Does my boyfriend hate sex with me? is he gay? or am I paranoid?

[Anonymous]

Sex between us is 90% me starting it. He will have tonnes of pre cum. And need to pace to last 5 mins. It’s and on and off relationship. Sex is between once and several days in a week. And normally 1-3 times each time we see each other on those days. It’s always him that starts the second and third time etc.

He seems unbothered about starting sex with me and almost does it in a jokingly way. He masterbates a lot. I think when he’s really horny he does that. So that’s why it seems I get him somewhat horny not ragingly horny.

During our split years ago he slept with a guy. Twice. Then never agisn.

He stopped going down on me for ages. When I asked why he said do I have to every time. Then said he wasn’t in The mood to. Then would randomly do it again. Then I’d have to ask him to do it he seemed hesitant and then after said that was so much fun to do and he really enjoyed it..

Is this all normal stuff and I’m paranoid? Is he gay? Does he hate sex? Why would he do it if he does

I am a very paranoid person. I’m convinced all my friends hate me. No one could find me attractive yet I constantly have people trying with me, my friends get guys asking about me etc. People with girlfriends have told me I’m super hot. But I still think I’m so ugly and no one could fancy me or see me sexually. I’m also very much a sexual. So I don’t understand sex and if it’s good. I’m literally assuming it is because he’s pacing, and has tonnes of pre cum and every time he paced more pre cum happens. I have no clue sex wise because a lot of things do absolutely nothing for me.

[Anonymous]

To Iron_Man a guy sleeping with another man twice does not make him gay it does however make him bi-sexual but not 100% gay

to the Asker - you need to stop being so paranoid take it from me who experienced being paranoid it steals from your life and that is not a way of living being paranoid and thinking everyone hates you and that you are ugly this needs to stop NOW as for you and this guy you need to sit down with him and talk to him because at the end of the day we can all give our aspects on what could be happening but chances are we could all be completely wrong and be giving you the wrong advise so the best thing for you to do is sit down with him and have an honest conversation about all of this with him because deep down only he can tell you exactly what is going on

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and you also need to stop breaking up with him and running back to him this is not healthy in some ways it is actually toxic and it then turns people off and make them not want anything to do with you

[SnakeBoop]

LOOOOOLLL.
On and off relationship?
Girl, find some more respect for yourself.

[Asker]

To be hoenst it’s me that breaks it off all the time. I have a lot of things going on mentally so I always break up with him

[SnakeBoop]

and nothing has changed from my original comment.

[Yourfriend2021]

It seems like you have some problem thinking everyone hates you and you think you're ugly. If he is masturbating all the time , that affects how interested he is in going down on you, he would do it if he was horny.

[summiter]

It is normal for a young guy to masturbate a lot even if they are having a lot of sex. He may be bi... maybe have a long talk with him and talk about it. It is ok to talk about sex after all.

[Iron_Man]

Get rid of him he’s gay

[Asker]

Why do you think that

[Iron_Man]

Because I read what you said about him sleeping with another man twice

[Asker]

He had a long term girlfriend before me and I seen texts where he’d always go down on her and loved sex with her. So it’s just me?

[Asker]

His response to that was sleeping with a guy was fine. I wouldn’t do it again and I way prefer girls

[Iron_Man]

Nobody takes it that far

[Asker]

Can I message you

[Iron_Man]

Yes…

[B4852]

You need someone better.

[Asker]

So it’s not me being paranoid?

[Asker]

Could I message you

[Asker]

I’ve followed you

[B4852]

Sent you a message.

[jesuspp1993]

What if u try a treasome mfm?

[Anonymous]

If he's screwed another guy before then he's at least bisexual. He's not straight if he's had a male lover. That doesn't mean he's gay nor does it mean he would do it again. But he does like men. His lack of sex drive? That could be a lot of things, none of which necessarily have anything to do with you. Don't be so hard on yourself.