Girls, have you ever slept with a man who was 10+ older? what was that like?

[Anonymous]

[SitBackRelax]

This was addressed as a question to women so I can’t speak for them but as a man, of the 4 women I’ve slept with, 3 of the 4 were all in their early to mid 20’s and anywhere between 15-20 years younger. I don’t say this to brag nor did I even seek out women in this specific age range. What it simply comes down to is that so many younger women appreciate being respected and treated as a human being. Unfortunately they rarely are ever treated this way or cherished by guys their own age. The women I have been with in which I still love all of them, value maturity and a guy who treats them right. So not objectifying them sexually but actually making love to them, not requiring them to change their body to fit some porn look or unrealistic standard of beauty by having them shave their bush off, enhance their breasts, etc. Also, the women I’ve been with and love value a guy who is older because he will generally encourage a younger women to look within herself and all her potential. He will encourage her to live her dreams and not try to hold her back as a little bimbo. It’s simply about the respect and love they get from guys 15+ years older in general vs the dehumanization and unwillingness to have feelings, a relationship, or even marriage from younger immature guys.

[SitBackRelax]

I might also add that older guys in general try and fulfill women sexually and not just get themselves off. Also, there is the aspect of encouraging a younger woman to freely think for herself and be the person she wants to be.

[Asker]

Wow you just explained it really well and so truthfully. I agree with every word you said. Do you think men like younger women also?

[SitBackRelax]

Thank you :) Yes, men like younger women. Absolutely. For me it isn’t so much because she is “fresh” or some nonsense like that. It’s more the personality and attraction. The saying that goes, if you like someone then age isn’t a factor. Within reason. Younger than 18 is obviously a deal breaker. For me she must be legally an adult and open enough to the reality of adult life. Sorry for the long winded answer but I am trying to articulate my mindset the best I can over text 😂 I have a lot more I could say in this topic too

[susie22]

I did once, when I was barely 17. I was watching a neighbor's home and feeding his dog when he was away (he was a pilot, my dad's age at the time, 44). He told me I could use his pool, and one day I went to walk and feed the dog, and felt like a swim, and he wasn't due home until the following day, I didn't have my swimsuit, so I took everything off and got in the pool. About 15 minutes later, I was getting out of the pool, my back to the house, and as I turned to walk in the house, he walked out the door. We both just stopped in our tracks, I was totally naked, and he just said "hi, this is a really nice surprise", and he took my hand and we went inside. Actually he was a pretty hot guy, so I didn't resist or cover up, and he asked if I had a boyfriend, and I told him nothing steady, and he said he couldn't believe that. I noticed he had a serious erection, and he caught me looking, next thing I knew I was in his arms, and then on his bed. He did use a condom, and it was my first "actual" sexual intercourse, and at first it hurt, but then I couldn't get enough. We had sex for a couple hours, and he taught me a lot, but we agreed it was a one time only, and we never spoke about or did it again.

[SitBackRelax]

Sounds very erotic and like every boys dream. The bad part however is that he took advantage of an underage girl. Had you have been 18 you could have legally consented.

[susie22]

@SitBackRelax Afterwards we both talked about the implications while we were still naked in his bed, and we agreed that it was v very bad idea on both sides. Then he got back on top of me and we had another round, lol. I know it was stupid, even a danger, but he used a condom and I was already on B/C, so I don't regret doing it, he taught me a lot about sex and it made things a lot better and less awkward when I finally had sex with a guy I was dating. We never spoke about it or had sex again, but I know we both enjoyed the one time we did.

[SitBackRelax]

I get it and don’t fault you. :) Sex is awesome, even when it’s not right. It’s a powerful mental and physical transaction that makes us feel amazing.

[susie22]

@SitBackRelax I know now it was a monumentally bad choice, but I think it really helped me to become a very confident woman, and I learned how to enjoy sex, much more so than I think I would've been able to learn with guys my own age.

