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What does sex mean to men? why men find women sexually attractive and not in a way of just loving them without having sex with?

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  • Hey I can't only speak for myself here but i'm hearing more and more I'm a bit different (in a good way). For me it's the ultimate expression of love in the physical form. The thing is for me it has serious human emotion behind it. But sex is not just sex to me it's love making. I know a lot of my fellow guys on here are going to maybe think it's clownish of me today. What I want is a unity and intertwining of souls. I want to look into your eyes and you looking back into mine. I want it to be as emotionally raw as it can be. We'd know what we like and what we want to give and it would be a very special thing. If she wanted it reserved for deeply romantic moments on quiet weekends together that wouldn't bother me. If she wanted it every night that wouldn't bother me either. Let me know you love me, let me know you desire me, let me know you need me, let me know I complete you, you will get all these things in return.

    • I like this 👏🏻

    • I keep saying my grandfather was a great influence and inspiration in my life. Plus Italians tend to love the romance genres of movies and music haha

    • you have honored me with the MHO, dear lady :D

  • We are visual creatures. If I have intention of loving you I will want sex. If you want someone to love you without sexual urges find a pet or hope your relatives aren't incestuous minded

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  • men are more visual characters so we like what we look at. women are more feelings.

    i heard this before, men can go from nothing to sex in 10 seconds, if they like what they are looking at they get horny. for a woman it starts way before that and the feelings that she has during the day, have they been nice to her, have they paid compliments to her etc.

  • I am more and more convinced that this is way more a ‘personal attitude’ towards relationships, love and sex than a specific ‘male vs female’ debate. There are women too that can like very much the friends with benefits concept and no-strings-attached. Only when looking for a real life best partner story women might be more ‘picky’ then men because Darwin dictates them to because they need to relay on the care provided by the male partner during child rearing.

  • To sum up and over simplify, most of us require the physical connection of sex to attribute the feelings of love towards it.

    What I mean is that sex is typically something you don't do with any random person you walk by. In most cases, sex is exclusive between you and the person you are with. It's a physical connection you share with that other person and not with others.

    Not having sex with that person at all or if there is a long span of time between sex usually gives you the feeling that not only are you not attractive to them, but also not very good at sex... And maybe they don't really like you the same way.

    I mean, if you're not having sex with one another and not sharing that close / intimate / exclusive connection with each other... Then aren't you just friends? Room-mates perhaps?

    Most women need that emotional connection with another person in order to feel love. Most guys need that physical connection to feel the emotions for that love.

    I know in the past, the more sex my partner and I had, the closer we were and the more cuddle/snuggle/romantic times occurred. When it was lacking or just non-existent, then we feel distant and the cuddling and stuff is not as common.

    And if a guy is constantly trying to have sex but is continually denied, but still expected to be close, snuggle, be romantic and all that stuff, then they will start to shut down or move on.

    There is more to it than just sex or having it. It's not about us doing all of these other things just for the "reward" of having sex in the end and feeling good due to orgasm. It's a physical connection exclusive to that other person you're sharing it all with and that kind of bond is what drives us to want to do all the other romantic and cuddly things.

    Biology and reproduction playing its game? Sure. Does it all still sound like all we want is sex? Perhaps a bit, but that's over simplifying why we want/need that sex within the relationship.

    Our brains typically work with visual and tactile stimulus. Having neither fulfilled is a lot like you not getting your romantic or emotional needs fulfilled in the relationship.

    If you're with a woman/female and care for them a lot and like to spend a lot of time with them and protect and help them, but also don't want to have sex with them, then they're a very close friend or perhaps even an adopted sister kind of thing. There is no "Love" there in "That way" because it's not really that kind of relationship.

    And I say all this as someone who has have more female friends than guy friends, and can count on one hand the amount of sexual partners I've had in my life. I wasn't friends with all these other girls because I wanted to have sex with them eventually. They were just friends, some quite close. But I did not "Love" them either.

    To be honest, there were a couple of friends I wanted to be more, but either they didn't want things to go that way, or timing wasn't right, and even some of them wanted more, but I was taken or something else got in the way... But we all still remained friends and respected each other.

    But the term "Love" is something I only reserve to those I am intimate with in a sexual way.

    Again, this is all generally speaking, not absolute and everyone is different.

  • For the guy who just gets on top of the girl is there a few pumps there's a moment when he's going to come the girl can feel it at that moment because you can feel his energy pushing inside of her it's all around her she knows for a fact that he's going to come in that moment is when 2 energys bonded. I've heard some girls call it love. Some guys call it love.
    It's not because they have never felt it before so they think that is love.
    What I don't understand is most people think that way when they feel that bonding happening at least one minute before you both going to come you feel it it's the most beautiful feeling in the world

    What I don't understand is white people week until that minute before they're going to come to actually feel it
    When I start having foreplay is when I want to feel it and I want her to feel it 2. . Because when you make that happen you're going to have the most intense the most sensual the most sexual the most seduction the most passionate the hottest breeding sex you've ever had in your life. And when you both come it has been a workout you don't say what word your eyes closed and about 30 minutes later you try to open your eyes because something is touching you on your back.
    And as you're fighting to get your eyes open you finally sit up and you realize you just had the hottest sex ever he just had the most beautiful out of Body Experience and you just lay back down and close your eyes again wait for her to wake up because she's doing the same thing.
    A lot of girls think that is love to.
    No it's called when two energies Bond become one it feels like you're floating no matter how much pressure no matter the touch it is just beautiful it can turn into a love somewhere down the road but it's just great hot sex is all of this it's meaningful sex

  • The purpose of the human race is procreation, we are programmed to instinctively mate and spread our genes. Over time we have become more civilised and our nature has calmed down some what, but when we are attracted to someone our natural urge is to have sex, it's not something we control it's just built in to us, some can control it more than others but it's there in everyone.

  • Boobs and pussy basically

  • Men's ultimate desire is to mate..

    Women's ultimate desire is to nurture..

    So men love With aim of sex.. With women..
    And women love with aim to nurture... Their children

  • I would love someone.

    • Would you still love them if they don’t wanna have sex?

    • Sure but people have needs.

  • Lol. We have no idea. Lol

  • So you want unconditional love? Ok.
    Would you be able to love somone if they did nothing for you?

  • Men DO find women attractive outside of sex.

  • I love them for their tits, nipples to suck on and a nice warm, wet place I can put my cock. I love when I can eat them, suck their clits, and when they cum.

  • No love without sex, pussy and cock are made to love, how can you avoid them

  • It's mutual, not the men but women also look for sex

  • I could love a woman without having sex with her

  • Because I love Boobies😘😘

  • There is eros love... sexual love... and there is philia love... spousal love. If your a girl, SEX is not how you'll find a spouse unless you're a lesbian. For some reason girls associate philia and eros as the same things.

  • Testosterone.

    You'll never understand

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