Wish we had a better sex life?

[Anonymous]

Basically our sex life has become rubbish
Were lucky we have sex 2 or 3 times a month and it seems like he's forcing himself
I just dont get it nothings changed on our lives and it's making me so insecure
My heads going over everything I think he's cheating or talking other women I'm worried when I'm out thats when he's doing it
I also think he just prefers to masterbate
I think he dosnt fancy me anymore and that I dont turn him on
I feel so down and just want closeness and attention from him
I love him to pieces but I'm scared he dosnt feel the same anymore

I've bough some sex stuff which comes this week to try and see if that spices things up otherwise i just dont know what to do
What could be going on and what would you do

[NamerOfStars]

Well, that sucks. But wishing won't fix anything. If there IS a "More Sex Fairy" out there, she's got a waiting list at least a few centuries long. You say you've bought some stuff and are waiting for it to arrive- this is good. Spicing things up can definitely help. As can a conversation about wanting more. You do both have to want it, though. If one (or both) of you has untried fantasies, or even something "I've thought about trying occasionally"; some things you don't know you'll like until you try them.

I've heard mixed responses, but you may even want to try scheduling a sexual encounter for some specific point, and doing it whether you feel like it or not. It sounds kind of degrading on the surface, but some people have had luck with it kickstarting desires again.

[humpbackjack]

Wow I read some of the opinions given and damn ladies you suck. Sit him down and talk to him let him know how you feel be honest tell him how much you love him how much you desire him and ask him if there’s anything you can do to bring back the spark and be prepared with some ideas of your own and prepare yourself for hearing possibly something you don’t want to hear and remember as scary as it is sometimes to face a problem it’s much better to get it over with instead of it dragging out plus if it’s a misunderstanding the sooner you get it cleared up the less damage it can cause plus if it’s a problem you both can fix together fairly easy if addressed sooner rather then later. Either way at least you know so you can decide if you want to stick it out or cut bait

[Subarugirl]

Go to sex therapy and realize that stress and emotions play a huge part in drive and libido.

[MrKinktastic]

It’s just familiarity smothering the flame, stress may also be a factor. Spend more time doing separate stuff/doing your own thing. Role play sometimes helps too.
I doubt it’s cheating but you never know, even then though the root problem is that there’s no novelty left in it, so address that.

[boggboss]

And u have spoken to him about it

[slatyb]

Are you married? Children? If not, why are you still in it?

[exitseven]

It is a fluid situation these days. Soem weeks are better than others.

[humanearth]

I hear you. Married 30 years and it just sucks now. We used to fuck like rabbits. Now its like asking to fix the car

[Jay3344]

Maybe try some new positions or reading erotic fiction together. Maybe excessive a little do something that you know is attractive and see if he notices. Surprise him with spank on the butt, get some sexy underwear, get your hair done…any of that should help a little.

If you think he’s cheating than maybe look more into that and hopefully it’s not the case. Plus sometimes men’s 🍆 just need a nice long break from it all.

[swettannie]

try to see other mens

[noohair]

There could be issues at work that are causing stress and stress harms libido. Good luck.

[SamFromFL]

Maybe he has lost interest. Are you still attractive?

[sugarboyy]

If you don't give new excitement, this relationship will not come to life, if it has cooled down, leave it like this from the beginning, your skin harmony is here over

[varan69]

Have u seen any signs of cheating? If not ur good. Also some men get bored of the same routine even on sex so change something and like u said, spice it up for him or role play. there's can be reasons or catch him masterbating and help him or ask him to masterbate in front of u I don't know lol im sorry just trying to help. I have gone through that before
Have u asked him why he dienst want to?

[abc--123]

I can only dream of twice a month

[Anonymous]

there's something wrong with him

[Anonymous]

Polyamory, or just live with it.