[WinterWind]

One who barks, it doesn't bite

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is 22 years older then me and we have sex on a very regular basis. I love it. He's way more experienced and knows what he's doing way more than guys my age I slept with. He's also a lot more interested in also fulfilling my sexual needs and not just being lazy when it comes to my pleasure. Also, thus far him getting hard has never been a problem (which makes me feel very good).
Maybe it's just the one older guy I've had sex with, but based on my experience they're WAY better in bed then younger guys/guys my age

[kyleelyn199723]

I mean my boyfriend is pretty close to that mark. We have a 9 year age gap

[FreshHell2990]

I have the same but 15 years younger.

[kyleelyn199723]

@freshhell2990 well that would mean you are dating a minor 😕

[FreshHell2990]

@kyleelyn199723 well in my current residence, the age of consent is 14

[kyleelyn199723]

Ahhh different country I guess

[FreshHell2990]

Yep. DM and I can give you more detail

[AmandaYVR]

Yep. Was in a 3 yr relationship with him.
It was good. He was energetic. And no erectile issues at all. (I'm pretty sure that's what you're asking.)

But I did break up with him shortly after he got aggressive with me one time. I don't think that necessarily had to do with him being so much older. But I'll never know.
Lots/most guys nowadays seem to think aggression and even some violence is perfectly ok. It is not. Fuck that shit. I didn't love him anymore after he did that.

[SitBackRelax]

Erectile disfunction should never be an issue for any man at any age. As long as he eats right (LDL vs HDL and calcium absorption K2) and maintains good arteries. Erectile disfunction means he’s about to have a stroke or heart attack because it’s a deeper underlying issue that viagra won’t fix, just masking a symptom of a much bigger issue.

[AmandaYVR]

@SitBackRelax Sometimes. If the cause is physiological. But you also have to include psychological. Nervousness, porn addictions, etc.

[SitBackRelax]

All very true points. Thank you

[SitBackRelax]

I also have to 100% agree with you on the violence and aggression aspect. While men are naturally wired to be more aggressive, is for the very protection of his woman and children from the threats of the world. Such aggression should never be within the home or in the bedroom against the one he is supposed to love and protect with his life. Due to porn and the 50 shades mentality of today, violence and manhandling during sex (the deepest act of love toward one’s woman) has not only become common among younger and middle age men but it is celebrated and encouraged through pop culture. No self respecting woman should ever tolerate this. It’s horrid to hear of women being choked, slapped, beaten, ejaculate on her face, shocked, threatened, cut, etc during an act in which she should be comfortable, pleasured, loved, and such. Violence toward women and controlling is intolerable in any situation.

[AmandaYVR]

@SitBackRelax I am right there with ya on that. I get a lot of pushback on this but I agree with you. Though I will say, there is some nuance to all this. A spank on the bum is way different than cuming on the face.

[SitBackRelax]

I agree. Yes a simple matter of play (understood by both as harmless) maybe a very lite pat on the butt while she is doing cowgirl or when he is walking by or on top during missionary that says “I love the naughty you” is just fine. But it shouldn’t be painful or degrading and both should agree at the beginning of their relationship where those boundaries are. There isn’t anything wrong with a little fun and naughty adventure together. But there is a line between that and abuse/degrading/dehumanization.

[SitBackRelax]

I’ve never understood cumming on a woman’s face. The closest I have ever been to getting my semen on a woman’s face is when I pulled out once to release on the bush and to both our surprise the first spurt went further than expected when it hit her neck to which I felt so so bad. She was so good and understanding knowing it was innocent. She just laughed. After some tissues it was just fine. Cumming on the bush is one thing because it gets naturally all messy down there for both anyway but again, there’s just some lines I won’t cross.

[AmandaYVR]

@SitBackRelax What about a guy grazing a knife against the skin of his girl? (I'm pretty sure I have some idea how you feel about this but I'd like to hear it in your own words.)

[SitBackRelax]

Anything dealing with a knife or threat of using one, even for a mock-up play in a relationship or intimate moment is bordering on dangerous ground. The very idea of playing it out to me means that it’s a scenario the person has gone over in their head and to some degree tolerate or are permissive about it. I’d be very concerned. Same thing goes for mock-up rape fantasies.

