That’s normal to feel that way , and I don’t blame you what so ever for not going any further with him , it would be a big turn off , he is definitely someone you can’t really trust and respect considering he jumped from girl to girl , I am the same way when it comes to girls if she has a huge body count I lose interest in her and lose respect in her for the fact that she allowed her self to be used that way , it’s dirty and degrading and it lacks moral values to me I wouldn’t hate her , I just know I wouldn’t have much in common with her and , if I ended up having sex with her , she pretty much tricked me into it , considering most people don’t admit their body count and lie about who they slept with in the beginning of a new relationship so it I found out before hand I would be turned off and if I found out afterwards , I would lose respect and resent her for it , for lying to me , sadly it has happened to me , cuz again no one really tells the truth on how many people they had sex with until after the fact , once they hook line and sink ya , so you eventually would resent him and realize there isn’t really any real connection So honestly , he is better off to find someone that has about the same body count as him cuz if you push yourself to accept his body count you will feel like just another number and it will just haunt you knowing he has been with that many girls , so again you have nothing in common with him , so you are best to move on and find someone with a lower body count and has morals when it comes to sex and relationships.
As I started to read your question my mind took me in a different direction then your words ended that. I was going to be a smart-ass but must have read the whole question I said no this is pretty powerful.
I'm not going to tell you if you're making the right choices run choice because I don't know the guy
But since you are a virgin I would agree with you one hundred percent
Odds are, you would be number 41 and then there would be a number 42.
What I do hope is that when you find number one that he makes it all about you and not himself
And I hope he understands what that means.
Because that is something that is very special and the guy has to be able to make it all about the girl if he doesn't that changes the direction in a lot of different things and I think that's just wrong so forget about number 40 guy look for number one guy and hope and pray that it makes it all about you
He doesn't share the same values as you. As a virgin myself, I would not have sex or date a man who isn't a virgin, let alone a virgin who isn't waiting nor shares my values. It is not normal but people normalize having sex with whatever number. If you value the act of sex, then stop crushing on the guy and move on. Because he wants you as girl number 47 and because you are a virgin, so it is best that you move on and save your virginity for marriage with the right man who equally values his and your truly. As a "friend" he didn't need to disclose that as it is his business unless you're trying to get involved with him. Now you know, what are YOU going to do? I am just going to tell you this, you're going to find out as a virgin people have done far worse things and if you lost attraction that is a sign to move on. I personally cannot be with that kind of guy and suggest you expect him to slowly ween away until he ghosts. He needs to be with a woman who has similar experiences and does not care. Not a virgin. You're not going to really be happy with a person like that.
I’m like you so it’s really hard for me to think of sex like others can... the guy I’m seeing who is 30 years old has I’m sure a similar count as your dude. I don’t understand the thrill of casual sex, and I never will. It’s just not in my brain wiring. It was a problem for us because he was sleeping with a girl when he was consistently seeing me. This really hurt me. But he viewed it as just sex and was like “I don’t care if I stop seeing her.” This is so bizarre to me. How can someone think this way and not feel like they’re doing something a little wrong to another person? I don’t know the answer to your question because I still don’t know but if you want to save yourself some unnecessary BS I’d say leave him. I wish I left the guy I was seeing after he told me but I wanted to keep an “open mind.” I just think now it’s incompatibility. This does say a lot about a person how they just let whoever access their body and don’t value each other. At least to me it does.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Kind of makes him seem not selective, doesn't it? Like you are just one of many.
It's understandable that's not a good feeling. Especially for a virgin.
You might want to wait and find a different man to be your first. I don't see this going well.
I'm a virgin too, and for me the past does not matter. what matters is the present and the future. people have lives, and they live it before they meet us, or before they get to be with us. it is completely normal for a man to have many women in his life, and even women are very free nowadays.
the most important and how much he will be dedicated to you, and to you alone. if he loves you and is loyal, what does if matter if he has slept with so may women?
I think the most important is the character, goals, the relationship you have with him. other things matter more: is he loyal? romantic? sensitive? protective? hard working? this is what will make a difference in the long term
He's your typical player. If you like playing then go for it.
That's a LOT of pussy. I've been with around 100 women, but that is spread out over 40+ years. He's been a very busy boy. Whether or not that matters to you is up to you.
Frankly, so long as a man has never slept with another man (which is an invitation to HIV/AIDS), how many women he's been with should be meaningless.
It would be too much for me too. To each their own, but nah. I'd be grossed out.
