk to her and understand her position.
An honest enough answer.
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Really? I've literally never seen this here! Can you send me a link? All I've seen is a shitload of complaining men, and maybe one or two chicks with a bad attitude. Am I looking at different parts of the site to you?
by the way I don't think anyone is shallow simply because they're not super motivated to be with a person who is grossly overweight...
@NicoletteXO I've talked to quite a few women here over the years who have been quite hostile about feeling rejected.I've actually had deep conversations with them about the reality of physical attraction and how both men and women require it, along with an emotional connection in order to have a romantic relationship. I don't have links for you because I don't keep the same account forever, and those angry female incels are about as important to me as the angry male ones are to you.I read her complaints, I see everyone tell her that she just hasn't found the right one yet.I smirk because if she was male they would tell her that she not entitled to a boyfriend, she should better herself first.
But I think what you've said is reasonable if she's super overweight or unattractive. Nobody is entitled to attraction from the opposite sex. If they want it, they should be willing to improve themselves. I don't indulge this stupid entitled victimhood mentality from men here, and I certainly wouldn't indulge it from the women. I would probably be the one chick who's like "honey, I have to be honest... you might wasn't to try working out!"
That said, I've literally never seen anything of the kind from women on this site. Though I have seen hundreds and hundreds of 'victimy' statements from men here. I'm just wondering genuinely if myself and the OP here are looking at different parts of the site.
@NicoletteXO My feed is set to receive questions from both males and females and I never block anyone.When I do see these female incels I usually make an effort to point out the double standard in the response that she gets, as opposed to the replies the unattractive males get. You may not have noticed the female incels because the double standard isn't something you notice.I notice questions that have hypocrisy and double standards a lot.I'm probably more likely to notice if she's an incel being treated differently. Other people on this site obviously just see an upset woman. They should also treat those unattractive males as an upset man and not just a label like Incel. Their unequal treatment doesn't change the fact that they should BOTH stop blaming everyone for not being attracted to them. If you want to attract others, you have to be attractive. If you want people to love your personality, you have to be loveable.
Nah, feminists probably end up in kinky BDSM things with dudes who want to be dominated. They wouldn't need to be incels.
@NicoletteXO No dude wants to do anything sexual with a feminist. They are ugly inside and out. Very undesirable.
I think it depends on what kind of feminist. Though yes, sadly, a vast majority of people who identify strongly as 'feminists' are not that attractive. I also don't think they represent women very well either, which is ironic. It's like basically they hate men, but also want to be men. Kind of like MtoF trans women but in reverse and with blue or green hair.
@NicoletteXO I agree with all of that except your first sentence. Anyone who supports feminism in the West today is either an asshole or an idiot, or both.