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To lose my virginity or not to lose my virginity?

I am 28 years old and still a virgin by choice. Not waiting for marriage. I had relationships and I was in situations where I was naked with a man in bed but it felt wrong to me because either I had a problem of trust with the person, or I did not feel a good connection or I was not sexually attracted to him. It is very rare that I am sexually attracted to a man and there were times I thought I might not be attracted to men.
The other guys in recent years have cut me off as soon as they find out I'm a virgin, which is fine and it's better for me without them. I was always debating whether I should wait or just enjoy my life, because I feel like I'm missing a lot.
I have a new crush on one of the instructors at my gym. I feel a crazy sexual attraction that I have never felt before.
I LUST for him and this feeling exited me and feels good since it's a new feeling for me.
I thought about it and said to myself the heck with it, I live only once and I want him. I just want him physically and I have no problem casually sleeping with him if he's gonna make a move.
I never talked to him but he seems in his early 20s and I really do not see an option to fall in love with him and go out with him which is great for me because it blocks me from attaching to him emotionally. I caught him looking at my body and it made me feel really good.
My dilemma is to tell someone that young that I am 28 years old and a virgin. With age it gets a little more and more awkward for me to tell that. And I do not even know if he will want to hookup with me.(men as I understand from my experience), don't want a virgin because it is less fun, and why he should be with a 28-year-old virgin when he can be with someone experienced. I'm really scared to make fun of myself because there is no way I'm gonna go back to the gym and face him afterwards.

Ps. How can I get him to approach me?
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  • To me I think it's cool that you are still a virgin I like this question cuz I have to look at it a lot of different ways. Okay first of all when I read your words I can hear your passion and your desire big time no but I need to tell you is that just because you like a guy does it mean he knows how to fuck or maybe he does but he's going to make it all about himself that's the only thing that's the only part that I dislike when I read this question because I personally want you to go to the Moon I personally want you to have the best orgasms ever and for me that would be my only goal if I was to have sex with you first of all I would make love to you slow and deep I mean slow and deep deep until I have you soaking wet. I would love to say I would pound it pound you but I can't do that because your virgin so I want you to feel it all very deep all the way to your inner core and I want you to just explode with one orgasm after the other and that's what I hope you can find it some guy that would do that for you not a guy that says okay gets on you pumps you about 10 times comes and he's done that's just wrong as far as I'm concerned Okay so let's play pretend.
    Let's pretend we hook up you don't tell me that you're a virgin we're making out during foreplay we're both naked I roll you over on top of me and I set you up on my hips and I place your pussy just right let grab my hands around your hips and I pull you forward and slow motion I didn't push you back in slow motion and then pull you forward again slow motion and Back Again slow motion until your pussy is straddling each side of my cock I would pull your hips down into mine and I would slide you even slower. I would reach up grab hold of your hair pull you down so I can kiss your lips is that our start kissing up underneath your breast and all around your breasts as my hands are still sliding forward and back and if you and if you sat up and you started moving your hips back and forth all by yourself that's when I would want you to tell me I'm a virgin that's probably what I'd grab a hold of you roll you over onto your back place the head of my cock right in your wet spot and push so slow motion took this all the way. Deep well anyway I started this answer probably about an hour and a half ago but I've had four phone calls so if you want to know more I forget which question was even about sorry about that but I'll tell you more if you want

Most Helpful Guy

  • It sounds to me like you are ready to lose your virginity, you yourself said that a lot of men do not want to deal with a virgin, they want them more experienced woman. That being said, if you find the right guy, he will teach you The things that feel best to him, he will help you experience what feels best to you. Life is short, go after what you want. I understand your trepidation But if you just stand on the sidelines looking at him, hoping that he's going to notice you and come directly to you, the odds of that are slim. I would suggest that you ask him if he wants to go out for a coffee after he gets off work. Start slowly and then you can interject that you find him attractive and be honest with him. I've saved my virginity for 28 years and I don't know what it is about you but you make me want to lose my virginity

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  • I would go for it. Do you think he is a virgin also? We all were virgins at one time. there is nothing at all to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Stock up on condoms and get to know him better.. nothing ventured nothing gained... Your thoughts?

  • Why tell him that you're a virgin? If the two of you are attracted to each other, you'll figure out what to do.

  • Don't make the same mistake I made. You can't change the course once you've made that decision. Be choosy about your first but don't let it define who you are or what your future holds.

  • Watch videos of animals having sex.

    It's really that easy.

  • First of all, why don't you go after someone who DOESN'T work at your gym? That way you won't have to create an awkward situation.

    It's perfectly reasonable to have lustful feelings for a particular person from time to time. But you don't need to dwell on them. Just shake him out of your head. Find someone or something else to focus on in the meantime. It will pass; trust me.

  • Its past time for you to lose it!!

  • I never really lost my virginity I know where it's at and who has it. I just like to say I've misplaced it. Over and over again several times so I guess it was inevitable.

  • My girlfriend was a virgin at 33, because she never felt comfortable with a guy before me. Don't be in a rush to lose your virginity. Also sex once won't make you expierenced

    • I always though I'm gonna wait for someone special but right now I really don't care. I'm not in a rush it's just an attraction I'm feeling towards him and i didn't plan it. I'm surprised myself that I have this desire and I don't even want to date him.

    • I am just saying that since it looks like you want one time sex with him, that won't make you expierenced

  • Keep it.

  • Why can't a woman approach a guy for once?

    • I did approach guys in the past but I was confident to do so because I knew I won't see them again of they will reject me. This guy works at the gym I'm going to and I'm afraid I'll embarrass myself since i don't even know if he's taken. And I probably can't make it in a cute way since I can be awkward.

    • No doubt tons of guys in the world besides me get filled with resentment and frustration on how making the first move or approaching falls on the guys shoulders

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