You should be happy that he told you the truth. Honestly is a very good thing, even if the truth isn’t what you wanted to hear.
And in general, this is never a good question to ask someone. The response would almost always be hurtful.
In other words, the kind of guys you get interested in are the exact same type of guy who is heavily into casual sex. You need to be more selective if you're looking for a serious relationship.
I have a similar number and it has earned me pretty much the whole array of responses.
I met virgin girls who found it hot but I've also sat down for coffee with women who definitely looked like they want to spit it in my face after hearing that.
The two of my most recent long-term partners were virgins who didn't mind it, though.
By age 26, how many did you have?
I was at 19 by the time of my most recent relationship starting summer 2017 when I was freshly 27. It was 5 girlfriends, the rest was casual stuff. Admittedly, I haven't tried to pursue a committed relationship since early 2018 so I don't know how someone looking for something serious would react to my current number, which has since doubled to somewhere above 40.
Do you think 40+ is high for a 27 year old?
I wouldn't touch a woman like that with a stick. No reason for it to be different with men. They undermine their own ability to form long term bonds with such behavior. It makes a lot of sense to me to be instantly discouraged by that.
It doesn’t really matter if it’s normal to feel that way, if that’s how you feel about it then maybe he’s just not compatible with you. Nothing wrong with it. It’s just your preference
I'd say thats roughly average. If you're hooked on the idea of finding another virgin I'd suggest finding one quick. Tick tock
STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!! Chances are he just wants you so he can put another notch in his headboard. He obviously is a Male whore, and very likely is infected.
Have you thought about why it affects you so much to know this about him?
As response to your update: I was with my ex for eight years, no cheating. Have now been single for about a year and my body count is 50+ at 26 years old. If he's been single for the majority of his adult life, that number seems pretty reasonable.
That's fine, it's just that I'm a virgin and perceive sex to be different I guess. It's cool that people can still be faithful after the fact, I believe its possible
To give another perspective: wouldn't it be nice to have someone with experience, who knows how to treat a woman nicely and respect her body and boundaries to be your first when you are ready? Someone who is patient, considerate, has no need to rush and who can take good care of you throughout the experience. I don't know this guy, but if he does possess such qualities, wouldn't it be a shame to dismiss him based solely on the number instead of the quality of man that he is? Sex can be many different things - sure, for some it's purely carnal and physical, but it can also be deeply intimate, an emotional connection. What he gained from those connections and relations is not measured by a simple number, but how and why he chose to be sexual with those people. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, that is completely up to you. I merely hope to give another perspective to what that body count could be before you judge him. Maybe it would help you to ask him about it, let him put to words what that number means for him, so that you judge his character and intentions rather than the actions alone.
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Is that a big number to you?
Yes, that's how I would've felt.
For his age of 26, do you find it odd?
Yeah if your someone that values bodycount I would think that's normal
Would it bother you?
Only if it was with friends or family otherwise no
A female your seeing had over 40 it be ok?
40?
He's a male slut.
Do you want to be 41? How in the world could you be special?
Girl you can do better.
Virgin? You may as well give it up for your husband. 40 partners already? He is not the marrying kind.
Move on.
Promiscuous people are gross and unlikely incapable of an intimate romantic relationship.
That is very high. He must be the hook up/ONS/friends with benefits kind of person. I think you should avoid people like that if you want someone for a long term exclusive relationship.
I was trying to figure out what you meant, thinking that 40 was his BMI number... that would mean that he's a fat giant. Then, reading some of the replies, I realized that 40 is the number of his female conquests. I'm pretty sure you don't want to be number 41.
The only possible positive is that he's experienced and can teach you (since you're a virgin) but ultimately, the decision is yours.
It's normal. The way people talk about having a "body count" like it's a good thing is, frankly, horrific.
If you've watched "Friends" when Monica is talking to Richard about his past and he tells her he's only slept with two women - her and his ex-wife - because he's only slept with women he's been in love with, she's mortified. The gang are a few years older than me and the series tried to normalise sexual promiscuity. It went a long way to succeeding, but in the end all of them were really looking for their one true love. The only one who wasn't in a long term relationship by the last episode was Joey - the most promiscuous one of the group.
I'm proud of my count. Three. I've never slept with a girl I didn't expect to spend the rest of my life with.
Frankly I don't respect boys who think it's an accomplishment to have persuaded high numbers of women to sleep with them. It shows very low moral integrity.
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