[SitBackRelax]

I’ve been told by a few younger guys here on GAG that I sound boring or I’m too vanilla. I’ll take that as a complement to know that the women I’ve been with know they are safe with me and there’s nothing vanilla or boring about connecting with a woman on such a deep level that you both go to heaven and back together each time you make love.

[AmandaYVR]

@SitBackRelax He drugged her. She was not permissive at all. It was traumatizing. He did probably plan it. Totally agree. Me too, on the vanilla. I am not. And I am not intimidated by the attempted insult. Vanilla is also different than starfish. Actually, these people who use violence and aggression... they are more likely to be the ones with issues. Fear of intimacy, for one. Control issues. Resentment towards the opposite sex. Possessiveness. Narcissism. Etc etc. It's a big topic.

[SitBackRelax]

Right there with you. It’s too bad more people can’t just be open about sexuality and help steer one another in a more healthy direction of truth. There is so much fulfillment when sex is healthy and loving vs people who want to act out a porn scene.

[SitBackRelax]

When I referred to being permissive, I’m referring to the one committing the act with the knife. Meaning they are permissive that it’s somehow ok to behave the way they are. That in and of itself is dangerous

[AmandaYVR]

@SitBackRelax Yeah I thought that might be what you meant. But it's not really the right use of the word. It had volition. Consciousness. It's much, much, worse than being permissive.

[SitBackRelax]

Yeah, I can see what you mean. My apologies. That’s not something easy to get over and trust again.

[chrissykerdock]

older guys love their blowjobs but will have you do it in a more respectful way basically they just want it swallowed where younger guys want to degrade you... older guys are more clean cut and dont't take drugs as much... also they take you to dinner and better dates... with covid a lot is challanged of course... and did i say older men are respectful they're human's too so they will ask for blowjobs and intercourse

[SitBackRelax]

I am all about vaginal intercourse and making love. Blowjobs have never been my thing.

[chrissykerdock]

@SitBackRelax intercourse will leave you pregnant and most likely a single mom... if a man was really interested he'd agree to a blowjob which can be very intimate and i'd more so than intercourse because cum enters your mouth... and it's really selfish to blowjobs aren't your thing it's like having no regard for a girl

[SitBackRelax]

I disagree. No regard for a woman is having her take something into her mouth made for her vagina and for the pleasure of him exclusively. If I have intercourse with a woman I will most likely pull out and ejaculate on her bush unless she asks or begs me to ejaculate inside her vagina because she’s on BC copper IUD, etc. No matter what though, I won’t ever have sex with a woman that I don’t intend to stick by her side fully and be a father should she become pregnant. That’s the difference

[chrissykerdock]

@SitBackRelax and when you get them pregnant i bet you run so far away and fast... your just all about yourself and could care less about a girl

[SitBackRelax]

You are assuming and judging me based on nothing! You don’t know me or what I might or might not do. I stated very clearly that I (being one of only a few men) would for certain stick around and father my child. I would never leave a woman alone with my child. That’s not who I am. I’m also one of a few men left in this world willing to marry and commit. So please don’t just assume the worst of me because I actually want to make love to a woman the natural and respectful way. I’m not out choking women, playing the 50 shades bs, doing anal, cumming on their face and in their mouth. You want to talk about “selfish” or having “no regard” for a woman as you mentioned earlier? Well the things I mentioned above that younger guys do to women now days based on porn and violent video games is about as low as it gets!

[katiesmuff]

Yes I have! What would make it any different, his dick got hard, it was fun to suck and he fucked me just fine. I just don't get this dumb idea that if the guy is more than a couple years older it will be ucky!

[Laura456]

No, but I've thought about it, as in for like a moment to see if that could even be possible, since I was attracted to him.

[elizamichale1]

Yea many times

[gangster123]

I am 35 but I have slept with 20 year old..

[Samantha_17]

Yes, he was much older.

[FreshHell2990]

That’s great to hear. See you under 18?

[Samantha_17]

Nope.

[FreshHell2990]

Lmao I meant to ask “were* you under 18”?

[Anonymous]

No but I sleep with couple of women 10 years older and plus.

[Anonymous]

I’ve got with a guy 8 years older, it’s the best guy I’ve ever had till this day.

[Anonymous]

Nay.