Is this a common if a guy is gay?

[Anonymous]

I have a couple of gay friends and I notice that sometimes when gay men are unsure of their sexuality or not ready to come out of the closet, they will date a couple of girls first. But the relationship will end in a few months and they will say things like girls are a hassle, i would rather be alone.
I didn’t think much of this until I recently have a crush on a friend (I am not sure if he is gay or not) and he said the same things. He dated this girl for 6 months and he said girls are too troublesome, relationship is hard. Blah blah blah. And he has been single for 3 years already. And he has not expressed interest in any female so I think they he may be gay. Another thing is that when his ex pressurized him to get married his reaction was to flee as far as possible. I can understand the fear of not being ready for marriage but the way he reacted is too excessive. And he could’ve asked her to delay it if he really likes her…?

[ChrisMaster69]

The usual thing with a person is they are not 100% sure about their sexuality.

They will then date girls and either be attracted to them or not.

They will then also be attracted to guys.

Those that are attracted to both, realise they are bisexual.

Those that are not attracted to girls, will realise they are gay.

Some know and accept early on there is no attraction to the opposite gender.

For the guy you mention, he might like being single, also pressurising someone in to getting married is so wrong, little wonder he legged it.

there is also the prospect of him being Asexual or Demisexual.

[Anonymous]

Just because he i sick of the crap he has to deal with dating, cheating lying and more with women, means he would rather be alone. That doesn't mean he is gay. He would rather be alone than with you or anyone else because of the drama. (girls are a hassle I would rather be alone) is what he told you, he's being honest.

[Paris13]

And Marry Them... xx

[Tyrael]

Sounds more like he genuinely can't be fucked with dealing with relationship drama with women. After being pressured towards marriage I can't blame him. This doesn't make him gay.

[wankiam]

yeah i think thats quite common just as it is for gay girls... just part of working it out i guess

[boggboss]

U are linking preference to be single because he dont want relationship drama with assuming he is gay dont think it works like that

[AntiChrist66666]

thank u4 question! i think gay is spectrum like fat girl, butterface, hot girl, pretty boy, rugged man. it is about how gay they r. i am only gay enough to date fat girls if i am desperate

[AntiChrist66666]

i put da order wrong!!! it is hot girl, butterface, fat girl, pretty boy, rugged man

[noohair]

In these times it is difficult to navigate dating as a guy.
No one wants to be canceled, so sharing is like walking on egg shells.

[LukelyFlawd]

No. Personally, I'm straight as a pencil, but I think girls are a hassle.

[Aries_Man_90]

Probably he is questioning himself

[Anonymous]

I absolutely hate how women assume a guy is gay if he’s not in relationships or interested in women. Often a guy has a bad experience with a woman at a young age and decides to focus on himself and wait till he’s older wiser and more confident before going back out there. I hardly considered doing anything with any woman from 19-22

[Anonymous]

being gay means attraction to the same sex, your friend could be just very afraid of commitment

[Anonymous]

You’ll soon learn that most men are closet gays, and will even marry women due to societal expectations or to get kids out of her.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think so.